I hope that I made the right decision...

I'm a Cancer female and just wanted to share this and get some advice.
So I started this new job almost a month ago and had to do training. The one who trained me is a Pisces man one year my junior. We hit it off right away, had so much in common. He said it was like he was talking to himself. I did notice that he was checking me out the whole 8 hours and I admit it was flattering but I tried my best not to let him know that I noticed. The type of job I have is that there is only one person on duty at a time, so I knew that I would most likely not see him again. A week passed and I found myself thinking about this guy a lot so I worked up the nerve to call the job when I knew he was on duty. I told him that I enjoyed talking to him and if we could exchange numbers. He gave me his and we began to chat several nights a week while he was at work. We would talk for hours; I've never talked to anyone that long about anything. I'm mostly a listener. I started to really like him of course and one night he asked did I know whether he had a girlfriend. I said no and he said that he didn't want me to catch feelings. From what he told me, he's been estranged from her and his children for several months and he's going through a lot of drama. So I decided to play it cool and just be his friend. We continue to talk and one night asks me if we should just stay as 'homeboys'. I say no like a fool. Sigh....
So our conversations start turning more intimate at certain point and he tells me more personal things about himself. I did tell him that I wasn't ready to have a sexual relationship with him yet because that's not me. I also didn't want to pursue that because technically, he was still with someone. He seemed to respect that. I am a very cautious person by nature. He did ask why I didn't open up more to him and I told him that I didn't know him well enough. Through out our later conversations, he kept talking like he wanted to have a relationship with me. I brought up the fact that he was already involved and he kept saying that he should break up with his girl of 14 years and I could help with that problem. So now pass the rambling, this past weekend we were supposed to hookup to go out to eat. He did tell me that because of the Easter holiday it might cause complications. Understandable. I had called Saturday evening to confirm and his exact words were 'I thought you didn't want to go since you know I won't break up with my girl'.......Yeah. Needless to say, we didn

Needless to say, we didn't go out this weekend. I sent him a text saying that basically based on our conversation Saturday, I realize that I'm going to get anywhere with him relationship wise. I told him how I felt and that it would be best not contact him at all. I wished him all the best. No response back but I don't expect.

Why do I feel like I acted too hastily?

I meant to say: 'not going to get anywhere with him relationship wise....sorry

Never mix business with pleasure, trust a guy that is technically in a relationship and talking sexually to another woman, or trust a man that is estranged from his kids. Even as a friends. This could have turned out really bad (and still can) if you would have gotten closer. He sounds like the type if guy to promise a girl a raise if she sleeps with him. Cut your losses, delete his phone number and keep the rapport between you two STRICTLY PROFESSIONAL. Do not let him manipulate you and dont fall for his charm.

Too hasty?

lol... you should of cut it off as soon as he mentioned the 14 year relationship and children.

Once you said you wanted to be more than friends, knowing full well he's unavailable you just became a play thing. Planning lunch dates and admitting you were after a relationship after knowing his situation is very selfish.

Cut him off. He'll let you think whatever you want and keep you jumping on the line even though he's made his decision. Remember you called him at work first and he's just been riding the wave.

It seems to me like he's feeling you out to see if you would go along with a sexual relationship with him though he obviously has a family and is otherwise committed. DON'T DO IT. He is not available.

He randomly tells you he has a GF (the 'estranged' part is BS. If that was true he wouldn't say he had a GF, she would be an ex GF or baby mama or whatever).

He said he didnt want you to "catch feelings". This means HE IS NOT AVAILABLE and already has feelings for someone else.

He said he "should" break it off with her. Which means he IS WITH HER. If you honestly think he is going to break up with this women for a person he just met at work you are delusional. He's been in a 14 year relationship and is looking for some side action.... Because he's asshole and that is what assholes do. He says Easter "might complicate" your seudo date. Of course it would!!! Because he can't think of a good enough excuse that will fly so he can get away from his GIRLFRIEND AND CHILDREN on the holiday.

He said "you know I won't break it with my girl". How much clearer could he be!?!— He's with her and has no intention of leaving her.... But he would still take you on a date and sleep with you if you were willing. WTF.... Why are you acting like this is a person who is available for you to date?

You said you had been speaking very intimately and talked about a sexual relationship (or the fact you werent ready for that) You have already crossed the line. Seriously... Walk away. No, run away. Kids are involved here, what are you thinking?

So no, your decision was not too hasty. You did the right thing. He's an asshole anyway.