My Pisces GF...My Leo Self

Hi all....I'm new here but I need some advice on my relationship with a Pisces suffering from clinical depression.

How do I keep her problems and her gloomy attitude from keeping me down? I've had one of the worst mornings I can recall in years, and its most due to our conversation last night. She really gets down on the days I can't see her...and even though I show her my affection in all outlets at every opportunity I get...it's not enough. Why? Cuz I'm not there on the days she doesn't see me.

It's been terribly difficult coping with her problem, but I've read articles and columns about how I should act in such a situation with someone depressed. I do everything I can to keep her happy...

Unfortunately....there are days when I need the comfort and consolation of my GF, and 95% of the time, when I call her up she's sad or in a bad mood. I really adore her, but I feel my mental health is deteoriating. This morning I thought I was going crazy trying to figure her out...and my drive to want to make her happy diminishes daily.

Do you think this is an unhealthy relationship for me? Or am I not being as sensitive as I should be regarding her illness. I need some advice...whatever comments you can give will be appreciated.

Y'know I think you're being really supportive but if it is a clinical depression it is sometimes beyond your control. People in that state should also have some kind of professional help or whatever treatment they need. So far if you really care for her you can keep being supportive of her but at the same time let her also cope on her own and don't drive yourself into it with her because one side has to be stronger and I guess that side is you. Best of luck!

Dear Turnitup19,
Dreamy-Eyez here. You're a Leo? Stay strong brotha, because your sunny personality could serve as a real "pick me up" to your depressed Piscean Girlfriend. Now, speaking as a Piscean Male I can admit that a depressed Piscean can be very hard to reach out to, but don't forget that she in observation of what's going on around her. Clinical depression is serious and this is a trial of endurance. You hang in there, man. Obviously its affecting you. Try and find a way to keep yourself from getting your spirits dampened, because you got to stay strong for her. Once she finally pulls thru, she'll love you even more. Take Care.

EEK! I'm sorry. We really can be attention wh0res. Clinical depression on top of the Piscean need to feel loved would certainly be overwhelming. I'm really not all that big on anti-depressants, but maybe there's something mild that would help her. If she is currently on medication maybe she is not taking it, or it is the wrong prescription for her.

On a more positive note, she must be crazy, nuts in love with you. When we are that far gone on someone, even a few hours away from them is enough to drive us mad. lol Sorry if that is not much consolation.

Those are all very helpful comments, however there's much I should add. She is going to therapy and acknowledges her illness, which allows me to have an open dialogue about it. And she also taking anti-depressants....but she may not have found the correct perscription yet, as Sea Siren mentioned.

Dreamy Eyez, I'm doing my best to hang in there. Unfortunately there are times when I sink my head and realize that I'm not happy in the relationship. I've been a Leo who always gives alot of love but received little back, and my heart needs some patchwork done.

I tell her repeatedly that I'm willing to pull through with her, but at the same time I place emphasis on allowing us to have time to ourselves. But being a typical Pisces, she tells me she wants me to live my life but simultaneously gets disappointed when she can't see me.

That's been my biggest issue...she confuses me so much sometimes I feel like I'm about to pull my hair out. Grrr...

Sounds familiar, my pisces boyfriend is much like that..But u gotta love 'em and put up with them. At some point it pays off with their trust and deep love.

Took about two years for my pisces boyfriend to get his depression under control.Your a leo im a scorpio not to different in finding stuff out.Find out what it stems from and you might be able to understand whats behind it better,therefore ways to get them out of it,that sometimes doesn't even need words just small seemingly trivial actions.I was lucky and was already with him when his set in,a family members death.All I have to say is to rely on the stronger part of yourself because it's an all out war pretty much on your feelings if you let it get to you.Learn to self sacrifice/ignore yourself a bit if your serious enough about her.If you aren't happy though for other reasons,move on and spare her anymore pain from you leaving later down the line.It could get to dangerous levels of depression if that I was only staying there for an extended period of time for them senario happens.Not nessaceraly you in danger self inflicted on herself dangerous.Know two cancers,one dead/one still alive who tried suicide when they went into depression.

Cancers are the cardinal water sign,pisces is the mutable thats why that was thrown in there.Kurt Cobain was a pisces.It's clinical depression these individuals/including bf suffered from too,not just down spirits depressed too.

What's up Turnitup!,
(LOL) That rhymes. (Dreamy-Eyez, here.) How are you? I hope you aren't turning into Edgar Allen Poe, are you? Nah, I'm kidding. Okay, I'm serious now. She's giving you mixed messages, man? Speaking as a Pisces, I'm quite annoyed at how people say one thing, yet subconsciously means another. In your case, when she sets you free to live your life, she really expects you to include her as apart of your daily agenda without having to ask you to be mindful of her. That is why she get's disappointed. Have you heard of what they say about love? If you truly love someone don't be possessive, set them free. They'll only come back to you, if it was truly meant to be. Think about it. Once again, Turnitup19, keep your chin up, man. I know your heart has been cheated out of the love you gave, but one day "Good Karma" will pay it's dues and you'll get all the loving your heart desires. Trust me, man. Take care.