How do you control your rage?

I was angry tonight. Deep rooted bitterness at ppl constantly assuming I don't want to be bothered. Probably because I don't initiate conversations as much as the average person.

Mostly because I'm shy in the beginning but also because if a person has a history of acting like I don't matter or being a burden to me or egotistical I'm not motivated to talk to them. But constantly being told or assumed about has affected my dating, social and work life. When I'm a talkative and open person. I don't know what other vibe I'm giving off.

Do all of you scorpios have the same issue?

Do people constantly misunderstand things you say?

Also this had me so frustrated, and I don't know how not to be. What do you scorpios do to not be so affected emotionally?

This might be the result from some kind of tension which you have to overcome, but you need to understand it completely first. You should check out your natal chart. The squares are often an indicator for that sort of a problem, because it usually concerns one's insecurities. They show where you have to take action in order to conquer the challenge, so I guess you must to the same thing.

*you must do

i actually like the fact he made this thread because i deal with this issue with the scorp i been having issues with , and i just got very aggrevated with him for what you are doing, avoiding people who assume. well to keep people from assuming just damn give it to em str8 instead of having em ask what u dont want asked. its annoying tryin to communicate with someone whose constantly avoiding someone, u never know how important what it is the person is tryin to get in touch wit you 4. that issue made me make a decision. i sacrificed alot in order 4 this guy to be able to get on his feet cause he just had a ruff time but the unappreciative bastard keeps doin all this same stupid shhhht which made me text him my feelings cause u cant runn from no text i gone get my point across 1 way or another and if that fails and u still act immature like suck then fux u bye in my eyes an mind meaning it whole heartedly

Oh I can relate

I feel I get misunderstood a lot. I'm trying to explain one thing and something else comes out of it and the whole thing can turn into a heated argument. When I feel as if I'm being attacked, i do get defensive. I have noticed that about myself. When I'm opening up about something i feel and that person doesn't respond back to me properly, it hurts me and i get angry at myself that why did i open up.

Or it can be when its built up a lot of negative issues.. I can have an outburst. But I??ve realised that after i have had my moment..im fine after

I feel for me.. long walks and good music to listen to can change the mood!

Posted by IAmMystified


Do all of you scorpios have the same issue?

Do people constantly misunderstand things you say?

Also this had me so frustrated, and I don't know how not to be. What do you scorpios do to not be so affected emotionally?

Not at all, in fact almost every member in dxp can vouch for that. Communication is my friend. 🙂

I ask myself (in the real world) is the negative energy it worth it?
I keep coming up with the same answer.

Yes if it's family or anyone who will offer to pay my bills. Anything short of that. NOPE.

What's really funny is...I am a Libra, but Scorpio rising and I find that I have some of the same issues with my friends. I'm very social, but yet very quiet and shy with people. I've never been one to open up too people as much and they assume something is wrong or they think that I am very distant and not too good at communicating. I don't feel that I am. Even though I am very opinionated and blunt at times, I just don't open up to people as fast. Most folks think that Libra's are over friendly and have a of friends, but we're just the opposite. I am very friendly and sociable most of the times, but I have very few friends that I consider close enough to open up too, and trust me, that is a very small circle....3 people to be frank, and we have been friends for over 30 years. Everyone else I consider an associate.

like this

There is a thread on something similar that has some good links within, regarding Merc placements/aspects in particular.

If you are interested, it is here.


I think a couple of Scorps replied, as well. 🙂

There is a thread on something similar that has some good links within, regarding Merc placements/aspects in particular.

If you are interested, it is here.


I think a couple of Scorps replied, as well. 🙂

Posted by Angeleyes17
Oh I can relate

When I'm opening up about something i feel and that person doesn't respond back to me properly, it hurts me and i get angry at myself that why did i open up.

This happens alot to me. I am a talkative person but with someone I have an approachable friendship/relationship with. But for the most part, people and friends don't seek me out as much as other freinds, I don't get asked out or hit on alot, and colleagues at work just don't seek me out as much even though I'm the only person that can help them.

Sometimes I feel like I must be a leper or something because people don't socialize with me for some reason. I've learned to approach people too and that usually gets the conversation going but that doesn't get them to approach me more.

I feel frustrated and lonely at the same time about this. Also, the times I share and open up my feelings to people, I never get the empathetic reaction I assume any compassionate human would have.

Are scorpios the outcasts of the zodiac? You'd think people would appreciate my honesty, empathy and drama free nature...but I guess not.

Yeah people always naturally assume I'm stuck up, uptight, quiet or indifferent because I don't say much. Thing is if I have nothing to say there's no point in saying something for the sake of saying something.

I remember when I was back in high school and if i was out with my family and we'd run into a friend of mine, I'd wave hi but that's about it and my family always gave me slack about being stuck up because I didn't go talk to them. That always upset me because I didn't have anything to say

Same reason why I'm not a phone person. I don't like talking on the phone for the sake of talking on the phone. If i'm thinking of you and/or want to see how you are doing then I would rather make plans than call you to converse.

But at the saem time I'm not always going to wonder about you 24/7. I don't think its a selfish trait, I just think its just normal I suppose.

But I guess being that way causes people to think that I don't want to be around them so they eventually stop wanting to be around because I'm not trying and when I finally do try and don't get the reaction I expect, then I don't know how to behave and naturally assume they want me to leave them alone and then I really give them space and it jsut makes matters even worse.

I guess that's why I'm deeply angry about this. Being judged to think that I don't care when I care about people all the time and I worry about them but no one will ever realize that because I'm not very talkative.

Is there a balance to this?

woooooow youve just described me

Posted by Impulsv
Don't be angry it's just people are different n well if people feel like a Freindship is onesided cuz they always reach out they going to be upset.
To me those things don't phase me but they are not me.
Also don't assume they are judging or that they want to be left alone
Maybe they are just busy for that day🙂

Its hard not to be angry about it when almost (not all) of the poeple I have known in life have made the same comments:

- Where have you been?
- Why didn't you say something?
- Why didn't you talk to them?
- Why aren't you answering your phone?
- Everytime I try and talk to you, you seem upset?
- You seem busy all the time?
- Sorry I don't want to bother you but....

its always those comments and I'm tired of hearing it. People eventually go away because I don't seek them out...but I don't see why I have to 24/7. Its not that I don't care, cause I do but I assume that people have their own lives and their own friends but it doesn't mean I want them to go away either.

I've lost alot of close friends because of things similar to this and I don't know how to get it back when I don't really know how to fix the problem in the first place or even what the problem is either.

And when I try and approach them, they don't seem like they want to socialize so I leave them alone, but yet if i react the same thing then I get accused of having a problem.

Its a double standard and all its doing is making me more confused on how to act.