"Lambie!!! Posted by dofacc In consideration of your hard, though unfocused work here on DXP, and to recognize your ability to pop up everywhere on DXP with strange threads, comments, and ideas, and to let you know that we Aries appreciate your total l

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Pretty sure no one here cares. The Taurus/Scorp era of dxp seems to have come to a close a long time ago.

But for your future reference, the award for "most obsessed" in this pairing goes to a bull:

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/what-taurus-male-thinks-of-scorpio-females-3750536/



That was really embarrassing and difficult for me to read. Couldn't even make it halfway down "Part I"



lol....gets my vote for most interesting thread on dxp. Possibly the best case study of limerence you could get online, with almost every symptom described. Tempted to email it to Dorothy Tennov.


You'd need a Ouija board.


Saw that when I checked to confirm her Virgo-ness. Sad....


Then again, Ouija board, Scorpio board...potato, potatoe..


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Finally a gif for my 8th house Venus!
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Posted by EnochtheWise
Pretty sure no one here cares. The Taurus/Scorp era of dxp seems to have come to a close a long time ago.

But for your future reference, the award for "most obsessed" in this pairing goes to a bull:

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/what-taurus-male-thinks-of-scorpio-females-3750536/



That was really embarrassing and difficult for me to read. Couldn't even make it halfway down "Part I"



lol....gets my vote for most interesting thread on dxp. Possibly the best case study of limerence you could get online, with almost every symptom described. Tempted to email it to Dorothy Tennov.


You'd need a Ouija board.


Saw that when I checked to confirm her Virgo-ness. Sad....
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Then again, Ouija board, Scorpio board...potato, potatoe..
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Posted by EnochtheWise
Pretty sure no one here cares. The Taurus/Scorp era of dxp seems to have come to a close a long time ago.

But for your future reference, the award for "most obsessed" in this pairing goes to a bull:

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/taurus/what-taurus-male-thinks-of-scorpio-females-3750536/



That was really embarrassing and difficult for me to read. Couldn't even make it halfway down "Part I"



lol....gets my vote for most interesting thread on dxp. Possibly the best case study of limerence you could get online, with almost every symptom described. Tempted to email it to Dorothy Tennov.
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You'd need a Ouija board.
Will continue with examples and conclusion here.
Maybe Chapter 10 in this book could provide some help:

ENFPs And Follow-Through

Motivation is a tricky subject for any type - but ENFPs in particular have a difficult time staying committed to the follow-through of their many ideas. In the workplace, this may hinder the ENFP's ability to complete long-term projects. On a personal level, it may affect their ability to achieve long-term goals.

The ENFP's trouble with follow-through stems predominantly from the combination of extroverted intuition and introverted feeling. Extroverted intuition conceives of an invigorating new idea and conveys it to introverted feeling. Introverted feeling then acts as a decision-making function and gives extroverted intuition the go-ahead to get started on its new project - at which point extroverted intuition does all the "fun parts" of the project, then loses interest and begins perusing alternate ideas to get excited about.

Though generally fruitless, this process is highly energizing for the ENFP in the short term, as the excitement of a new idea provides a temporary high that is difficult to match. If, however, the cycle goes on for too long, the ENFP is at risk of starting and stopping a seemingly infinite number of new endeavors.

In the long-term, this weighs heavily on the ENFP's introverted feeling as they find themselves lacking the deep sense of underlying meaning that they so desperately crave. ENFPs must find a way to remain focused on long-term projects in a way that does not drain and deplete their natural source of exuberance. Luckily, there are ways to strike that happy medium.

Step 1: Activate your extroverted thinking during your initial surge of inspiration.

For ENFPs, almost every new project begins as a grandiose burst of inspiration. We come up with a fantastic new idea and immediately jump into researching, planning and working toward whatever new idea has struck our fancy. Of course, this level of energy is wholly unsustainable. It won't get us all the way to our goal, but we can use it as an excellent kick-start by engaging our extroverted thinking alongside out extroverted intuition when inspiration hits.

Our extroverted thinking enjoys working with our extroverted intuition to figure out how we can make out grandiose ideas happen, which is what we must take advantage of during this phase. During our initial surge of inspiration, it is important that we source tangible methods of working toward our goal. We can use the "inspired phase" to map out a series of mini-challenges that can be followed up on as we move methodically toward the over-arching goal.

