Ive LIKEd HIM 2 YEARS & I CANT APPROACH HIM

There is this man that has worked in the same store (Nice Clothing & shoe store) that ive been shopping in for 2 years. The day I met him He was asked by 1 of the girls who work there to help me in the "heels" dpt.The first time i saw him i turned so red like a fiery shy red and instantly felt this warmth this HEAT to put it frankly i Thought i fell in love. He too Brightened up wen he saw me and happily got me all different sizes & asked a cpl ?ions like do i smoke and what size i fit better...(hmm) ad be4 me he looked tired and mad. Anyways everytme i go in we look at each other and look away Lingering smiles And that feeling is STILL there.To get to the point I asked the girls in there if he has a GF and 1 time he was helping me in the dressing room and i kept dropping my clothes and turnin red.. im sure its obvious by now i think hes cute lol i feel like a 8th grade girl HAHA but its my favorite store and i DONT want to get turned down. Its his place of work also so HOW can i approach him How CAN I GET A NUMBER out of this man? and what if he has a girl what do i say without that feeling stupid look? PLEASE HELP I GOTTA DO THIS B4 he finds another JOB! ;p

Ask him do he have facebook, lol.. That's like a number with info attached, see what he say! I had a crush like that a few years ago. We exchanged internet info.. Although we never dated he was single and we are still friends. Since he was such a ladies man, I opted out. With guys like that, they have ladies man personality, so he could just be friendly for his job!

Good luck!

Well, not trying to spoil your milk, BUT like you said, remember this man is always at work when he sees you so his extra cheerfullness could be moreso a result of him playing the "part" for his job. Hell, maybe he's 1 of the few people left in customer service that actually act like they're happy to see paying customers lol.

On the flip side, I agree that straight out asking him if he's taken may not be the best approach, BUT only b/c the chances of him feeling comfortable discussing such a thing in his place of employment might be a little slimmer vs. persay you asked him that same exact question once he was off work OR if you guys seen eachother outside of the store.

There are a few things you could do to get the ball rolling:
1. I agree with "UC Me"..Ask him if he's got facebook. Even THIS question is a little odd to ask, considering you guys haven't talked about anything else other than shoes lol.
2. The next time you see him, tell him what you're name is & use the fact that you're always in the store & are a repeat customer to your advantage. Make it seem as if you & him might as well get real acquainted since you're always shopping in that store. People do this all the time when they are repeat customers; they'll make an effort to personally get to know the person they are always approached by when shopping-If you use this angle, it won't seem so weird if you were to ask for his name or perhaps even if he had a fb page.
3. The next time compliment him. Tell him how much you appreciate how he's always so cheerful & ready to help you out whenever you come into the store. After doing this, slide it in there that you think he is just so adorable & suggest with your body language that you've possibly even got a tiny crush on him. You'd be surprised; he might work with a bunch of NOSY women/men, thus there's a chance he might have a crush on you too, BUT b/c of those co-workers, he may wait on YOU to initiate things 1st. Remember, guys are just as afraid of rejection as we are
4. Don't ask any of his co-workers about his personal business. And I say that b/c TRUST ME, they've already ran back & told him everything you said. And if there were ever a reason/time for him to consider you a "creeper" it'd be when a man finds out the woman who likes him didn't have the guts to ask HIM about his OWN life. Guys don't like passive/aggressiveness. To women, it's "cute" but to some men (especially GROWN men) they'd actually appreciate a woman with courage

Now I will say this also (and once again, I'm not trying to spoil the milk here): This guy has been seeing you for the last 2 years & yet hasn't said anything. I'm not insinuating that that's necessarily a BAD thing, BUT that's not necessarily a great thing either.

It's 1 thing to be shy and/or not want to engage in "hooking up" with someone while at work, BUT it's another thing for a man to continually keep his lips sealed every time he sees a woman he likes (which I'm sure would increase each time he sees you, IF he really likes you at all). I'm not saying that all men approach women 1st, BUT maybe you should start paying more attention to what he's NOT doing/saying. The fact that he hasn't approached you yet may be b/c he might actually be in a relationship OR atleast still have emotional attachments to someone else (this is just as possible when a person is single).

