Torn between Pisces and Leo--or am I?

Guys...I know I haven't been around for a while now with updates. You all know my Pisces crush, the one I really like but the one who can't make up his mind and gives me weird mixed signals. Well he was away for 3 weeks and we weren't really in touch. (He's back tomorrow.) I was annoyed as hell and decided to see what happens when he came back but also not wait for him. Meanwhile, I met this sweet Leo guy--however, not my type at all.

A little bit about the Leo: He's a year younger than me, is thinking of working abroad (may leave any time) and he definitely likes me, 100% . He told our friends and it got to me. So unlike the Pisces, he's out there. He shows it too. How I feel: We actually really hit it off, we have the same sense of humor, and I DO like him lots--as a person. Here's the problem: i'm just not attracted to him. He's good looking and all, but just not my type. The Pisces guy is sexy. I picture myself necking with the Pisces guy. With the Leo, there's some sort of tension but when I try to picture myself kissing him or anything, I get all weird. It doesn't fit the picture I have of "Sexy". It's not sexy. It's like kissing my brother. Here's why: he could physically be my brother. When I look at him, I can't see him as a "man". I see a boy/teenager, and it's just the way he is. He could match physically with a petite girl. Just not me.

Fcuk! Now there's this really sweet guy I DO get along with who likes me for sure, (but he may leave sometime if he gets the job he wants) and then there's the stupid Pisces I'm obsessed about, but who just doesn't like me back the way I want him to. Plus, I'm sort of loyal to my pisces and I want to see what happens with him (but i'm so scared he didn't even think of me during the trip)--so I can't even consider the Leo. And even if the Leo were my type, it'd still be complicated because he KNOWS the Pisces! They went to university together and we're in the same group of friends. How would that make me look!!!!!!!!!

Tonight the Leo invited himself over, brought a movie and taught me poker. Nothing happened, but he stayed until 1 am. Did I give him mixed signals? Just because I enjoyed hanging out with him (which I did), does that make me a bad guy? Am I playing him? I actually made an effort to show I'm not interested that way. So if he likes me, it's at his own risk. Is it bad that I like him as a friend? 😢 So confused. I really don't want to hurt him.

I'm thinking of giving everything up and becoming a friggin' nun (HAHA, for a scorpio, that's a hard one).

What would you do? Jesus! I hate this! I still like the Pisces but I feel that he's the one who's going to end up hurting me. If I go for the Leo not only is it inappropriate because of the group dynamic, and I'd be extremely uncomfortable, (remember everyone in the group knows I liked mr.pisces) but also I just cannot picture myself with a guy his type. Plus I like the attention and him as a person, but I still like pisces so it's not fair at all. Catch 20/20😢

I know this is a bit ranting, but any opinions etc. is always valuable. You guys have given me much perspective before, so anything is greatly appreciated. How do I get myself into these messes? I'm horrible at placing boundaries. What if I gave mixed signals...

I think the leo will be fine just being friends.I have that same relationship with one who's really old,he respects the decision to not be involved and is fine with just friendship.From what i've noticed from him and other leos I know they take awhile to get emotionally jealous or anything after the actual being together relationship happens.I think they get thier bad rep in the controlling,jealous stuff when they are in a relationship and is toyed with.They are great hang out friends for me,that stuff happens all the time without it meaning anything.They seem to like alot of the mental stimulation and dependability from water signs.

Thanks, girl. I'm also hoping that Leo will be ok as friends. He doesn't seem as fragile as us water signs. Only the lion ego...But how about the dilemma with the Pisces guy? I hate the pisces guy at this point (you know what that means😛)

And the Leo has been quite aggressive and explicit about his feelings, only hasn't said openly "I like you". That's it.

Really, best to not date anyone!

Oh and while we're at it Tiamat, wouldn't it be hard to not go for the guy you're really attracted to? Even though the not-so-attractive one is less sexy? How important IS sex to scorps, ultimately?

Edit: "Even though the not-so-attractive one is less sexy?" is wrong. I meant, even though the not-so-atractive one likes me more and for sure?

Well Kafka...

I kinda know what you are feeling...Ironically it is with the same sign.

I say screw them both and go get a Cancer!

It's not that important to me(im kinda a weird one in that department)but do have a leo mars so I am a little perv who can't get enough when it is good timing for sex though.Still totally agree with you though that if your really not interested in him it wouldn't be fair to him or yourself to go out with him to be nice or whatever.Yeah your feelings still may change later on with the leo guy in the your type way but it still may not change to anything more than that as well.A leo has the potential to be a very good,long term friends for scorps in my experiance not just my own but other scorpios I know too.He may always flirt with you though,I don't think guy leos can help that part when thier in a mood to be goofy which includes ALOT of perversion jokes.Just be open and honest him,he'll most likely keep in touch with you after he leaves for the job too.