Step 2: Learn to narrow down big picture

We are big picture people - this is both our greatest strength and our greatest weakness when it comes to accomplishing goals. We fixate on the big picture when we take on new projects and consequently give up on them once the main points are covered and only the details remain.

Counter-intuitive as it seems, we often have to put the big picture on the back burner to achieve a realistic shot at achieving our long-term goals. Our introverted feeling provides a small-scale need for validation and if we rest the fulfillment of that need upon the achievement of a long-term goal, we will become quickly disheartened in the process of working toward it. To counter this effect, we must set up our goal as a series of mini-challenges that can be risen to regularly.

Step 3: Break your goals down into manageable portions

ENFPs tend to take a top-down approach to accomplishing things: We identify an exciting opportunity via our extroverted intuition, decide to go for it via our introverted feeling and then source the necessary resources via our extroverted thinking. We then trust that our introverted sensing will continue to perform the actions necessary to get us all the way to our goal. And this is where we are being unrealistic.

We forget that we dislike relying on our introverted sensing unless we can identify the concrete payoff of doing so. In many ways, we must use our introverted sensing as a "swivel point in accomplishing our goals - we cannot rely on it to take us all the way to the end, but we can use it to feed back into our extroverted thinking, introverted feeling and extroverted intuition as we work toward an ever-changing version of our overarching goal . In many ways, we need to work down and then back up in our stack of functions in order to keep ourselves motivated. The process may look a little like this:

Ne: Identifies an exciting opportunity
Fi: Decides the opportunity is worth pursuing.
Te: Sources necessary resources for accomplishing goal.
Si :Repetitively performs the action that will bring us toward goal.
Te:Recognizes the immediate payoff of action that is being performed.
Fi:Feels validated based on our mini accomplishment.
Ne:Re-adjusts to identify the next challenge.

Repeat as necessary.

(To be continued..)
Posted by ScorpioTruth
I will never believe another word he says, and I will likely become a compulsive snoop, always looking at him out the corner of my eye. That's no way to live.


Yeah, that would've been my path.

I imagine all the prison wardens in this world would not come close to the behavior I was going to enact from that point onward.

Posted by ScorpioTruth
but I keep a picture of him and the girl in my phone so that when I feel myself growing soft, I can look at the picture and remember why we are where we are.


It's not horrible.

I dealt with it the same way...the day we broke up I got a bottle of vodka and kept watching a slideshow of pictures of us together so I could mentally index them from "happy, genuine times" to "here I am in this picture with a liar"...and all the convos he had with her. Some people don't need to know all the gory details but I had to take it all in to be able to move forward. It had to hurt beyond a point I was capable of hurting anymore...to reach peace of mind on the other side. Unorthodox view but it worked for me. Had I not done that, I would be stuck in limbo with "what if"s and "is there anywhere i went wrong?". I just cried until I couldn't anymore and then this stillness washed over me and there were no more questions.

Whatever you choose to do, your piece of mind should come first. Women get the brunt of being pillars for their families, we grow up honoring that role and then one day comes where a veil unravels and...you realize it wasn't appreciated at all all along.

Wishing you the best for you and your baby...and even the Cap if you can still see him in the picture of your life.

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True it is expensive to dine out all the time but what is wrong with trips to the park, museums,festivals, the movies etc stuff that is sometimes free or very close to it?


Are you a fire moon?
Posted by ScorpG
What can I do to prove myself right?


You could back off her, make whatever changes necessary you deem fit and have her witness you've changed from a distance. Without your motive of getting her back.

Doing things just to get someone back don't stick in the long run.

Posted by ScorpG
Virgos are THE MOST DIFFICULT women to deal with!!


Lmao.

Just..lmao.

Posted by ScorpG
I promised to change, asked to go out and she told me that she doesn't believe me. And if I was about to change, I would have done it when we were together.


You know if we were the silent type, that argument could be refuted by "But I didn't know exactly what she wanted, man"

We're not so I'm sure this was brought up to your deaf ears again and again. I would see things the same way she does. People don't just have epiphanies out of the blue when they couldn't bother to have them when their partners' needs were on the line. Epiphanies post break up are lip service.



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ffs get a room you two.


i agree, frostbite and deadpool need to get at it like beasts
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Thought you'd recognize your own words. I guess not lol.

Anyway, nauseating.
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Haha .. 😂👍

How are u Tiz ? I kinda miss you.


Hey

I'm all right. Not much has changed with me. The most relaxing thing I've done this week is fix and drain a washing machine pump and I'm not sure what that says about my year so far :\

How are you?



