Is this a common Scorpio trait?

Hello, everyone helped me so much last time so I am back again. I had a spat with my fiance over something that drives me as an Aries very mad, and maybe it is not a big deal when it's a Scorpio. I am not sure.

I am anal about people sticking to their word or letting me know when they can't. Perhaps it is exasperated by my own issues, I am not sure. But when people say they will call me and they do not, that infuriates me. He does this not often, but enough. Mainly I let it slide if there is no time specified. Like, if he calls me during a break and he says "I will call you back," I realize it may not be immediately, that is no problem. But if he says "I will call you at 3:15," then I expect a call at 3:15.

Today I finally had it. He called me at lunch, and I was out with my brother having lunch, which I told him about and he forgot. No problems, he calls me after work is done. Now, today in a meeting my supervisor told us we all had to stay a little late for a meeting and for a surprise going away party for the big boss. She apologized for short notice and said we didn't have to stay long, but an appearance was pretty mandatory. So he calls me after work and I try to tell him and he is very excited because he had a break through at work he was waiting for and I was happy about that. Then he says "I will call you on my way to Joe's, don't go anywhere." So I wait .. and wait some more. No call! Meanwhile, my boss comes to collect us for an hour-long meeting then the party.

So I manage to slip away from the party and I see he has called twice. I call back and immediately can tell he is upset. That makes me upset because I know if he had just CALLED WHEN HE SAID HE WOULD, this could have been avoided. So he is eating and is giving me one-word answers about his day and his breakthrough. So I had enough and I said "Alright fine, you're being a pissy asshole and I have work to do. BYE." And I slam the phone down on his ear.

I have never called ANYONE an asshole! But the anger is so great. This could be avoided and he acts like it's my fault. Like I am supposed to know that at the exact time I called him, he was eating food?! That infuriates me a lot. This is what makes me think marriage with him would be hard. Things that seem like common sense to me seem foreign to him and vice of versa.

Stupid Cunt. It's your fault. Now go kill yourself, you worthless whore.

The act is getting old, AS.

Sometimes it's funny, but other times, you sort of run it into the ground. You need to work on your timing at least.

did you explain to him what happened? is your communication with each other usually good? I have found you need to establish good communication with scorps.

it seems a small thing to blow up about. are you stressed by other things, or is he a constant stress on your nerves?

you need to realize, if its bad now, it will be worse after you are married.

I am anal about people sticking to their word or letting me know when they can't - yes, it is an aries thing. i'm the same way. if i say i'll be there in 6.5 minutes that means i'll be there in 6.5 minutes and if i'll be .30 seconds later i'll let you know. but most of the ppl are not like that. so, i've started not to expect ppl to be this way. and it made my life a little easier🙂 another thing is that we do as we say and again, most ppl aren't like that. scorp or no scorp try not to concentrate on the precise calling time but the act itself. i'm with a scorp as well. now, he's freaking out if he texts me and i don't respond right away.
the biggest issue you too will have to work on is --- you guessed it---- communicaiton. aries don't really overanalyze things and expect our partners to be borderline perfect and know what we need. but men aren't like that. so, my advice is, talk to him and tell him in a nice way without drama that it bothers you when you don't hear from him during a precise time slot since that the only time available to talk. try to coordinate your call schedules. scorps men tend to think that they're perfect and need to be told that they're not😉 again, just be nice about it. don't accuse him or call names. be nice, cool, calm and collected. hope this helps

As a scorp maybe, that doesn't seem like a big deal. He is at work and so are you. He might have meant to call you at 3:15 but because he is working couldn't. Are you seriously upset about him not calling you at that particular time? I know most scorps mean what we say and do what we say we will. He DID call you back, twice, just not at the exact time he intended to.

Yes scorp men have a problem when they can't get to you when THEY WANT YOU. It can be selfish but that is definitely one of their traits.

Ask him to try to tell make an extra effort to do what he says, when he says he is going to do it, or don't make any definite times that he will do something.

Ex: I will call you later, rather than I will call you at 5:12pm.

BTW, a scorp told me he never wants to make me any promises because if he can't hold up to them he doesn't want to disappoint me, so he just says yes, I will XXXXX this day and if he gives a time it is an approximate and he always came through.

totally right QS!!!

whatever you say is right because you're so smart and perfect 😉

yes, the training was very well done and i bow before my master 🙂

I was w/ an aries for 4 years.

Can't decide if my water drowned him to death or his fire scared the hell out of my water and it receded. hmmmmmm

No, no! I know. The sex sucked.

Posted by Queenscorpio


BTW, a scorp told me he never wants to make me any promises because if he can't hold up to them he doesn't want to disappoint me, so he just says yes, I will XXXXX this day and if he gives a time it is an approximate and he always came through.

So true. I was told the same thing by my scorp before.
Me being a Taurus though, I don't see why it is so hard to make promises especially if you know you can keep them but maybe I am more confident in that area. For me, if I make a promise, it ENCOURAGES me to keep it even more. But I think for Scorpios, part of it is selfishness and part of it is manipulative. Selfish in that their moods can change a lot so they may not want to do what they promised what they would do - it's all about them. Manipulative in that they can always tell you later "I told you I couldnt promise you anything so why did you expect me to do it?" This is the "player" quality I have a hard time dealing with. As a Taurus, I am black and white with my promises. Either I can and will or I won't promise it at all. I think Scorpios are black and white with their emotions but not necessarily promises.

I am sorry but if someone says they will call at 3.15 and they don't...that is totally disrespectful.. It stopped you doing what you were doing to take his phonecall. And he didn't call. How rude. If he was being pissy, it's his own fault. I have seen scorpio men play the bloody victim and its really annoying. Stick to your guns.

I would've done exactly what you did.

Rising phoenix said more or less the same thing....It's not so much player qualities...it's just that you have to tell him you won't stand for it..whether he made the promise or not is beside the point, those words came out of his mouth..and then he expects you to wait around...bloody cheek if you ask me!

If I make a promise I stick to it.. most of the time I won't make it as I am rubbish at keeping them..but all my friends know this about me.