Advice/opinions

Well I went and seen my Scorpio this weekend....remember he lives out of town. Well I was hoping that he might let me know how he feels about me, whether it be bad or good. He didn't touch on the subject at all. However I felt like we did enjoy each others' company...and it felt a bit more at ease than it had in the past. But I still can't help to be dissapointed with the fact tha I am still in the dark regarding his feelings towards me. Does anyone have an honest advice because at this point I feel like just letting it go.

Hi softy...glad you were able to see your scorpy guy this past weekend and I'm glad that you were able to enjoy each others company.

I have a few options for you and you did ask for an honest opinion so here goes. Is there anyway that you can possibly enjoy the moments for what they are without having expectations? Maybe he did not want to talk about feelings and just wanted to have a good time being with you. We become disapointed because we have expectations and when they are not met by us well....you get the feeling.

My second thought is...have you considered doing what you "feel?" If you feel like letting go then why don't you consider your feelings and do just that? You may realize that is exactly what you have been needing to do and may feel a whole lot better. If you change your mind later then, change it and reconnect. If by chance the reconnection does not work, then perhaps it was not meant to be.

These are my thoughts...hopefully others will chime in and offer theirs. Good luck, softy. I know how hard relationships can be and it would be so nice if they were easy....maybe they can be! 😉

Thank you Freebird for your advice. I have tried letting go in the past and haven't follwed through with it. It's not exactly what I want, but what i feel is best for my sanity regarding the matter. I get so tired of "wondering" if he feels the same as I do. So I feel like if I am able to let go....I eventually will not care anymore. Thats what I want,,,to not feel how I do for him.

You are so very welcome, Softy. Letting go is not an easy thing to do especially when you have feelings for someone. I too - along with many others have been where you are. I suppose it comes down to what can you do so that YOU feel better about you and your life?

Softy, if you are "wondering" if he feels the same...that might and could be a red flag for you. We wonder because deep inside we know the truth. When someone truly cares for you, you KNOW it and there is NO wondering at all along with NO doubts. I'm thinking that this may be a lesson for you to learn about your instincts, your feelings and to trust them. It will take a lot of courage for you to say, "that's it, I am moving on with my life so that I can create a better life for myself allowing for someone who truly cares to enter when it is the right time." This can only happen if you my lady make the change by your choice. I promise...that you will have the opportunity for someone to care for you and to have feelings for you but they cannot enter till that space has been opened. Jump my friend and the net will appear. 😉

Give yourself time if you need it..eventually you will know what and when to do what you need to. Again, my best to you for you to be happy.

Freebird

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Thank you Freebird, I do understand. Well my actual instincts tell me that he does care but the "wondering" part comes from me doubting my instincts.I don't have the courage to ask him and he has not volunteered. I do find that Scorpios are complex and that is I am always analyzing the situation.

Okay my friend, softy....why do you think that you are doubting your instincts? Why do you feel that you do not have the courage to ask him? Yes, scorpios are complex along with every other human...IF we choose to see them that way. Softy, in my past I used to "analyze" too much as well...I found for me that all it did was confuse my world. So, I joined the Analyze NO MORE - seminar and walked away a free woman...the class taught me to let things be as they are and if I was not comfortable or was not at peace with myself or the situation then...I needed to take responsibilty for myself and make a change.

Just remember, you are participating in the school of life..you are going to be presented with situations so that you are able to learn and grow...nothing more and nothing less...it is what you make it. 😉

Scorpios have a hard time letting things/people go. Trust me I know, I have a Scorpio Moon and have gone out with some Scorpio suns. I feel I am more a Scorpio than a Capricorn. If there are serious feelings there, he won't let you go easily. And I'll bet if he does let you go...somehow, somewhere in time he'll pop up again.

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