It's always good when you fix things
And It say that you be a new Tiz .. lol something like this 😀👍


I'm good, but I feel like there's demons inside me...
I hate saturn -_-
is this normal for sag these days ?


Nope nope...Rule1: When you're talking to Tiz, you only discuss him. He's growing tired of "me me' s " 🙊


God, he must hate me then..

it's okay he can join the rest of the club that seems to not like me.


Lol!! He secretly hates most of us...or wait...he doesn't give an eff to any of us


Naw, tiz and i have a true friendship, he knows more about me i think than anyone on this site, hell than anyone else i know in my life tbh. He can pretend to hate me but i know the truth
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*cough*traitor*cough*
There is no "how to life".

There's just how to adapt/improvise which is right up our alley.

I bought this book by Heidi Priebe who's an ENFP herself and I really like it.

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Every state is almost like a different country.


#AmericanStatements

No, no it isn't. Can argue different culture all you guys want, it's the same language and the same pearly tears at seeing bald eagles. Same basis for holidays. Same anthem, same history when it comes down to it.

I take one step across the border and I have no idea wtf is going on anymore. As Eastern European as we all are and similarities aside..different holidays, different language, different all.





I didn't mean like that. I meant the way it looks. It doesn't always switch right at the state line, but each state has a completely different flavor. We do have different cultures as well, though they're not as distinctive as they once were, and English is spoken in all the states. I could post a video of my recent trip back home and then post a video of a night out in my current city, and you would see what I mean. Two different worlds. But I won't, because I'm incognito.
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You don't have to, I know they don't look alike lmao. That was an ignorant comment by OP but look who OP is. Just saying the "Almost a different country" makes us snobby Europeans smirk.
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I used to dream of living and settling eventually in America... but this changed over the past few years. The one thing that turned me off is that they say America is just plain boring. Every state simply looks just the same as the others.

But, anyway, these are the deal-breakers for me:

1. People are rude... Just look around here in DXP... they are soooo friggin' judgemental too.

2. Racism and Hypersensitivity to Racism - just about everything can be considered as a racist remark. I can't believe that I, being so open to all cultures, can be considered racist just because I said that I thought Sia was a black woman. The hell???

3. Political Correctness is dying. It's the same thing here in the Philippines as when Duterte won the elections but I'm not going there either just because of the similarity in the situation.

4. Materialism - People talk about material things more often than social causes and family upbringing. People tend to be more focused on money and greed instead of abstract matters like love and respect.

5. Spirituality is dying... I can't settle in a place where people don't believe in God. It's almost just the same as death itself. It's sad when I think about it.

Okay this is just a rant. I might delete this thread if it becomes too unpopular. On the other hand, I'm always open to changing my opinion. I don't know if I'll ever settle in America... but it seems that I like it here better now. It's my home anyway.


if you finish school and a get a good job it's a GREAT opportunity to have the American dream. It's true.

just finish your studies and work ./find a good career. You'll be living the expensive suburbs and find a good wife.
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He has Ands.
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Posted by PootyButt
Every state is almost like a different country.


#AmericanStatements

No, no it isn't. Can argue different culture all you guys want, it's the same language and the same pearly tears at seeing bald eagles. Same basis for holidays. Same anthem, same history when it comes down to it.

I take one step across the border and I have no idea wtf is going on anymore. As Eastern European as we all are and similarities aside..different holidays, different language, different all.





it would be cool to know someone in Eastern Europe.

I don't know anyone from there. Only Finland, Denmark Scandanivian countries.

Just someone from like, Czech, or maybe even Hungary. To see and hear what it's like.

edit good thing you are always here to educate us, damnie!!!
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Oh Hungary hasn't been inhabited for decades. They all moved here.
Posted by firebunny
1. People are rude... Just look around here in DXP... they are soooo friggin' judgemental too.


Lmao, I wish Ands would stuff you in a box and FedEx you here. You'd cry from dawn to dusk if you think Americans are judgmental and rude.


Posted by PootyButt
Every state is almost like a different country.


#AmericanStatements

No, no it isn't. Can argue different culture all you guys want, it's the same language and the same pearly tears at seeing bald eagles. Same basis for holidays. Same anthem, same history when it comes down to it.

I take one step across the border and I have no idea wtf is going on anymore. As Eastern European as we all are and similarities aside..different holidays, different language, different all.