libra disapear reapears cares doesnt care!

i met this libra guy about 3 years ago wen he asked for my number. First time we met up things went a bit fast bt i thought ok nvm..nx day i rang him he was like im busy at work etc so i thought ok deleted his number n thought he didnt care. 2 months later he txt me saying "even if i dnt ring u u can stil ring me u know"i didnt even no hu it was so ignored it. then he txt agen month later saying " look im sorry wt i did was wrong i cudnt bring myself 2 say it bt im sorry i sed OK dont mater he sed wna meet up? i sed oK met up agen had gr8 time etc..

neway i was seeing him on and off.. more off becuase he drops me home then doesnt ring for 9 weeks 4 weeks 3 months and i dnt bother 2 ring or txt either cz i dnt like chasing ppl!! this went on for ages.... den last year i met another guy hu liked me for about 1 n half years n i thought seeing as this libra guy isn't so interested and has never sed nething about making me his girlfriend he obv just using me. So i went on a date n my car was parked outside this guys house.... like last yr somtime.... n my libra guy went past n nx day he rang me n he was soo upset like hw can u do this to me?wtf? thats my m8.... i didnt know the guy was his m8... so n e how he also txt me n sed I HAD PLans 4 us..bt ur shagging my m8 nw so bye..so then i realised the other guy was too much headache n drama i got rid of him n got bk with my libra guy...

the problem is i only see this libra guy like once a month or somthing stupid....wen i ring hes so uninterested in conversation sometimes.... hes so hot and cold..last yr he asked if i wana go on hol bt i we go we'l prob com bk maried....then somtimes dnt even txt 2 ask how i am.

hes so hot and cold n ignores me but wen he sees me hes so attentive like on my birthday was so sweettt n kind. but now its like he pulls back jst wen were moving forward..i think he doesnt trust me nemore cz i went out with his friend.

my question is ive bin with him for 3 yrs now but stupidly only seen him 8 times this whole year lol.....wen hes heard ive given my number 2 som1 else which i actualy didnt he gets sooo angry n jelous.... bt like this moment ive nt heard frm him in 3 weeks 😢 y do libras act like this— couple months ago my friend asked him am i his gf n he sed ur my special friend.. then wen we were huging i sed do u like me he sed yeh theres no1 i link how i link u......im soo confused he dont even have time for me makes plans doesnt turn up hes so strange! is this typical l

um. can somebody translate that?

Very good LadyLibra I agree with it all but can you explain more on the last line? "Another thing: if you Libra *has* decided that he doesn't want to be with you, do NOT try to use emotional appeals or emotional manipulation. Libras do not respond positively to that.

Yes to add to Sag's request for elaboration I have a follow-up Q... If Libras do not respond positively with emotional appeals how should a woman treat her Libra man so she gets him back to wanting her again?

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Posted by Sag_Cap_Beauty*Cusp
Very good LadyLibra I agree with it all but can you explain more on the last line? "Another thing: if you Libra *has* decided that he doesn't want to be with you, do NOT try to use emotional appeals or emotional manipulation. Libras do not respond positively to that.

A lot of people will try to touch our emotions in order to get us to not be upset with them or to be friends again. This can happen in a number of ways. For instance, someone could cry, beg, and pull out all of the stops to try to guilt us into taking him or her back even we we know that we shouldn't. Or, someone who is going through a rough time could try to make us pity them and get us back that way. Both of those things will probably backfire and just make a Libra *more* angry.

Basically, what I'm referring to is when people try to use emotional manipulation or else emotional displays to persuade a Libra to reconsider a decision. It just doesn't work. It might occasionally work the first time, but once we see through this, it won't work again.

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Soo true i remember one of my ex's grabbing a knife and saying he was going to slit his wrists if i wouldnt take him back, I just told him that that is a clean knife and i have just mopped the floor so could he go do it elsewhere, the shocked look on his face was hillarious.

thanks everybody for your comments......

well im a aries so we are Suppose* to be a good match. butim impatient i have to wait ten years for a reply

well the last thing that happened is I txt him about 4 wks ago jst something general about wot hapened that day and he replied saying "oh hi im just in canada....... im sorry 2 hear about that etc" so i thought huh? he goes to cananda n doesnt even tell me. then i didnt say nethin just replied generaly n he replied 2.On the sat night he txt me to say miss u etcc call u wen i get bk on mon i thought OK. n replied bk

then wen he got bak i called him twice n txt him bt he didnt reply! n since then i txt him once to say im leaving the city cz ive got a new job n he didnt reply

then i txt him 2 say todays the day im leaving he txt bk n sed wot time u leaving then after that he didnt even reply. n i neva saw him

but then 2 weeks ago as i com bk 2 our city on the weekends I bumped into him in a club n hes like oh my fones not workinggg i tried 2 reply n he was all over me like hugging holdin me kissing me etc n i thought wtf? he dnt answer my txt dnt reply i leave the city dnt c me bt hes all over me.

