leo Scorpio ramblings

Hey everyone, long time lurker but first time poster on the Scorpio board.

I've been involved with a leo sun Gemini moon for the past one year now and it has most definitely been the most impactful 'relationships' of my life.

It all started with him being very dramatic and passionate and he said he loved me in less than a month. The year that followed was full of fights and love and drama. There was definitely a lot of learning involved but slowly he seemed to be getting distant and finally I told him I couldn't do it anymore and said we should just stop. He wanted to remain friends but I declined.

I'm still trying to make sense if the whole thing so forgive me if I sound loony.

Anyway, here are some of the things I felt when I was with him, I wonder if any other Scorpios involved with Leo's feel the same way.

1. It was very hard to go deep
I mean, it was all romantic declarations of love and basically stuff from the honeymoon phase but very little real talk. He was never vulnerable and real with me. It was very frustrating.
Sometimes when he was low or angry he used to open up about his past or talk about something painful but those moments were few and far between

2. I felt like I was being watched and judged all the time. I know Scorpios do it too but it wasn't nice when I was under the microscope. I had no idea which action of mine could lead to an explosion from him.

3. When he was happy and in a good mood, he made me feel like I was the most special person on the planet. I know we're a suspicious bunch but giving into a Leo's charm is wonderfully cozy. I have never experienced so much love and attention from one person.

4. He was very guarded, never fully open. There was always a part of him that I couldn't access.

5. He was extremely image conscious. His presentation to the world was everything to him. That doesn't sit right with Scorpios

6. He was extremely jealous and possessive, I couldn't even talk to anyone else but I'm pretty sure had a couple of 'casual' girls hidden away himself.

Maybe he was an immature leo or whatever but if I look closely at those 6 points above, they're similar to what a Scorpio does as well. I could see some of my traits in him and being on the receiving end wasn't a pleasant experience.

Maybe leos and Scorpios aren't all the different after all.

Any thoughts?

Nina, perhaps I can try to help you and then you can try to help me.lol.
Lets start with you.

Everything you listed was everything I’ve read up on as warning signs to look out for when dating your signs. EVERTHING. The only thing that he and a scorp does not have in common is caring what others think about their image. Sorry but I haven’t met a Scorpio to this day that cared, in fact I’ve never met a Scorpio that cared about image period. Taurus, Caps, and Scorpios are all take me as I am type of people when it comes to what they wear how their hair looks, or what type of shoes they have on. They like attention but I think your sign has bigger fish to fry than what someone perceives of why you chose a certain outfit. Lol. Just my opinion.

My bestfriend is a Leo woman and she dated a Scorpio man for 7years, they have a baby together now and it’s a mess. However she is strongly suggesting I stay away from the scorp I have my eyes on because of her own experience. Some of the things you complained about with him, are the EXACT same things her scorp used to complain about with her. He hated how she was always insecure about him and other women, sometimes he gave her a very good reason to be, and other times I felt she was being ridiculous. In fact, sometimes to me it seemed like he got a kick out of watching her flip at just him mentioning another girl in her presence. With me it depends on what he’s saying. If he’s speaking of another woman past-tense, we’re good. If he’s speaking of someone recent, I won’t flip right away but my antennas go up like radar. He complained that he didn’t feel she was letting him in, and she didn’t show him that much attention, at least not the kind he craved. She was always so serious, and dare insult her choice of clothes and the entire date would be ruined. Like one time she cursed him out because he took her to a restaurant that she knew was he and ex’s favorite place to go. I personally wouldn’t give a damn if he took his high school crush there, I love food I don’t care who else you USED to feed, your feeding me now. But that’s just me.lol. My bestfriend didn’t see it that way.

The one thing I keep reading about Scorpios and Cancers that is a bit irritating is you all believe there’s this deep dark hidden side to people that they don’t show the world. This is not ALWAYS the case. Sure everyone has a mask at first to strangers, but if someone crys in front of you, tells you how they feel, always want to talk to you or be around you they are letting you in. Scorpios are so busy being focused on the unknown of that person, that they aren’t appreciating what the person is showing them at that very moment, and that can make a person shut down. They feel like whats the point? The fact of the matter is, when you are dealing with signs like a leo, libra, gemini, or saggitarius we really are THAT HAPPY. LOL. We prefer happiness over mulling and dwelling on things of the past, or past hurts. My bestfriend will go to sleep just so she doesn’t have to think about what’s bothering her, or so she can bare whatever is bothering her enough to talk about it when she wakes up. Me myself, if I can get past it I barely want to talk about it. Why talk about it if I’m over it? I don’t like gloomy people, and I don’t like people that hold grudges. Life is too short. As far as secretes go, the only thing that’s mostly a closed subject when I date is I don’t discuss my ex’s with current guys I date. If you ask me something about my ex, I may tell you but I’m not going to give a rundown of our relationship moment by monet, because it’s in my past the only way I’ll tell you about him is if something in that relationship effects my future. I don’t mind deep conversations, but if you want to have one then you should try starting it up. It seems like a Scorpio just wants you to cry and bare all your deepest experiences in their lap all day, but the crazy thing is YALL DON’T EVEN DO THAT! LOL. It’s no fun anyway.