scorpio male icing me out

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A Scorpio male found me on f/b after 12 yrs. We dated for 2yrs back then, but he left me to go sailing. I truly loved him and was devastated when he left. After he found me, we talked constantly for abt 3 months and he openly told me i still held his heart in my hands. I was very reserved with my feeling and i could tell i was a challenge for him. but then a week later, he told me he was seeing 4 women and sleeping with 2 of them. Even one night called me for advice on one of his women...I just went with it all. He wanted to see me, so, i went and spent 2 days with him. My feeling were already re-emerging. Needless to say b/c of things he told me I was very reserved and not quite myself when i was with him. a week later he called me and told me he didn't want a relationship b/c he was moving to another state within couple months. I went with it but didn't feel the same. I needed time to figure things out, so, we didnt speak to each other for abt a month. I was very much in love with him years ago and i just felt the urge to tell him now how i felt now. I thought abt him constantly and more than anything I wanted to be with him. So, i took the chance and I wrote him and explained everything i felt for him. In the letter, I explained to him that when i went to see him, i was reserved and I basically shut him out. I was scared b/c he had left me before. I didn't want to show my vulnerabilities to him b/c I didnt know where i fit in. I told him i didnt do this to hurt him, but to protect myself and to please be understanding. Anyway, I told him my whole-hearted feelings and that i still loved him. He never replied to me. I guess I expected for him to reply in some manner, but to ignore me, was just mean. So, i texted him several times, still no reply. after couple months, still with no word, I wrote him again and thank him for our experiences together, and wished him well. I took him off my f/b page. i met someone else and that didnt work out. I still am in love with my scorp..Anyway, I was on f/b one night and sent him a request, and he accepted. I thought wow, ok, maybe we can give this another shot. abt a week went by and no contact. i texted him and couple days later called him. he finally texted me at 2.30am stating he would try to call me in a few days. well, that was a week ago. Im confused on why he is treating me this way and where to go now? help!
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Posted by Beetleguese
He's non-committal, he'll run every time someone gets too close. Long story short; forget this dude because it's just highly unlikely that it will ever happen. Not what you want to hear, but blowing smoke up your ass isn't going to help you.🙂

A small aside that may help in the future; a guy tells you he's running 4 women, fucking 2 of them and asking you for advice and you play along? I've seen something similar 1st hand...bail the fuck out and run right then and there, you are just an easy piece that he can have anytime in his book. Not trying to offend you, just stating the obvious🙂




I do understand at this point that he is non-committal, and nothing happened sexually between us when i seen him. But a male would find a women he had a relationship with 12 yrs ago just to have sex with her?? This man is in his mid 50's..That just doesnt make sense to me...
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Hi bucsgirl,

I got your PM asking my advice on this.

Just by what you've written, I am "pretty sure" that you are

- are 50 - 55 and perhaps going through menopause?
- a Gemini
- you hear voices in your head - and they argue a lot
( I'm not being a smart-ass - this is important )

- you have taken most psycho-therapy drugs at one time or another (by prescription)
- you have been a victim all your life
- you attract friends who do really, really, really stupid things
"UNBELIEVABLY, SO STUPID YOU COULD NOT DREAM THEM UP" STUPID

- your online friends are better that your real life friends
- you are likely a professional writer/columnist or writing is a serious vocation.
---------------------------

Before I advise you, can you please tell me (seriously) which of these is correct?



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Posted by scorpiopics
Hi bucsgirl,

I got your PM asking my advice on this.

Just by what you've written, I am "pretty sure" that you are

- are 50 - 55 and perhaps going through menopause?
- a Gemini
- you hear voices in your head - and they argue a lot
( I'm not being a smart-ass - this is important )

- you have taken most psycho-therapy drugs at one time or another (by prescription)
- you have been a victim all your life
- you attract friends who do really, really, really stupid things
"UNBELIEVABLY, SO STUPID YOU COULD NOT DREAM THEM UP" STUPID

- your online friends are better that your real life friends
- you are likely a professional writer/columnist or writing is a serious vocation.
---------------------------

Before I advise you, can you please tell me (seriously) which of these is correct?






I am a gemini - Im in my mid 40's..I have been a victim of love, but who hasnt?? None of the other points you made in the least describe me, except I do take writing as a serious vocation...
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Posted by scorpiopics
Hi bucsgirl,

I got your PM asking my advice on this.

Just by what you've written, I am "pretty sure" that you are

- are 50 - 55 and perhaps going through menopause?
- a Gemini
- you hear voices in your head - and they argue a lot
( I'm not being a smart-ass - this is important )

- you have taken most psycho-therapy drugs at one time or another (by prescription)
- you have been a victim all your life
- you attract friends who do really, really, really stupid things
"UNBELIEVABLY, SO STUPID YOU COULD NOT DREAM THEM UP" STUPID

- your online friends are better that your real life friends
- you are likely a professional writer/columnist or writing is a serious vocation.
---------------------------

Before I advise you, can you please tell me (seriously) which of these is correct?






I am a gemini - Im in my mid 40's..I have been a victim of love, but who hasnt?? None of the other points you made in the least describe me, except I do take writing as a serious vocation...
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Great, and since I am wrong and you are not a multiple personality case
you can just ignore this guy and go on with you life because you now
have permission to let him go. Either that or all of you in your head
need to go out for coffee and have a long conversation about who wants
to continue to be f**ked over by this guy and who doesn't.

(Your a GEMINI ... OF COURSE you have voices in your head and the argue
... on barely won the fight to include the part about you being a writer. )




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Posted by bucsgirl
Posted by scorpiopics
Hi bucsgirl,

I got your PM asking my advice on this.

Just by what you've written, I am "pretty sure" that you are

- are 50 - 55 and perhaps going through menopause?
- a Gemini
- you hear voices in your head - and they argue a lot
( I'm not being a smart-ass - this is important )

- you have taken most psycho-therapy drugs at one time or another (by prescription)
- you have been a victim all your life
- you attract friends who do really, really, really stupid things
"UNBELIEVABLY, SO STUPID YOU COULD NOT DREAM THEM UP" STUPID

- your online friends are better that your real life friends
- you are likely a professional writer/columnist or writing is a serious vocation.
---------------------------

Before I advise you, can you please tell me (seriously) which of these is correct?






I am a gemini - Im in my mid 40's..I have been a victim of love, but who hasnt?? None of the other points you made in the least describe me, except I do take writing as a serious vocation...



Great, and since I am wrong and you are not a multiple personality case
you can just ignore this guy and go on with you life because you now
have permission to let him go. Either that or all of you in your head
need to go out for coffee and have a long conversation about who wants
to continue to be f**ked over by this guy and who doesn't.

(Your a GEMINI ... OF COURSE you have voices in your head and the argue
... on barely won the fight to include the part about you being a writer. )




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I appreciate you psycho-analysis of my gemini way, and im not being rude in any manner, however, Im not ignoring him, he is ignoring me..Iced me out completely...Why would a scorpio male do that?? hurt? non-committal? , just an asshole?? find me after 12 years to what?? play games?? please concur...