Scorpios - Checking on Exes?

First of all, not only have I not talked to the scorpio girl I date back at the end of last year for 2 months or so now. We had an amazing chemistry, but the way she ended things was very inmature and confusing, after reading others here, that seems to be a common pattern for the 'inmature' type of of scorpios...or a least I hope (am I correct in this assumption?). Anyway, here is the thing, after I send her a message saying that I needed some closure on my own and for my own sake since she wouldn't give me one...I told her that I was going to be distant for a while but that I wasn't leaving her forever (I had tried to be friends after we broke up, but she was just as confusing and made no effort to see me, even though she did have time to party with friends, which made no sense)...okay going back to the point. She randomly texted one of my closest friends and asked about me, about how I was doing, and said that she told I was a wonderful guy and that we connected...and that maybe we would reconnected one day. She also told her that she was the one who messed things up because she had baggage...and that she had the feeling that we would meet one day again.

Not only was I surprised but also my friend and other close friends, since I had tried so hard to see her/reconnect after the breakup we had and she came back to town.... I saw some pics and something in me tells me she had met someone just around the time we ended things which is sad and I had a friend who told me that she had seen her kissed another guy just the weekend after she got back in town and we were supposed to talk and have an official break-up talk... I had tried to be her friend even after we ended things, but she didn't try hard enough to meet, yet she would call randomly some few times for random things, no talks about us, but about things she knows I could help her with...so weird.

Anyway, so I set my closure and honestly gave up on her and started moving on with my life, then she texts out of no where to check on me...this girl is so unpredictable I wonder what is next. She could have called because she felt bad about the way she ended things...but why would she said that she hoped we would reconnect again, when in the past we had both agreed that friendship would be very hard for both of us given our attractions? Maybe she is dating that guy she kissed now (who by the way is much younger than her) and so she wants to be friend? Who knows... Any thoughts? (Continued..)

Secondly, to make things even more interesting or rather ironic, as I kept on moving on with my life...I, of course, met new people, all sort of people, but I am very picky about who and what I like so quantity means nothing to me, it was all an exploration, it all all about quality for me. So, I met these two quality girls, one of them totally won me over lately...I asked her birthday jokingly aftet talking with her since January (as friends first and just recently as potentially more than that) and surprise surprise...here I found another Scorpio girl. ah!!!

However, this second and newest scopio seems a bit more mature, even though they are the same age, this new girl seems a bit more in touch and open about self-growth and unlike the committed-phobia my first scorpio seemed to show, this one seems to be very much interested in something real and defined...but who knows, my first scorpio acted like this at the very beginning, typical scorpio (for what I read) very into me....completely all about me....and so I'm scared to go through the same insanity again. I am the type of persons who means every word. I don't just do things because it feels "right" then, I see the future when I speak and I am not going anywhere, randomly, without trying harder...I am the type person who is willing, not just wishing....so I don't want another girl to fall in love with me just to run like a scared little girl at the first sign of conflict or because of baggage that hadn't been mentioned....I want real love, the real thing, something powerful but yet consistent, truthful, with roots and with purpose.

I am asking all this new girl all the tough questions and sometimes I feel like backing off, my past relationship with the first scorpio left me a bit bruised, scared of getting too involved again, but I don't want to be a commitment-phobe...no, I want to let things take its course, yet I am still very cautious, more so than ever before. I hope this new girl, has the patience and care to work with me through these fears and does not give up on me or us as easily as my past scorpio, but am I allucinating here or is possible for you guys to really work through things when things get harder? Do you stop running away once you grow up a little more? (no offense intended, just an honest question).

I myself, have lots to learn and have taken my last experience as a chance to grow, but I am willing...am I realistically able to trust another scorpio if she seems more mature?

scorpio_chic,

thank you so much! you are always so helpful...i appreciated all your words so much.

i think with my old scorpio girl it was probably a combination of many factors....i asked her to be my girlfriend after 3 months, she is 23 too, but you know, i did it because i thought that is what she wanted. i never rush into relationships either, yet i respect people i like. i could never, for example have sex with someone i am not in a committed relationships with, it is just not my thing. and yes we were committed right off the bat, without really acknowledging it, because we liked each other so much.

however, i could have kept on waiting. i wasn't into her because i wanted sex, i liked her. i felt a deep connection with her. i was willing to wait, even until marriage or some sort of higher committment level if necessary (i am being serious)...to me sex means nothing if you don't love the person. i wanted to love her. i wanted us both to flow with the current of love we were feeling to see where we would end up, but always caring respectfully about each other...she was very special to me.

it was a friend of hers who mentioned and asked me many times "when are you going to ask "____" to be your girlfriend? it was one of her closest friends and she would bring it that up over and over the last month so i figured that is what my old scorpio wanted....

i prepared this amazing thing for her to ask her such question and i know that she loved it...and i even gave her time to think about it (maybe it was mistake, who knows).

so it was that, although not completely my fault, and also the fact that she got scared one night...i think, because i didn't texted her like i used to, because of something she did (or rather didn't do) a night before. i felt like she began to get distracted with people...and i coudn't take it, so i shut down.

she in return decided to take a break....i gave it to her without fighting (that is when i came to this place) and everything went down after that.

ironically, she texted me today....after all these months...so say something random. nothing about us (again) but just random stuff that she knows would make me laugh.... i don't know....maybe she sees as future with me one day, but she shouldn't have let me go like this. it is like a never-ending story that leaves me thinking a lot....

on the meantime, my new scorpio girl (i honestly had no idea she was a scorpio!) and i....

might define things very soon, after 4 months of friendship now.

she wanted to define things sooner...like month ago and this time "i" was the one who decided we shouldn't rush into things (see, i am learning about this processes with scorpios 😉) and she was sad but decided to stick around and understood where i was coming from.

now she will be visiting soon and i am not planning to bring anything up, unless i am 100% sure of things and feel like she is too...and even then will take the relationship very slowly, not only because of her scorpio ways but because of my needs to be extra cautious now.

she is very sweet and has such purity in her eyes.

i wouldn't ever want to do anything to hurt her, that's why i needed time to be more sure of things.

my ex scorpio texting just minutes ago....left me thinking and perhaps missing a little...but i am not going back to uncertainty and unstability, i can't, even if i would want to.

i think i have lots to think about and once i see the new girl i've been talking to again, everything will be more clear.

your story seems very similar to my past one in many ways...i really hope everything works out for the best for you and that piscis guy too.

thank you for all your honest and wise words scorpio-chic.....you are so thoughtful. have a wonderful day!

truthseeker