help what should i do move on or wait..

I am in love with a pisces guy,but he rejected my feelings by saying i respect your feelings but i don't want to get into all this because i know how is it to play with some one feelings and you are more than a friend and special person to me plz don't leave me but when i leave he didn't even try to contact me besides whatsapp anywaz i tried to move on but i failed and end up sending him a msg that lets be friends only.Recently i get to know that in his past a girl hurt him or break his heart and he said some injuries take time to heal but not ready to tell me what happen anywaz his disappearing act keep on increasing but when he come back he act very normal or all lovy dovy types..i am trying my best to move on and i know all of you will say the same to me that i move on..but still i want your suggestions what should i do move on or just be with him as a friend which is hard for me or wait for him..i don't think so he love me because if he do he will never rejected my feelings.He alwaz said to me you are very innocent and naughty very sweet cute and nice person and you know so much about me and yes he keep on asking for my pics,i am special to him and he wants to see me daily.plz dear friends help me what should i do or how to move on help..

You may be special to him, but you're not "the one".

Posted by 14leo
I am in love with a pisces guy,but he rejected my feelings by saying i respect your feelings but i don't want to get into all this because i know how is it to play with some one feelings and you are more than a friend and special person to me plz don't leave me but when i leave he didn't even try to contact me besides whatsapp anywaz i tried to move on but i failed and end up sending him a msg that lets be friends only.Recently i get to know that in his past a girl hurt him or break his heart and he said some injuries take time to heal but not ready to tell me what happen anywaz his disappearing act keep on increasing but when he come back he act very normal or all lovy dovy types..i am trying my best to move on and i know all of you will say the same to me that i move on..but still i want your suggestions what should i do move on or just be with him as a friend which is hard for me or wait for him..i don't think so he love me because if he do he will never rejected my feelings.He alwaz said to me you are very innocent and naughty very sweet cute and nice person and you know so much about me and yes he keep on asking for my pics,i am special to him and he wants to see me daily.plz dear friends help me what should i do or how to move on help..

^^^You'll do for now

That's all it is. Are you better than that? Answer that question, and you'll have your answer.

He's settling for you until something better comes about. Leave him be and let him know your no ones option.

Yes right spincycle...you are right he don't want to be alone so he wants to keep me until someone he loves comes to him.thx alot dear i don't want to be his one of the option thx

You left him and you're upset with him (not yourself)? You probably crushed his little spirits.

You're not a therapist. You can't save him.

I get it, you want to seem like the loyal damsel in distress that accepted him, saw his flaws and loved him anyway. You think being that ride or die for a broken man will land you the ring and/or the title as 'the one' in his eyes. It won't.

Love and relationships are so much easier to achieve and feel fulfilling when it's had with someone who is ALREADY what you want. All that molding, and waiting and getting the runaround is draining, and confusing and normally leads to situations like this: The woman feeling tired before the relationship even began!

You can't fix him. You can't save him. An insecure man's distrust for women or for himself is a demon that will always overpower and outweigh any feelings he may have for a woman. Understand that.

This scenario is so typical. You know how the story ends. The girl swears the guy is confusing or misleading her, but when you really really look closely at the situation, it's the woman who's delusional and stuck in fantasy land. She bases his worthiness of her love based off of 1 or 2 great things he's said or done, while completely trivializing or ignoring the 10 signs that point to him not being the one...the 10 signs he's showing her that she's not the one in his mind either.

Sometimes you have to accept that him rejecting you isn't always about you personally. Sometimes a man is trying to save you and do you the favor of walking away and not getting too close b/c he knows that he'll hurt you in the end. But unfortunately, we ladies don't listen. We take the rejection personally and allow it to affect our self esteem, which just starts the process of a woman working like crazy for a man's love, not b/c he's worth it or deserves it, but b/c the journey is about proving to herself that she's worthy. She calculates her own worth by which man wants her. And if the right guy doesn't want her, she'll never feel worthy as a woman unless and until he finally picks her. She'll run herself crazy until she feels that validation or gets that 'fix' from him, meanwhile the man has already made the decision in his head that she'll never get all of him like she wants or might even deserve.

And oh he'll allow her to drive herself crazy, b/c he's already technically warned her about him. He can always use the "Well you knew what it was" line. He's already shown her better than he could tell her how he felt about her or relationships. He'll let you drain yourself b/c it's not his responsibility to make sure you're street smart & investing your time into the right person. That's your responsibility and yours alone.

But usually he doesn't stop giving her the runaround. And if he does, the woman is usually so worn out and tired from getting the runaround that she doesn't even want it anymore by the time he does come around. You know how these stories end. And sadly, I have the feeling that you're gonna be 'that girl.' The girl that knows deep down she should move on, but chooses to be hard-headed anyways. If you don't wanna be 'that girl' then don't be 'that girl.' Leave him alone. You can't fix him.

Posted by 14leo
Yes right spincycle...you are right he don't want to be alone so he wants to keep me until someone he loves comes to him.thx alot dear i don't want to be his one of the option thx

You know... amazing things happen when you

adopt this attitude and make it your own.

I don't really approve of him treating you like

that, but in all fairness... he did tell you

the truth up front.

But once you "refuse to be someone's option,"

he may see you in a different light.

People who respect themselves above all else

are very attractive.

🙂

^^^ THIS!

There's nothing to wait for. He said he only wants friends. You said it too, but don't sound like you meant it. You gotta decide if you can handle being FRIENDS only. You said he comes back being "lovey dovey". Does this mean emotionally or physically? Is he just looking for a friend or are you fucking? If there's no sex, he may just see you only as a friend. If there is sex, he's trying to have his cake and eat it too. Just means what everyone else is saying, you're a placeholder. No guy is "too hurt to try". I'm currently too hurt to go looking, but if I found someone and it seemed right, I'd jump in. If he's putting you off, he ain't that interested. Either way, there's nothing to wait for. You got your options, friend, fwb, or walk away. You decide.