Am I wrong somewhere?

Hi!

I'm a libra with gemini moon. My mother is a Virgo lady with sagittarius moon.

We are a terrible combo I tell you... always fighting. I think my mom is too proud, materialistic, blunt and a control-freak. My mom on the other hand thinks I'm arrogant and selfish. She wants to dominate every aspect of my life... whom I should date, what I should wear, who should be my friends, what sort of gadgets I should have... absolutely EVERYTHING. I on the other hand had said (not sure if I should have said that) that and keep emphasising it even now is that if I've to something I don't normally do, she should ask me beforehand and she shouldn't just say do this/do that or keep ordering me around. Same goes if I've to do something for neighbours or relatives. She should ask me before confirming something I have to do. I'm ready to help her always and in everything, only if she had just added a polite please or asked me beforehand.

I really don't know what is going wrong, or even if the entire scenario has anything to do with astrology. If I'm wrong somewhere I'd like to correct myself. Any advice? I just want peace at home without damaging my relation with my mother any further. Communication is not an option. I'd read somewhere that Libras are great communicators. Best of luck, if you're trying to communicate with my mum. She just doesn't listen. Its always as if she's always right. Help!!

Also wanted to know if anyone has faced a similar case in their life. If yes, how did you sort it out? Advice please.

Are Virgos at all compatible with anyone. She seems to get in trouble with everyone! I try to patch things up. And the moment I leave everything is back to square one!

Yeah! You're right... I guess I'll have to accept that and live with it! Sigh!
But... Ummm.. why did you hide a message?

LOL! 😄

Posted by Superseven
Do you have another account here?

Nope... 🙂

Posted by ellessque
Virgo Sun/Sag Moon is not an easy combo for virgo.

My son has this and he *is* admittedly obnoxious, proud, blunt, scattered, over-confident and makes no apologies for that.

Perfect description! Seriously! No wonder I end up having verbal boxing matches with mom!

You just have an earth sun mixed with a firey self-righteous jovial moon.

They *know* who they are on the inside (great peeps!)....but they like the exaggerated reaction from others when they behave that way. It entertains them.



That makes me curious! Do you mean my mom tries to 'entertain' me in that weird manner??!? Could you please explain it a little more?

I don't know what her moon is, but my mother is a Leo, while I'm obviously a Taurus(and if it really matters to you, my moon is Sagittarius). I avoid her as much as possible because I'm not going to deal with her argumentative behavior when she gets all pissy. It doesn't happen as much as it used to, but it still does on occasion, and I am and have been tired of her crap. >_>

How old are you?

Maybe you can write her a letter expressing how she makes you feel.

Posted by Eula
Maybe you can write her a letter expressing how she makes you feel.

Fantastic idea!!! I'll try it right now!

Posted by ellessque

Posted by FunnyBoy

Posted by ellessque
Virgo Sun/Sag Moon is not an easy combo for virgo.

My son has this and he *is* admittedly obnoxious, proud, blunt, scattered, over-confident and makes no apologies for that.

Perfect description! Seriously! No wonder I end up having verbal boxing matches with mom!

You just have an earth sun mixed with a firey self-righteous jovial moon.

They *know* who they are on the inside (great peeps!)....but they like the exaggerated reaction from others when they behave that way. It entertains them.

That makes me curious! Do you mean my mom tries to 'entertain' me in that weird manner??!? Could you please explain it a little more?



lol....no, she's entertaining herself.

don't take things too personally. if she enjoys being around you and feels close, you will see it much louder and clearer.

when my son is around me and others he's comfortable with, he's quite entertaining and has a shining personality, sometimes that can come across as cocky....but he's not cocky at all, not really. on the inside he is constantly worrying about everyone around him (virgo traits).

I bet she loses things alot too....tease her about it. My son loses keys, wallets, his ID, money....he'd lose his head if it wasn't attached. reminding her where she puts things, is a nice gesture and shows you care.

her arguments are not as serious as you are taking them in.

plus, they don't stay mad very long once they are able to express what's going on in their head and you acknowledge that whatever they were doing, was to help you.



well, she does worry about me, there's no doubt about that. Problem is she worries so much that she forgets that I have a life too!

Another idea just struck me! What if I replicate her behaviour? Make her see herself in me! I definitely won't be able to accurately duplicate her, but I might as well try. Who knows, it might work! Whaddya think?

Posted by ellessque
lol....no, she's entertaining herself.

don't take things too personally. if she enjoys being around you and feels close, you will see it much louder and clearer.

when my son is around me and others he's comfortable with, he's quite entertaining and has a shining personality, sometimes that can come across as cocky....but he's not cocky at all, not really. on the inside he is constantly worrying about everyone around him (virgo traits).

I bet she loses things alot too....tease her about it. My son loses keys, wallets, his ID, money....he'd lose his head if it wasn't attached. reminding her where she puts things, is a nice gesture and shows you care.

her arguments are not as serious as you are taking them in.

plus, they don't stay mad very long once they are able to express what's going on in their head and you acknowledge that whatever they were doing, was to help you.

well, she does worry about me, there's no doubt about that. Problem is she worries so much that she forgets that I have a life too!

Another idea just struck me! What if I replicate her behaviour? Make her see herself in me! I definitely won't be able to accurately duplicate her, but I might as well try. Who knows, it might work! Whaddya think?

Posted by JenLove
My Scorpio best friend's mom is a Virgo and they've always had a pretty rocky relationship. One minute they're getting along and the next they're giving each other the silent treatment. Her mom was always very controlling when she was a teenager and even now that she's an adult she invades her privacy all of the time, I mean like she use to go in her room and look through her things. She's even freaked out on me before for no reason lol She was a very strict parent and she never really gave my bff the space she needed to be herself, she never gave her that reassurance and comfort for her to be able to be open and honest with her. They've never really worked things out. I would say they're a lot closer but, they'll never be too close.

It sucks that that's been your experience with your mom. I couldn't even imagine not being as close as I am with my mother. Sometimes the differences between two people are just too big for them to ever get along. Who knows, maybe one day things will change for the better between you two.

I'm still optimistic! I'll make this work!