You mentioned in the post that you asked his co-workers if he had a girlfriend, BUT I don't remember seeing you post their actual responses, so I'm going to go ahead & use my imagination & ASSUME that they either 1. Choose not to tell you or 2. Already know that he's not interested in you in that way; you know how some women are: They can get kind of territorial/protective over a man they're around alot even if they are NOT attracted to him.

With that being said, I'm curious to know what response you got when you asked if he was single—

Posted by krysrenee7
Now I will say this also (and once again, I'm not trying to spoil the milk here): This guy has been seeing you for the last 2 years & yet hasn't said anything. I'm not insinuating that that's necessarily a BAD thing, BUT that's not necessarily a great thing either.

It's 1 thing to be shy and/or not want to engage in "hooking up" with someone while at work, BUT it's another thing for a man to continually keep his lips sealed every time he sees a woman he likes (which I'm sure would increase each time he sees you, IF he really likes you at all). I'm not saying that all men approach women 1st, BUT maybe you should start paying more attention to what he's NOT doing/saying. The fact that he hasn't approached you yet may be b/c he might actually be in a relationship OR atleast still have emotional attachments to someone else (this is just as possible when a person is single).

You mentioned in the post that you asked his co-workers if he had a girlfriend, BUT I don't remember seeing you post their actual responses, so I'm going to go ahead & use my imagination & ASSUME that they either 1. Choose not to tell you or 2. Already know that he's not interested in you in that way; you know how some women are: They can get kind of territorial/protective over a man they're around alot even if they are NOT attracted to him.

With that being said, I'm curious to know what response you got when you asked if he was single—

I totally agree.. Although in my case I made the first move, he followed along.. It happened with in a month or two. He paid special attention, smiled.. Wait he even stroked my hair.. So I knew it was beyond work.

With all the new technology, asking for facebook, myspace, email or aim is not uncommon.

@UcMe: You're right. The average person now, regardless of age, is connected in some way to a social networking site. THAT is what is common. BUT, if 2 people who barely even know eachother's names approach eachother in person after 2 years of never speaking about anything other than store products, I'd assume it'd be really awkward to basically insinuate to someone that you'd prefer to get to know them through the internet vs. standing right there & being brave enough to ask the questions yourself.

Remember, facebook & all those other social networking sites weren't always around. In fact, I think those sites take the originality out of things. Had the poster had this issue 7 years ago, she would've been FORCED to try to find out the information she wants to know from an actual person, NOT a website. Those sites, depending on why certain people use them is sort of a way for people to get an EXTENDED version of who you are; NOT the whole entire version of who you are.

Oddly though some people would feel more comfortable approaching a complete stranger through a friend request on the internet moreso than doing things the old-fashioned way & doing so in person.

It all depends on the environment/atmosphere of where 2 people connect that matter. It also depends on what each person's intentions are. I don't think it's a good thing to encourage people to use the internet as a means to truly get to know someone right off bat, & ESPECIALLY since all of those sites make it possible for people to exaggerate & hype up who they really are. So even if she were to go to his fb page, whose to say that everything on his page is even legit?

1 of my good friends (male) rarely EVER gets on fb..he still has that he's in a relationship with this woman who is NOW HIS EX. So here's a perfect example of how a new woman coming into his life should NOT necessarily use fb as a means of finding out the "current scoop" on someone. Obviously, he's been reminded to take it off, BUT at the same time b/c if not, he could be potentially driving away new prospects b/c of a simple button he forgot to push.

Plus, people have conveinantly found a way to "HIDE" their relationship status, making it so that people will have to come right out & ask anyways!!! You'd be surprised at how many profiles I've came across that don't even mention a "relationship status." And in that case, persay I was considering to date someone, I'd be screwed & forced to ask the same exact question to that person's face anyways.

Now you make me want to go on my facebook and change my Single status to Married.

LOL