Ladies, how would you deal with this?

OK, this is my drama. So, earlier this summer I was out of work for 3 months because of my hand surgery. Well I just found out that while I was out a new rumor started about me. That I had sex with my 17 year old shit talking virgin co-worker. When I first heard this I started laughing. Until I found out that everyone thinks it's true!!!! WTF—— Ok, I'm definately NOT desperate. I have tons of men on my ass waiting for me and my boyfriend to break up. WHY WOULD I SCREW THIS IDIOTIC KID—?? So not only do I have to squelch this rumor, I have to beat the crap out of this kid. No problem, but............

So the other day on my day off someone made a comment about me in front of a crowd of people. She says, "I'm not JP, I don't have herpes!" Then I guess everyone looked over at this kid and he's got embarrassed and was like 'shut up'. So this girl (who I THOUGHT was one of my good friends) asked him if he got himself tested yet. She said I've slept with everyone and I am full of VD! WTF—? I loved this girl. She was like my little sister. I confronted her and she denied it. Oh course! Now I have to confront the 17 yo and scare him with threats of sexual harrassment.

This is not the first time a man (or boy) has "bragged" that he has had sex with me, when in fact we DID NOT! What is with men? They follow me around with their tongues hanging out and when they find out they are not getting any, they lie and talk shit behind my back! In the 6 years I have worked for this company I have "slept" with 4 men I worked with. When in fact I didn't. But I don't find out about the rumors for months and by then it's all hear say and I can't do anything about it. This time I'm just going kick this boys ass!!! Why is it that people talk shit about me, saying I am full of VD because I have slept around, when in fact it's all rumors spread by vengeful immature men who can't get laid? I swear, this place is worse than high school!

JP, so what. You know better and you know the truth. There is not a 17 year old in the world that lucky to get laid by an older woman like you. He would be proud of it rather than embarassed. If he startedthe rumour then he is the cause of it. You should go to him because he is the route. You really should scare the crap out of him because boys only understand fear at that age. Don't have him fear your sexual harrassment charges but have him fear your crowbar to his face.

Geeezzee what kind of city/town do you live in. Do they not have lives of their own—

Are you really 77?

JP, give him 'GOOD" --so hard and direct that ha will NEBVER again attempt such a thing in his life. He deserves the worst Scorp temper. OOOOhhhhh!!!! I feel like hitting him and clawing him to death........How can you keep quiet —

Attack him openly and leave nothing unturned .... he should never ever DARE to talk about you that way... he deserves absolutely NO sympathy. Go Girl...Give him REAL good.

a son of a bitch he is.having a crush on an older female is common and natural,but talking shit isn't.he needs a thorough dressing down for this.

continue to act cordially and professionally toward your staff. do not acknowledge the rumors, unless it interferes directly with work. in that case, address it in a group setting (meeting) with a mediating party (supervisor, for example) to witness.

Can you look into the causes why you have been linked with 4 different men in the past by the same set of people, if you actually find it disturbing ? Not meant to be an innuendo absolutely, but wagging tongues is not too healthy an indication.

I know as a scorp you want revenge, but this is your job. The last thing you need is for things to get out of hand. Personally, I would ignore it. You have to be the mature one, rumors are not a good reason to be unemployed. Unless you feel as if you're seriously being harassed then you should complain to management or HR. I don't know how big the company is but the bigger ones try to avoid lawsuits at all costs. I also agree that if you go around "beating" people up it only makes you look worse and it would also be justifable termination. Bring a book and an ipod for lunch and ignore them.

They are your co workers not friends. Ignore them.

JP, 'ignoring' the so called allegations so far has not helped you right ? Your silence only serves to give the others more courage to say whatever they can about you. Believe me, there is nothing more enjoyable than gossiping for many.

Anyway the allegations have to be stopped. This can be done ONLY by PROVING your innocence in the matter and this can be done ONLY by tackling the man in front of your 'colleagues'. Otherwise the number will keep on rising from 4 to 6-8-.......

and men like him thrive on such 'jokes' or 'heroic stories'. Your silence only serves to make others believe him. It is for you to prove your innocence. No one else will do it for you.

Topaz, I totally disagree with you but I do respect your opinion. I think in some scenarios that it may be necessary to "prove your innocence" but she's not on trial for anything, she's at work. For most of us, work is hard enough without the childishness that she has to endure. I went through a similiar experience at work a few months ago and trust me when I say it was deep. But in hindsight, now that I'm no longer there because (partly because of this situation) I can clearly see now that it wasn't worth it. You are never supposed to let anyone pull you down to their level. I can see that now, sometimes you have to take the high road. When the whole thing was going on it elevated to me having to give a statement to the legal department and I had to meet with the vice president and at the end of the day it was all over words. I just learned a lot from that experience and thought I would share what I learned. Working and having all that extra drama is not fun, it's stressful. Very stressful. Only JP can decide what's best for her but weigh all pros and cons before taking action.

Yes. you have a point there. But JP has been repeatedly hearing this. This is the fourth man....... It has to stop--this is what I feel...

however what you say also is true sexyscorp. Yes in the end it is JP who is suffering and it is she who knows the complete story..and so it is for her to decide..

I was thinking of the male psychology of bragging about having had sex with a woman to prove his 'manliness'. I HATE such men. If not corrected, he will repeat this in future and more women will suffer. He has to get his fingers burned NOW. That is what I feel ...sort of a service to the society--exposing him and preventing him from attempting such thngs in future....especially since he is young and has so many years ahead.....he will repeat it and many other innocent women will suffer.

But I do respect the maturity in what sexyscoprp and scorpsuperior have said.

Emgem, what is your bf's sunsign ? Is he a scorp ?