how to act with this libra guy ?

I met a libra guy in june was just sex we didnt want something serious .After 1 month he told me he wants to live his life i said ok anyway we just have sex on weekends after few days he tells me when he is drunk that he wants more.He seems more open to me when he is drunk but then next day he would deny all saying "i was drunk dont listen me" .Last month i found out that we were in a serious relationship but small changes i met on weekends his friends, we went in club together not just meeting at 3-4 am for sex and sleep together , the Sundays we spent together ..but not during the week ..Now strangely he acts weird his best friend broke up with his gf and im sure that guy tells him that relationships sucks all kind of negative stuff ..He told me today he still thinks about his ex gf who played him and he loved her ..he still compares the moments (i guess the moments spent with me and the moments with her ) he doesnt want something serious , he is sure he will not fall in love again coz ppl just once in life fall in love .lol. also he doesnt want to lose me ..Im good person and i was TOO GOOD to him ..and he likes me as person , he cares about me ..and he cannot understand how i showed him affection and i kept dating him while he was distant to me ...He knows he asked me to be patient and now ..Im just confused ..i told him we would meet like treetrunk buddies , but when i find another guy we'll stop . He doesnt want me to be distant to him but he can be distant to me.thats selfish.Seemed when he was drunk he was open to me saying he is afraid that i will leave him for a better looking guy, he was even crazy jealous when a guy talked to me , he always told me i can find anytime another guy (being afraid of), he said he wants love, he wants serious with me , he loves me , but when its sober he denies all..He doesnt want to lose me but also he doesnt want something serious he just wants to be free but have me there too ..Can someone give me some advices please? can i get this guy into me and how?

What about being fuckbuddies?

how does he feel about being fb? Is this what you would like?

It's complicated as i said he wants to be with me but he wants to be free too ..he didnt like when i said "oh to be again fb " He wants me to be his gf but not serious ..When i acted independent he was that telling me that he wants serious now when he saw me involved and that i love him he pull back ..I guess he is attracted of those kind of girls who treat him indifferent.. Coz like this his ex gf did She had 3 other guys at same time and he loved her like a crazy lol ..and the girl before he was with she was good as he said like me and he didnt care about her ..People say to be indifferent to him , but no one gives details like how should i act indifferent? to not be available all the time , or? and when im with him should i show i care about him ?

And yes for the moment i like to be fb but i'd like to know the secret how to get him involved , to fall in love with me .

He only admits having feelings for you only when he is drunk & you still want him? Make him an alcoholic then-stock up some booze or build a mini bar in your house, that'll keep him 'in love' fo sho. They say the way to a man's heart is through his stomach..serve that boy a martini!

Jokes aside, he sounds like a loser. I mean if he only 'loves' you when he is drunk, what does he say he feels for you when he is sober? Hate? Also remember what they say about alcohol, it fools people..it can turn Whoopie into Haley Berry so make sure this guy's feelings are genuine & not the booze talking. I think he already told you the truth, though. Didn't he tell you NOT to believe the stuff he says when drunk? You think that was a lie or 'shyness'?

Posted by maybemex
And yes for the moment i like to be fb but i'd like to know the secret how to get him involved , to fall in love with me .

There's no 'secret' to making a person fall in love. It's either they are or they are not. Do you know that song by Ciara? 'If that boy don't love you by now, he will never ever love you'. Just remember that.

I said i think when he is drunk is open to me ..yes im not agree a guy to tell me his feelings only when he is drunk , when he is sober he tells me he cares about me, and as i feel i think he is afraid to get involved coz if he will love me i will do same as his ex gf did ..leave him for another one ..thats why he is distant to me when is sober.When i told him yesterday then we break up if he doesnt want something serious he wasnt agree saying "but i care about you and i like u as person" ..I dont get it why if i act indifferent he's into me , and why if i show him love he pulls back ?

And btw i dont hate him ...i dont want to take my revenge .

My fault was when i started to care about him i acted needy ...i think this thing scares him ..but he wants to continue to be together , and to go with him and his friends to have fun, usually on weekends they meet at a guy's home and they have a drink talking ..also he wants me there too ..its confusing ..

Plus he is that one calling me everyday , few times a day , maybe i call him once a week ..

I'm thinking again if i will start to treat him like i did at the beginning he will come again and say to me "i want more , something serious " ..

Posted by maybemex
I said i think when he is drunk is open to me ..yes im not agree a guy to tell me his feelings only when he is drunk , when he is sober he tells me he cares about me, and as i feel i think he is afraid to get involved coz if he will love me i will do same as his ex gf did ..leave him for another one ..thats why he is distant to me when is sober.When i told him yesterday then we break up if he doesnt want something serious he wasnt agree saying "but i care about you and i like u as person" ..I dont get it why if i act indifferent he's into me , and why if i show him love he pulls back ?

LOL, you seem to have all the answers as to why he acts the way he does, so maybe you should also find an answer to why he is not in love you yet. The thing is, you're making guesses here...doesn't mean all reasons you mentioned are facts. Do you have a PHd? Your analysis of his behavior is interesting. Another thing is, when people are really in love they take risks. They forget past hurts & hope this time it works out. Many (healthy) people have been hurt in the past, but they don't let that hinder their ability to love again. People with 'issues' let everything get in the way. Also people who aren't serious make excuses for their behaviour, they always blame it on something. I think he just wants sex & all this 'I like you as a person' bs is just an open sesame to get between your legs. He knows you'll give it up if he admits to just a tiny bit of feelings & so far he is correct. It's sad that it only takes an 'I like you' to keep you in this 'relationship'.

Posted by maybemex
I'm thinking again if i will start to treat him like i did at the beginning he will come again and say to me "i want more , something serious " ..

That's playing games. It's an act. Do you want to be in a relationship that requires you to be 'in character' for it to work? Is being distant your style ? It obviously isn't from where I'm sitting. Whatever rocks your boat. Play on player.

It doesnt bother me to have just sex with him , i see how he acts and i know a person how acts when is in love , but when i tell him "ok then just sex " then comes that part "but i dont want only sex , i want you to be my gf" lol . i know this sounds crazy .Seems he doesnt know what he wants..And as i said before in my first text his best friend who is the god for him broke up with his gf , so since then "my" guy acts weird ..they go to parties together he is ok if i go to the clubs with my friends or with his friends and then he calls me during that night acting jealous (ofc being drunk)..another friend of him will go soon in england now "my " guy said yesterday to me when he said he wants just to be with me but not serious "that he wants to make his life , and go in england too ..Seems that what his friends do like this he acts .I never met this kind of guy thats why im here idk what to think .. I said ok i will be with him detaching of him, till i find another one ..
And no im not that kind of girl acting distant if the guy is nice ..But seems with this kind of guy i can only be a player ..
what is weird why then he doesnt say he wants just sex? like he had with girls before me after he broke up with his ex...Why he calls me every day telling me about his day how went ..about his problems ..i dont get it ..

He just wants sex, he knows that if he tells you that, you may walk away eventually and he wants to keep you around just incase he doesn't find the soulmate he is looking for. Librans don't make up there minds easily, with some Librans you just have to walk away and leave them and let them come to the realization that they actually need you in their lives no matter how long it takes. If they feelings are really there, they will come back around and when they do it will be for good. Once you hook a Libran male they don't tend to ever leave you, they will stay through thick and thin.