Part in peace?

So I am still working for the same company for a little over three years now, (forgive the redundancy for those who know my story ) my ex-boyfriend who is also my boss just got a little more control over the company. His partners have kept him at bay for the most part when it comes to harassing me (barely). Well since he acquired more controlling interest the ass has begun to step up his harassment. Last week I had two mandatory lunch meetings to which the third parties —we?? were expecting never surfaced; leaving me to lunch with him alone. If my Pisces walked in on me in a restaurant with this guy, it would be ugly.

It has been well over 2 years since we split and this guy acts as if we broke up yesterday! I recently learned that he too has Venus in Scorpio and feel doomed. Yesterday he asked me with a very serious look on his face to marry him??_I was floored! I did not respond emphatically and today I was called into a meeting demanding deadlines on some projects I'm working on and given new projects demanding I finish as soon as possible. This has been the recurring theme over the past year when he came back on board with the company.

I am awaiting a move to another state with my fish dish and have not searched for other local employment pending the move. I don't know how much more I can stand. The Scorpio was very good to me when we were together but has become a nightmare whose character has shown me things I cannot even hope to recover a friendship from.

My question, will I have to disappear when I leave, i.e. change my numbers, email addresses, social profiles, etc.? I don't believe I will be able to go quietly into the night away from this one.
I thought of writing a nice long "you were great but fate says otherwise letter", but I am not sure this will help. For reasons I don't want to go into, I would like to keep the peace on my way out; he could cause me great financial harm.

How can I make this go away? Peacefully.

I feel inclined to ask why you haven't gone to see Inhuman Resources but get the feeling you might have already done that. If you need to see him directly and he continues to subject you to this behabior, according to sexual harassment laws, you need to keep a record of this happening, and you should establish that you feel harassed(because obviously, you are being harassed), and if he persists, then you have evidence against him. He took you out to lunch against your will, he is giving you more work than you can realistically get done with the time alloted, and this is blackmail in an attempt to make you relinquish and surrender to his whims. All of this crap is illegal as is stalking which you seem to be implying he will do if you don't change your social networking stuff.

If you don't have to see him directly anymore, then keep a record anyway while ignoring him.

@2N3R You're right HR is aware and of no help; I am HR.

I began taking notes,saving emails, and documenting patterns for quite some time now. I have a plethora of evidence and it continues to mount.

I'm just hoping to go in peace. If this move doesn't come through than I will have to find another job.

I am just hoping that Scorpio's aren't as vindictive as they are made out to be and if one can part company peacefully. He is making it more than difficult.

You shouldn't have to switch jobs due to this guy or anyone else, though. It's ultimately your decision of coarse, but one should never live in terror. If the move doesn't happen and his behavior continues but you don't want to tame him to court(though you should), once you find another job, before leaving, you should write a letter and send it to the higher ups saying why you're leaving and if they want your record of events, you'll gladly make copies of it.

He disrespects you by disrespecting you as an employee, as a person and your relationship. He's not thinking of your feelings blind to how different they are from his own as well as ignoring the reality of differences in your circumstances. Besides the illegality of what he's doing, he is behaving in a way an abuser would. He is trying to destroy your life unless you do what he wants.

Posted by 2N3R
You shouldn't have to switch jobs due to this guy or anyone else, though. It's ultimately your decision of coarse, but one should never live in terror. If the move doesn't happen and his behavior continues but you don't want to tame him to court(though you should), once you find another job, before leaving, you should write a letter and send it to the higher ups saying why you're leaving and if they want your record of events, you'll gladly make copies of it.

He disrespects you by disrespecting you as an employee, as a person and your relationship. He's not thinking of your feelings blind to how different they are from his own as well as ignoring the reality of differences in your circumstances. Besides the illegality of what he's doing, he is behaving in a way an abuser would. He is trying to destroy your life unless you do what he wants.

Trust me I don't want to...it's a very flexible position but this guy is relentless. It's a small company, I wont get out until I move or find something better, more money or similar flexibility.

I am out of ideas. I really do hope you can move, though. This is ridiculous. :/ Good luck, whatever happens. I'm not gonna lie, I hope you marry the Fish, because then maybe you'll be left alone.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Can you talk to your fish about this ? I get what you mean about having to play nice for financial reasons. Do you feel your fish would feel slighted by you having to put on a pleasant face for this scorp until you get the hell out of dodge?

Just trying to think if ways you can save this. Perhaps your guilt-- understandably--about playing nice with scorp and how it affects fishiepoo can be diverted by a heart to heart with fish.

Look honey I have to be really nice to scorp but its only a way to get out of here unscathed.

That way you can say some nice things to Scorpio without a foreboding that it will cause harm to your relationship. 🙂

So if Scorpio ever comes up with the will you marry me scenario again you can feel ok saying how great your relationship with him was but sometimes things don't work out but you still have good feelings. Try to ease out on a positive note by appealing to Scorpio pride and ego. It's all for your protection and future security with fish guy. Keep your eye on the prize. Good luck.

I have realized that nice to this guy is an invitation. I will probably have to just eat crow on the financial front and get out alive.

Thanks for the luck...I will likely need it! :-)