I dont think leo and water signs work as lovers but as freinds i find they get along great,
Especially leo's at least with me. I know three leos and there all great warm freinds.

I dont think leo and water signs work as lovers but as freinds i find they get along great,
Especially leo's at least with me. I know three leos and there all great warm freinds.

I haven't seen mr.pisces yet but I know he's back. I need to share this, it may be my defense mechanism too though...I just realized how crazy I was. It's not like I made the whole thing up; it's true that he was attracted to me too. But I got so carried away! The truth is: I couldn't have liked someone less available. He really isn't ready. I can see where he is. I think he likes being single and for sure doesn't need the pressure. And I need to move on. I'm really going to try the friendship thing. We'll see how it goes. I have mixed emotions: Indifference/anger at him/realism. But the attraction isn't quite there as it was. I think I owe it to the Leo guy--he showed me how it SHOULD be.

It took me almost a month to get here, to cool down like this. Geez. Scorpios really obsess, eh?

Don't get me wrong I'm still interested in how things will unfold. But not as obsessed. Wish me luck!

Update: The Leo guy is really growing on me. Can I overlook his height and size?
He's so much nicer than Mr.Indecisive-pisces...He's so much more into me. We have more in common too. We really do have so much more in common and click more.

I had coffee with him tonight, and it was so nice. I was uncomfortable because I really didn't want to lead him on...Then dating came up and how it sucks when you're rejected...I was telling him about Mr. Pisces (whom he knows) without giving a name...And he paused and said "I think I know who you're talking about...It's X, right?" and I was soooooooooo caught off guard! And soooo embarassed.

So how awkward can it get? Now the guy who has a crush on me knows who I have a crush on, and he's still sort of pursuing me. What to do now?

Plus, the Leo being sooooooooooo sweet, nice and natural turns me off more and more towards Pisces. Pisces is back and hasn't contacted me yet. I just want to sort of see him once in person and see that (it's hard nowadays to judge someone because of their msn/e-mail behaviour...). But Leo is such a charmer!

Ladies...Can one overlook the fact that a guy is shorter, thinner and has a boyish voice? (and everything else about him is almost perfect) Am I superficial? It's just that...I dated a guy who was supernice thinking "it's personality that matters" ignoring the fact that I wasn't very attracted to him. It was really bad!! It was like brother-sister love. I might actually start a seperate thread about this. I'd be interested to hear responses.

Kafka...

I know what you mean, but I think it would be more unfair for you and him if you tried to make yourself attracted to him when you really aren't. You will begin to take him for granted, trust me.

People can grow on you, but don't force it. I totally understand b/c I find it hard to be with a man who is small & puny, just because if I tell him "shut-up" and playfully shove him, it is really disgusting when he flies across the room. What a turnoff!http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008_ZSYYYYYYYYUS' target='_blank'>

CL/CM2

I think you could but is there other things that attract you to him(non-personality stuff) or is it seriously too ackward or your not attracted to him?Usually when the growing on me stuff happens to me the attraction to them comes too.Thats my own fault though,I get so focused on things sometimes that everything else doesn't seem to exist until whatever it is is finished or someone snaps me out of it.Otherwise yeah,it will most likely be a brother/sister like relationship and it's not going to be giving him or yourself what you guys want or need.

I am attracted to his eyes. There's something piercing about his eyes. When he looks in, I want to run away. I feel "found out". I am intimidated. He has effect on me, which isn't easy! I get a little nervous too. But I think I am nervous because I'm too self-conscious and really really don't want to lead him on. Meanwhile I enjoy his company and think he's really cool but am torturing myself so I can't fully enjoy any of it. Does that make sense?

Then, ok...I'll say this openly (it's embarassing): I think of us two going at it, even kissing. And then I just can't continue with the image. It's too weird. The image is the brother-sister (or even worse, woman-boy) image, not a man and woman kissing. I can't picture him "taking me", carrying me, being physically strong. I can't even picture him on top of me!

All those images (and I'm a very visual person) turn me off and make me rationalize even more, "this can't work!"...😢 I don't mean to turn myself off with such a great guy, but that part also seems to be important to me. This is where I'm left stuck, girls. I'm so stuck.