Advice dating a Scorpio man

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I've been seeing a Scorpio man (32) for a little over 2 months. I'm a Pisces female (27)and after reading about both our signs our connection makes a whole lot of sense, both in and outside the bedroom.The last 3 weeks have been hard because we've both been traveling (and he usually travels a lot for work), but we've sent each other pics of what we've been doing. After he returned, I wanted to meet since he was only in town for 1 night before traveling again. He said he might be tired but ended up saying he felt fine despite jet lag so we met up late night and I stayed over. I did ask him if he's seeing anyone else and he laughed and said sarcastically 'cause I have so much time for that when I get home at 2am'. I genuinely don't believe he's seeing anyone else, but because he's a Scorpion I don't want to pressure him into defining our relationship too quickly. It's a hard problem to get around since he always travels for work so we definitely have time apart, but he's been making more of an effort with messages, by not going radio silent for days, which I also read is a Scorpio trait. Do Scorpions usually assume exclusive relationship from the beginning? Should I ask him what are we/what do you want at this point? Or should I wait a bit longer?
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Way too soon...I'd wait! I wouldn't push any issue at this point because of your schedules and it's still too early. Let him lead, he's good at that. Just be ready when he calls. I wouldn't chase him, makes you seem desperate to him. That's unattractive. Also, don't respond immediately to his messages. Wait a bit! That'll keep you on his mind while he's working. Keeps him guessing. He'll assume your with someone else and he'll want to reach out. Scorps need lots of reassurance and are very possessive. He'll never say that to you though.
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Posted by Scorpgirl23
Way too soon...I'd wait! I wouldn't push any issue at this point because of your schedules and it's still too early. Let him lead, he's good at that. Just be ready when he calls. I wouldn't chase him, makes you seem desperate to him. That's unattractive. Also, don't respond immediately to his messages. Wait a bit! That'll keep you on his mind while he's working. Keeps him guessing. He'll assume your with someone else and he'll want to reach out. Scorps need lots of reassurance and are very possessive. He'll never say that to you though.


Thanks! I know were still getting to know each other, but I just don't want to fall into a FWB situation.
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Posted by Reincarnation
You can ask "what are we?" Perfectly acceptable.

In my current relationship with a Pisces, she was the one pushing for the relationship.


Thanks everyone! He's pretty straight forward so I'll try asking him directly. We're both not seeing anyone else, so I guess it's just finding out what he sees us being.

Did you like your Pisces being more upfront/taking the lead about defining the relationship and the relationship in general? I definitely like him taking the lead, and can tell he does too, so I only occasionally do so-only twice with dates.
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You can ask "what are we?" Perfectly acceptable.


My opinion also.
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Agree with this. No problem in asking. Same as asking if he wants a cup of tea or what he wants for dinner. He'll give you the answer. It's been two months but it's ok to ask what he's looking for in general to see if it matches what you're looking for. He seems busy with things so if he's looking for something more long term (he's 32 so quite possibly) then he needs to consider making time.

Also, if you don't want to fall into a FEB situation then don't sleep with him.

You stayed over at his. Did you sleep with him?
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Posted by EnochtheWise
Posted by Reincarnation
You can ask "what are we?" Perfectly acceptable.


My opinion also.


Agree with this. No problem in asking. Same as asking if he wants a cup of tea or what he wants for dinner. He'll give you the answer. It's been two months but it's ok to ask what he's looking for in general to see if it matches what you're looking for. He seems busy with things so if he's looking for something more long term (he's 32 so quite possibly) then he needs to consider making time.

Also, if you don't want to fall into a FEB situation then don't sleep with him.

You stayed over at his. Did you sleep with him?
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Totally agree, I think he'll answer directly if I ask him.

Yes, we've slept together a few times. It wasn't rushed/pressured, so I feel completely comfortable about that. We've pretty consistently talked about us liking each other, some deeper convos about ourselves/family/etc, and missing each other while away.
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You can ask "what are we?" Perfectly acceptable.

In my current relationship with a Pisces, she was the one pushing for the relationship.


Thanks everyone! He's pretty straight forward so I'll try asking him directly. We're both not seeing anyone else, so I guess it's just finding out what he sees us being.

Did you like your Pisces being more upfront/taking the lead about defining the relationship and the relationship in general? I definitely like him taking the lead, and can tell he does too, so I only occasionally do so-only twice with dates.

I wouldn't call it "taking the lead."

I think it's inherently the woman's job to gentle nudge for the relationship post-sex. She just subtly mentioned it, and I got the hint.
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That's how I asked him if he was seeing anyone else-post-sex, so I'll do the same for this.
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And I'm definitely not the type to say "I love you" first.


Ha! Typical Scorp! I'm the same. I'm not saying that shit first. No way!

Yes - but with women that attitude is just plain unattractive.
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Lucky I'm not with a Scorpio then! My Taurus appreciates my attitude and thinks it's attractive —