Relationship Karma

This was a lunchtime topic at my office today. Please feel free to post your 2 cents about this...

Do you believe that bad things that you do to an ex (dumping them for another person, cheating on them, etc.) will come back to haunt you in your next relationship?

If so, do you think that sincerely apologizing to your ex for wrongdoings on your part and giving them the closure that they need would fix that karma?

I was reading your post Starfish and I wonder if you pushed him to break up with you because you sensed that something unsatisfactory was going on or if you feel like your pushing him away caused him to jump into a relationship with another woman so quickly. It sounds like he was in the wrong and I hope he learned his lesson. He's lucky that you let him back into your life at all and you're lucky that you had the opportunity to get answers and closure. I wonder if you're with him now and if he's being a good boy 😉

We started talking about this at work because one of my female co-workers (I didn't bother to ask her sign) brought it up. She was married to a man that beat her and she was dependant upon him so she didn't leave him at first. She ended up meeting a man who swept her off her feet and that's when she had the courage the leave her ex husband and divorce him. Things aren't working out with her new man now (he's cheating) and she feels like it's her fault, that maybe this is punishment for leaving her ex the way that she did. Also she found out through the grapevine that her ex husband has a girlfriend now. He beats her and berates her, telling her (the girlfriend) that she's not as pretty or as good as his ex-wife (my co-worker) was. Her story got me thinking. She might not have left him on such good terms but he beat her and he's beating the new one too. None of the parties involved sound happy. I don't know if it's relationship karma or just a case of people not learning from their mistakes so that they don't repeat them again in the next relationship.

The only karma I know about happening (and not in a nice way) was with my ex-Gem who dated me but didn't tell me he had a steady girlf. After I found out, he said he wasn't happy with his girlf and that he'd leave her for me, but I declined and told him where to get off. I hear they've now had a baby (she was desperate for one from what I heard from a friend of his) and he is so unhappy with it. When he found out she was pregnant he had a huge argument with his manager and stormed out of work. I see him at work and he looks pretty depressed, but he should have got out of the relationship a long time ago, but I think he didn't/doesn't have the balls. I feel sorry for the baby.

I think leaving a relationship is kinda like leaving a job - in both ways if you're unhappy to a point of where you're interested in something else - and ya don't appreciate where you're @ then its just gonna wanna push you to make that change in life - I think the irony of leaving a relationship is usually where the karma comes into play - cause in a lot of cases relationships have been related to the relationship of a drug dealer and an addict - one usually has the upper hand and doesn't really need the other but uses 'love' like a drug to the other person - and usually when the other person becomes so addicted and enveloped with another persons 'drug' breaking up can be quite bitter in the aftermath esp. if one depended on the other maybe a lil too much. But @ the same time its like an experiance - and either ya learn from the past or you end up making the same decisions to be with the same kinda person and in turn - nothing seems to change.