Virgo moon - the glass bubble?

Does anyone else with a Virgo moon sometimes feel like there are some days where you can be in tune with emotions but try to dissect them logically, and then there are other times when you feel like you are in a glass bubble watching everyone else's emotions overflow and fill an entire room? Emotional occurrences make me feel uncomfortable 9 times out of 10, especially if they involve me and put me in the spotlight. I like to analyze but never want to be in the spotlight. My Libra ascendant takes over once I know people and I can let go and be free and at that point I love the spotlight, but I am cautious and aware when strangers are around. It is slightly annoying. Like having two people in one. I feel very aware most of the time, and I want to just let go and NOT be so aware because depending on the circumstance it can be overwhelming...like I said...being in a glass bubble while everyone else is oblivious OR overflowing with emotions. It's a frustrating placement to have for me at times, but I do appreciate it. I like being analytical.

Another conflict (more of a humorous one) is I tend to be an "organized chaos" type of person with things thrown everywhere yet I still know exactly where they are, but then I have fits of cleanliness (typically late at night) where all of a sudden I am completely irritated and frustrated at the mess around me and wonder how I became so inefficient/messy. Then I begin to reorganize and clean until it is finished and looks nice again and then I feel a sense of completion and satisfaction.

Posted by PV&Jellay
My friends would get all excited about things I found trivial. I wanted to feel excited too because they were, but I just didn't feel it. It's like being in church and having everyone feel the holy ghost but you. Happens to me a lot though. LOL.

+1!!!! YES! This is so incredibly relevant. Literally like a glass bubble! You see it all happening around you and it's passing you by almost. When I was younger my parents would ask if I was grateful for anything they did for me, which I was of course, but they said I didn't show it... I didn't understand, how does one show gratefulness? Of course, I learned how to react, but sometimes it is hard to "feel" things. It's like being made of rock at times, and yes the self-awareness is very irritating for me as well...

So strange. My one friend even calls me cold-hearted, a black heart. LOL she says it all in good fun, but she said she can tell I don't have much emotional responses. She says she worries about me because she's scared I'll never learn to feel anything, LOL. I do feel things of course...I'm human, but it's almost like at times everything is dulled.

@PV I so relate! Yes yes and yes to both comments. I am all about debate and mental stimulation more so than emotional stimulation. My perception is Virgo moon people ARE the lonely people in a crowded room. That's how I feel sometimes. Granted my rising Libra can take over sometimes too, but other times (recently especially) I am so self-aware that a crowded room makes me uncomfortable and I'm lonely because I see everyone else having fun and I'm just watching it happen.

With regards to the exaggerating to make others feel like its normal, I have tried that too and it seems to work but like you said it doesn't feel sincere. as for my parents, I agree they must have an emotional moon because they are Libra and Aqua. My dad (Aqua) was the one who always appeared to be the most angry when I didn't show appreciation, but it was a cold anger (not very emotional- but I knew he was angry). Occasional comments were made which of course I rebutted.

@Ksam, I am the same way w grieving. My grandma passed and she was extremely influential in my life (Libra). She raised me while my parents had to work full time to move us out of a bad neighborhood (murder capital of US at the time) before I started school. She had such a profound impact on me and taught me much of the foundation of what I knew and also inspired me to start violin at only age 4 🙂 she taught me piano, math, how to write, read and more all before school even began for me. I knew how to spell chrysanthemum at age 3!!! when she passed....it was so hard. I did not cry at the funeral, though I did tear up but forced the tears to dry. Later I grieved on my own. I miss her to this day...but everything she passed on to me lives on, and I know she would not want me to dwell on the past. My dad did not cry at the funeral either, nor my brother so I was not completely alone but most of the family did get choked up and were crying their eyes out. I just don't like the outward grievance. Grievance is private to me.

My ex and my best friend had a joke together that I was an 'ice queen'.

I do get over excited quite a lot but usually not at the same things other people do, especially girls... I find it really hard to relate to them. They could chat about a certain dress for ages, and I wouldn't understand, my reaction would be "Yeah, it's nice" and that would be it.

I'm never upset when I should be, I might get upset afterwards when I've had time to process it, but in the moment I just kinda become emotionless and a little bit confused.

I'm still working on an answer myself.. it's very difficult. Sometimes I try to compensate by forcing myself into moments at parties etc and just let go. It may work for a bit but when the self-awareness kicks back in again I become aware and closed off again. Even at concerts my friends are like "are you even having fun?" YES, I'm having fun I just don't need to scream about it. I appreciate everything quietly and analytically. Maybe we need quieter hobbies and friends LOL, kidding, but adapting is very hard.

@JROI that is hilarious, because my best friend always tells me I have an ice heart, cold heart or sometimes I get cold, black soul LOL. which maybe at certain times and situations that is actually true. Like you, in the moment I am emotionless and cold, even indifferent. Then once it hits me I cower into my shell and replay the scene over and over in my head and try to decode it and wonder how it all happened that way, and it hits me harder than it would have in my opinion if I had just felt everything WHEN it happened the FIRST time instead of replaying it.

I also find it difficult to relate to people. I'm an "in and out" shopper. I get what I need and go. And usually I know what I'm looking for so I go right to it and leave LOL maybe a little bit of lingering to look around. I don't like how girls fuss over things either.


ANOTHER thing is people crying. Oh lord...the WORST thing in the world is when I am being around someone who is crying. I don't know what to do with them, how to comfort them. It overwhelms me. I look at them and I try to think of something to say if it's my friends, but if it's someone I don't know I'm done. There's no hope. I sit there looking dumb and uncomfortable.... It's hard to deal with. Crying children is even worse. I get infinitely irritated by crying children (screaming children especially). My only hope is that it will subside quickly. That's one reason why I don't want kids LOL...yet anyways 🙂

I'm actually very empathetic when it comes to people crying, it's something that seriously pulls on my heart strings. However, I have to be able to sympathize with them in order to be upset, if I feel what they're crying about isn't REALLY hurting them, I can't deal with their crying, it's just an annoyance for me. ( I know that sounds awful).

My friend called me round to her house once, she'd just broken up with her boyfriend and she was really upset, she kept looking at me for advice and comfort and I just wasn't able, in the end it got too much and I made up some excuse about having to leave... like 'oooohhh look at the time....' type stuff haha... She then mentioned to another friend of mine that she was really upset that I had left, and that I didn't really seem that bothered about the fact that she was upset and that I didn't care. I felt bad for leaving her after I heard that, but I just couldn't do it... it was too overwhelming for me.

It actually sounds pretty fucking selfish when I read it back. :/

Posted by JROI
I'm actually very empathetic when it comes to people crying, it's something that seriously pulls on my heart strings. However, I have to be able to sympathize with them in order to be upset, if I feel what they're crying about isn't REALLY hurting them, I can't deal with their crying, it's just an annoyance for me. ( I know that sounds awful).

Maybe this is more so me too. It truly depends on the crying. Like children screaming is a definite no. But when people are mourning or etc I feel for them. I get teared up in some movies when people die and I see how sad and broken the other characters are (lol).

OH GOD and the friend thing. YESSSS. My friends will be like "I feel like you don't care". That is NOT the case!!!! Now I am good with genuine advice and will tell it like it is or try to guide depending on said situation, break ups or getting back together. But if they're crying their eyes out over it, it is hard for me to help because all the crying bets in the way.

crying gets* in the way. They take it as if I don't care but it's not that I don't care, it's just that I can't help them any more than I know how which would be through a conversation about it, not a crying session. I feel bad saying this too don't get me wrong, but it is hard to deal with it so I totally understand your points.