n since then ive not heard nothing i txt him once realy late at night n hes not replied!!

i dnt know if hes coming or going my friends say hes using me i think hes confused n dnt knw whether to pursue a relationship cz i messed up by linking his friend last yr. once the trust is broken with a libra wil be eva trust me agen? n i only went out with another guy ( hu turned out to be his friend) because he neva made it clear i was or was not his g/f. I just want him 2 say im his girlfirned but hel will freeze b4 that happens. the most i eva got him 2 say b4 was he realy likes me n theres no girl he sees most of the time like me. N once i txt him n sed i like u n he replied i like u 2.

oh yeh more couple of months ago he sed... u knw wt u have never eva remembered my bday. I knw his bday nw cz hes on my fb friends n its coming up in few weeks so i was thinkin maybe i shud get him a real nice expencive present bt then i thought hes bin ignoring me so long n if i ask him 2 meet up he sez hes comin n doesnt turn up. so i realised from reading thee forums is he cant say no wen i ask him 2 meet up cz thats jst wt there like hey.

im just thinking maybe im txting n ringing 2 much maybe i shud just leave it now until he txt or rings me he mite think im chasing him 2 much or i cud allow contact til his bday n get him something? wot do ppl suggest?? ne libra guys got an opinion or ppl bin in this situation??

pandoras box u called me poopa scoopa dats wot he calls me lol

well i took on's every1s advice and i just pay him som attention not all the time but sometimes. I give him his space and I dont stress if he leaves the country without telling me as thats how they r....

and i also realised in the past I have been hot and cold and thats y he has been hot and cold
so I read up about libras n how to seduce a libra n i realised i hav 2 boost his ego n talk about things first n he prefers to agree than bring up a subject himself. So now I boost his ego by giving such nice compliments and I even told him i wanna marry him by text he sed " dunno id have 2 think about it" and on the weekend sed " yeh im suppose 2 ask u 2 marry me not u" and i sed will u ask me one day and he sed yes

neway ive been seeing him on and off for 3 n half years and just on saturday he confirmed! IM his girlfriend!! so happy days
hes also invited me abroad with him.

so all this hot and cold business has been hard work waiting for him to txt n call for weeks and months but its DEFINATLY worth the wait. Libras r amazingggggg.

thank u every1 for your comments.

The happy ending.

I'm baffled. A guy you've been seeing on and off for three years.. and admittedly only EIGHT times this year... a guy who wouldn't openly declare you are his girlfriend (which then caused you to go out with someone who turned out to be his friend?).. you weren't technically even in a relationship, he's hot and cold, back and forth -- so sweet and charming and lovey-dovey when he's with you, but seems to totally forget about you when he's not... and now (in a week's time??) you're "boosting his ego" by telling him you want to MARRY him cuz he made you his girlfriend at last? Really? God, Aries chick.. slowwwwww dowwwwwwwwwwn.. just a tad, please. Your intensity is gonna send him for the hills. Try being his actual girlfriend for awhile, before planning that wedding in your head. He's still "trying you on for size".. seeing if you're a good fit as a partner... that's not a proposal, and you aren't out of the woods yet. Aries-Libra tends to be a VERY difficult match; most opposite pairings are. Yes, they CAN work beautifully, but generally, most people aren't willing/able to make the HUGE compromises/sacrificing necessary with someone SO very different from them.

This is not a happy ending yet; you'll see. Mark my words. And I suspect you'll be back soon enough with another post on some silly thing he did that set you off into an emotional meltdown and left him cold and unmoved.

Oh, btw.. going out with another guy wasn't the mistake.. Mr. Libra knows very frickin' well that he made no commitment to/with you, knows very well that seeing you so rarely is NOT a relationship... the mistake came in when YOUR reaction to it made him realize it was a very big deal indeed. See, Libras like to be fair, balanced.. they try so hard to see all the angles... and a lot of times, if something upsets or hurts them, they watch YOU for cues on how upset or hurt they SHOULD be. If you stand your ground because you did nothing wrong... a Libra eventually realizes that they logically should not be upset, because you had legit, justifiable reasons for doing what you did AND you weren't being intentionally manipulative. YOU obviously acted guilty over going out with another guy, so Libra thinks, "Aha! Caught her, she was thinking she was being all smart and slick, but was probably trying to make me jealous by dating my friend. Not cool." ({-- THAT looks like emotional manipulation to a Libra!)

