Getting over breakups?

It took a Leo to help me get over my ex 😛 Haha...seriously, there is set rule over how long it will take. Each situation is different. My former situation was VERY bad as there were multiple betrayals. I thought I'd never get over it but I'm happy to say that I did.

You will get over your break up sooner if you make a clear and conscious effort to leave the past in the past. Unless you have a kid with your ex, stay away from him as much as possible. Use that relationship and the breakup as a learning lesson. Think of mistakes you might have made in the relationship so that you don't repeat them in your next one and think of all the little red flags that you should have seen sooner in your ex so that hopefully you will not make the mistake of picking another bad partner. Allow yourself time to mourn the end of the relationship and the breach in trust but don't dwell on it for too long. Figure out ways to improve yourself and keep yourself busy with that. Take up some new hobbies, start eating healthier, give up some bad habits, get to know yourself better so you'll know what you will/will not put up with next time. Remind yourself that this bad time that you are going through is just a bad storm that will pass and when you come out of it, you will be happier and healthier. If that is not enough to convince you then think of how good it would feel if you should run into your ex later on down the road and he sees that you are happy, healthy, looking good and thriving without him and not that pathetic crying mess that he treated like a doormat.

These are lessons I learned from a really bad break up three years ago. I hit rock bottom and to this day, it was probably the lowest point of my life. I never thought someone who appeared to love me so much could hurt me so bad and I never thought I would recover. I went through a rough time for a few months. I let him come in and out of my life (BAD IDEA!) because I didn't want to let him go. When I finally made the conscious effort to stop that behavior and focus on myself, I took up hobbies, made tons of new friends and eventually saw him for the person that he was and not the person that I wanted him to be. I used to hate him but now I don't even think about him enough to feel that strongly.

TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS.

Pesca, that was amazing advice for anyone hurting over a breakup. *bookmarked*

Thanks Nefer! 🙂 With all the breakups I've been through I could write a damn book! 😛

I wonder if we pisces go through breakups more than any other sign. Pisces have that awful tendency of looking at potential partners through rose-colored glasses when we are first getting to know them and also a weakness for sob stories. I broke myself out of those habits long ago but I still have a tendency to get attached quickly even when I'm trying to avoid doing so, and atleast I know how to bounce back quickly when things don't work out.

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Thanks Nefer! 🙂 With all the breakups I've been through I could write a damn book! 😛

I wonder if we pisces go through breakups more than any other sign. Pisces have that awful tendency of looking at potential partners through rose-colored glasses when we are first getting to know them and also a weakness for sob stories. I broke myself out of those habits long ago but I still have a tendency to get attached quickly even when I'm trying to avoid doing so, and atleast I know how to bounce back quickly when things don't work out.

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LOL

Wow, that struck a chord.

Good, I can use that car to run over my ex! 😛
haha, just kidding!

I've never had my heart broken. However, I've been with my first love for 6 years. I'd be devasted if we broke up. I know when my grandfathers died it took me along time to heal. I guess when I love someone I love hard. 🙂