Scorpio Need for Solitude or Just Doesn't Give A S#!+ XD

Sooo...this Scorp we were/are really tight as friends (but I have feelings btw, she doesnt know!)

But these past weeks the Scorp is suddenly hard to contact.

As a reaction, I also don't try to initiate contact as much as before..

But what does this distance mean?

Is Scorp just busy?

Is this one of those famous Scorp need for solitude moments?

Or the Scorp is simply sick of me already?

How will I know which is which?

What should I do?

Heelp.

I just miss her and it sucks. 😭

Posted by claaarez88
Sooo...this Scorp we were/are really tight as friends (but I have feelings btw, she doesnt know!)

But these past weeks the Scorp is suddenly hard to contact.

As a reaction, I also don't try to initiate contact as much as before..

But what does this distance mean?

Is Scorp just busy?

Is this one of those famous Scorp need for solitude moments?

Or the Scorp is simply sick of me already?

How will I know which is which?

What should I do?

Heelp.

I just miss her and it sucks. 😭

There really isn't enough detail to answer your question. It may be all or none of the above. What were things like just before she became distant? How are you defining "hard to contact"? For example, I'm not a person interested in texting I don't care how tight we are, so my friends know better than to reach me that way. I may entertain you for a bit with a few words (e.g. "Yeah", "no", "sure" "busy"), but if you chose to have a full conversation over text or want to talk about something serious, choose another means of contact me because you simply won't get a response. I'll read it and carry on.

Anyway, what was she like just before? Overall social person or did she have her moments of silence? Has something happened in her life? Work or personal. How long is the friendship? Are you actually friends? Scorps define "friends" very differently than most do. We will hang with you, listen to you, joke around, know you for years and you will still not be considered a "friend". I know that's how it is for me.

What are you like socially? Is there give and take or are you an annoying "taker" constantly yapping, talking about your issues, asking for stuff, time or energy? Are you draining? These questions require more self reflection that an actual answer.

This issue could be something very subtle that you did that didn't jive well with how she views social interactions or friendship.

I need space alone everyday. I turn off my phone and anything else anyone can use to get a hold of me. I need this time alone. If I don't get it I get snappy, rude, and overwhelmed. (Especially to anyone that still tries to contact me when I've made it clear I need a moment.)

On that note if it's someone I care about I will cut that time short and talk to them. Anyone I go a period of time not talking to for the most part means I don't care and that I likely forgot about them.

Though I should add retreating if I've been hurt is something else I'm known to do. I spend time moping and trying to think through the problem then pop up when I have everything under wraps and I've made sure I won't be hurt by whatever sent me running again.

As a Scorpio I can tell you that I need alone time and space.

If I get into a funk or something has made me sad, i can need to hibernate and not speak to anyone or go anywhere for days. Sometimes that can be weeks. A few times it has been months.

Then I come back when I am ready.

Send a text saying "you all ok?"

One thing I would say though....I cannot count how many of my male "friends" have developed these crushes on me, and i never, ever, ever return those feelings and I have felt pretty bad about it a few times. I try very hard NOT to flirt or give any sign I am interested but still I end up with them telling me they love me or whatever. This is part of being a Scorpio. I can honestly tell you, if I am romantically into a guy, I know it on the first moment and I make sure he knows.

Sorry to say that, but maybe it helps. Trying to win a Scorpio woman is pretty tough!

You don't want to get involved with a Scorpio woman un-less you want to deal with this bullsh*t, Scorpio women can deny it all they want but every single one of them has some sort of mental health issues.

I delt with the bs with the first Scorpio she would go into hiding something wasn't going right in her life she would go into hiding. I could read her by her body language and facial expressions I would ask if she's okay I would usually get Fine or Nothing. I would leave her a lone then would get pissed off that I left her alone.

The Scorpio I'm working with now I've known longer but we've never been close till the last year and a bit working together I ask her if she's okay when she gives me that look. There is a big difference between the first Scorp and the second there isn't any feelings involved maybe there is with her but she's just a friend on my end.

You want to get involved with a Scorpio prepare yourself with a lot of BS that goes along with them they are like owning a high maintenance car. When they are good they are good when things start having problems it becomes a pain in the a**.

For a Cancer man the benefits of a Scorpio woman we do understand each other I've never been really involved with a Scorpio woman till the first one. You really do understand each other especially when you speak without words and people look at you strange how do you know what she wanted?

Being away from her for over a year ya my life is better without her its a lot simpler that's for sure then after working with my other Scorpio friend its nope not going to get involved with a Scorpio.

Posted by ElleDuMonde
JFC

Can people have a gotdamn life??!!

Point well taken. 😄

So I will probably move right along and just be here as a friend when/if she gets back.

I don't want to overthink anymore.

I am tired.

I will just BE.

If my heart finds another person to love who loves me the way I deserve then way cool!

I will just keep reminding myself now that it is just friendship between us and nothing more.

It feels like I am starting to friend-zone her back!

Sorry for the rant HAHA.

Sorry, I don't have time to read all the other replies. But, honestly we do sometimes need space. Especially when we are trying to figure out how we feel about something. We scorpios are not oblivious in the least when it comes to people liking us. We ALWAYS know. She knows, even if you haven't told her. She was probably sticking around for a while to see where things would go and figure out if she possibly liked you. If she suddenly created distance, it is probably because she thinks she is too complicated to be a good match for you and feels guilty, because she knows you'll get hurt when she tells you. Either that or, she might still be trying to figure out how she feels about the sithation. But she definitely knows bro. Definitely don't try to pressure her. If you hang out, give her space for a while. Don't be cold, but don't try to be too sweet and do everything for her. Give her a moment so she can realize that she can talk openly with you. Be patient. Try to talk about her and her life. Get to the bottom of it, in a caring manner. Maybe there's something from a past relationship bugging her. Figure it out and make her feel comfortable before you spring all your feelings on her.

Hope it works out for you!