Posted by TasteOfChaos
She needs to be the girl he first fell in love with... THATS the girl who got the Libra in the first place... and THATS the girl who will keep the Libra

We HATE emotional manipulation/mind games... We can see straight through them and it makes us angry!

Also.. this is SO MUCH GOLD it needs to be engraved. On a plaque. If the spark dims, if Libra's hot-n-cold... something changed... likely YOU.. so get back to that girl that originally knocked his socks off.. you know, the fun, happy girl who had her own life and didn't need to know where he was every second, the sweet, funny, playful one who made him tingle when he was with her, and stayed on his mind when they were apart.... the one who still looks at him like he was her Hero, and trusted him to do right by her without her acting like she must convince or fight this man for her right to be treated as special.

WELL nefer....u havent got the story properly i only sed bits of it on this cuz otherwise it wud be too long...

ive only seen him 8 times this year because he own 4 businesses 3 abroad n hes always busy has 140 staff and im not really allowed so much cz i life with som traditional parents!

i didnt boost his ego by telling him i wanna marry him!. i asked him n it was by mistake by txt cuz my friend wrote it frm my fone 4 a joke 2 him n it got sent by mistake then i thought leave it see wt he says...n he sed " what really" then he sed " i duno id have 2 think about it" then i sed no my friend sent it he sed "oh so u didnt send it"

and then wen i saw him last week i sed 2 him remember wen i asked u 2 marry me and u sed no and he sed yeh i remember..."im suppose 2 ask u" then i sed r u gna ask me 1 day n he sed yeah i will

nehow im not chasing him like a lunatic..hes the 1 hu mentioned marriage in the 1st place last year wen he asked me 2 com abroad and he sed but if we go we prob come bk married n i was like :O n i never sed nething cz i really werent too sure about him. So he brought up marriage first.

now hes sed u dnt have 2 work just chill quit ur job u sed u were gna quite neway n start up ur own thing. Then i sed hw many kids do u want n he sed 3 n i sed wel i want 4 n he sed OK lol

neway i boost his ego by making him feel like hes the only guy in my life like wen he sed u prob see other good looking guys and I sed No ur the best looking y am i standing here with u if i like other guys. i only like U. n u cud tell he was so boosted. things like this i didnt do in the past.

After reading up about Libras I finally realised he was only being hot n cold cz i was being on and off.

When he saw my car outside his friends house wen i met his friend he sed he was so upset he went home n went sleep n he sed how cud u do this to me. I DIDNT use manipulation i told him straight wt planet r u on? i bin with u on and off for years yu neva asked me 2 b ur girlfriend n if u wanted me 2 b then u wudve asked. N he txt me n sed yeah i WAS gona ask u 2 b mine i had plans for u then i just confirmed lisen im sory but u need 2 make things clear!!

oh well at least he finally sed it now 3 n half years later

Very good then.. I'm glad it's working out for you and your happiness makes me feel all smiley! And as you can see - even if a guy is very, very busy in his life.. if he truly wants you, he WILL make it very clear. Excuses for a guy not stepping up are just that -- excuses. They WILL step up when they really want to be with you, no matter what's going on in their lives! Just remember it won't ever be EASY between you two (you know that already, I think lol) and so don't be shocked or upset when everything doesn't suddenly GET easier because you're official now. Have faith, keep working at it... and yes -- stay the same girl he fell in love with! (And GAH, yes.. that "mirroring" thing... when my Libra's acting out of sorts.. I try to look at MY behavior lately... was *I* feeling distant and pulling away? Was *I* subconsciously angry or upset about something? Are we mirroring each other again? Well STOP IT, woman! lol)

Also.. I didn't say you WERE manipulating him by dating that other guy.. only that a Libra might see it that way.. they really, really hate emotional manipulation. Asking him what planet he's on to think he has any right to complain was good LOL No, it doesn't magically "fix" when they're jealous or upset... but they KNOW when they have no logical right to be (even though emotions aren't logical and you can't help what you feel)... but standing your ground when you know you did nothing wrong will keep it from getting worse. Obviously he was not ready to step up and make it official last year.. and he feels ready NOW.

P.S. Oh Lordy.. your friend sounds a bit nuts... I would NEVER take it upon myself to mess with a friend's guy like that, not even as a "joke" or whatever! Oy! Don't let her get her hands on your phone any more.. she's obviously not one to think things through or care how things can get messed up for YOU cuz of what SHE does!