Venus in Aries/Gemini magnet

Here I am with my Venus in Scorpio attracting men with their Venus in Aries or Gemini. How? My Mars is in Sag, so I can blame my Mars, but regardless it is quite irritating as being a Venus Scorp I am pretty relentless and I know what I want. I don't even know how to keep these two Venus signs into me as normally these relationships end.

I probably attract the Gem Venus because I love to talk (in case you couldn't tell LOL). Conversation is the key to my heart anyways. If I get bored then all is doomed. Same for them so I have read.

As for Venus in Aries. I think they like me because I don't like giving in to anyone. Plus I love arguing and making things difficult, which it seems as though they enjoy that type of confrontation/dispute. My best friend has her Venus in Aries and says she loves getting into fights/arguments with her significant other (who is a Taurus with Venus in Taurus/Mars in Pisces) just for the hell of it because it gets boring. She hates routine. I'm somewhat similar but I'm at conflict with myself because of the Scorp Venus. I also like the reassurance that someone is there, which neither of these two Venus signs in my experience like to let you know that.... Well one Venus in Aries did let me know, but he got a bit clingy so I ended it with him. Maybe it was due to his Mars in Cancer. Idk he was overwhelming. Many different planets/signs and aspects go into it, but it is quite frustrating. I am also a magnet for fire and air sun signs. I attract earth signs as well but no luck getting those relationships off of the ground. Not much exp with water...one Scorpio made a move but I evaded him...just wasn't that interested in him. A few Cancers, one whined too much and I dropped him, and the other didn't like how "abrasive" (his word) I was...

I think my having a Venus in Scorpio and Mars in Sag has made my love life very complicated...I tend to attract what I don't want/can't keep, and I repel what I do want.

Venus in Retrograde is definitely getting into my head. I'm in that "I'll never find love" mindset right now. It actually amuses me because I know it's so melodramatic and normally I just don't care.

Do you have a Sag rising/Gem descendant?

Posted by AgentP911
Do you have a Sag rising/Gem descendant?

Libra ascendant (why I most likely attract air and fire suns)

MC is in Leo

I have a similar dilemma. I'm Scorp Sun and Venus with Leo Mars. All water and fire but with Sag rising and Gem descendant.

I don't necessarily attract lots of air signs but I do need mental connection, variety, conversation, being open, stimulation etc.

Not a fan of Cancerian men... Clingy and emotionally manipulative!

I have Venus in Gem and have the same issue with Venus in Scorp. My 4 closest friends, and pretty much the only dudes I talk to, have this Venus, and I have had a mutually obsessive crush of a lifetime with a girl with this Venus. Its odd because these two placements seem at opposite ends according to Astrologers. Scorp Venus is supposed to be all about emotional depth and Gem Venus is supposed to be a bit shallow and flighty in love. Its really strange, and a bit frightening...lol. My male friends can be really heavy/demanding, and are really suspicious/distrusting, whereas (at least with dudes) I like to keep things pretty light-hearted and chill. They have some serious issues getting along with each other, and often I have to encourage them to have serious in-depth talks and air out a lot of the stuff they have going on with one another. I'm always afraid I am going to say too much, in attempts to help them reconcile, and then lose the trust of one or both and get stung. What I like about this placement though, besides how loyal they are, is that when they can really be convinced that you are being genuine and have good motives, they take off the mask and become extremely genuine and committed themselves.

Posted by degenerate_ingenue
I probably attract the Gem Venus because I love to talk (in case you couldn't tell LOL). Conversation is the key to my heart anyways. If I get bored then all is doomed. Same for them so I have read..

Yes, same with conversation being key for me, and with the issue of boredom. There is a definite draw with VinScorp for me because of the mystery, the depth, the layers....Its hard to get bored, and boredom is my biggest issue with everything and everyone.

@AgentP911 I feel you on that one! It must be our fire...though I don't have too much fire. Just Mars and NN in Sag, MC in Leo and Lilith in Aries, though my true osc. Lilith is in Taurus.

@TaurusLovesScorp how ironic, the Venus in Gem I was talking to WAS a Taurus😄 Both of them actually. One just got boring to me and the other gave me the "I don't want to date you but I want you in my life" ultimatum to which I declined. He had a Scorp moon and Venus in Gem, Mars in Aqua. It really is unfortunate because we did have a wonderfully strong connection. We could have three hour phone convos and the only reason they ended was because it was 4 am by the time we were done! Just talking about life, our past, what we have learned. Then he grew cold, and I became cold in response. His Scorp moon could make him very mean when I tried to understand his emotions.... We had the same belief system, both don't use microwaves or even own one (thought this was a strange similarity lol), randomly finish each others sentences/say words at the same time. To me I thought it was cool! Never had a person like that in my life, but I normally don't get on well with earth signs so I guess it was destined to end the way it did. Oh well. Live and learn as I always say 🙂

I've got a Venus in Aries but it make me aggressive and easy to cut men off. I'm easy going and abhor conflict but if I like you and I tell you, I expect you to behave a certain way

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
I have Venus in Gem and have the same issue with Venus in Scorp. My 4 closest friends, and pretty much the only dudes I talk to, have this Venus, and I have had a mutually obsessive crush of a lifetime with a girl with this Venus. Its odd because these two placements seem at opposite ends according to Astrologers. Scorp Venus is supposed to be all about emotional depth and Gem Venus is supposed to be a bit shallow and flighty in love. Its really strange, and a bit frightening...lol. My male friends can be really heavy/demanding, and are really suspicious/distrusting, whereas (at least with dudes) I like to keep things pretty light-hearted and chill. They have some serious issues getting along with each other, and often I have to encourage them to have serious in-depth talks and air out a lot of the stuff they have going on with one another. I'm always afraid I am going to say too much, in attempts to help them reconcile, and then lose the trust of one or both and get stung. What I like about this placement though, besides how loyal they are, is that when they can really be convinced that you are being genuine and have good motives, they take off the mask and become extremely genuine and committed themselves.

Sometimes we grow tired of always being deep and emotional. Sometimes we really appreciate the light hearted and less serious vibe.

My very good friend has Sun Gem with Moon Scorp. I like that he's not a planner, go with the flow, less heavy, talk about anything but also the slight twist of his moon is kinda evil... ***Wuh huh haa... Wicked laugh***

I'm not sure if I'd want a relationship with a Gem sun or Venus etc. There would definitely need some more serious, stable qualities.

Posted by supreme
I don't want to get murdered.

LOL! I know this feeling so well. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't....hahhahaha

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio

Posted by supreme
I don't want to get murdered.

LOL! I know this feeling so well. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't....hahhahaha

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Kill him...

LOL @Supreme. Instead of being the odious Ven in Scorp, I tend to hide away when men choose others instead of me. I just disappear and let go, not very vengeful. Though with the Taurus I was very odious...don't know what it was, but when he gave me the grand ultimatum I snapped off...it got a little ugly but he strangely seemed to enjoy it...the whole ordeal was a headache. I'm over it now, but at first I was a walking fireball. Angry, odious, vengeful. Everything I try NOT to be.

@busyeyes88, oooh I also attract Taurus w Gem Venus.
I attract Aquarius with Aries venus
Libra with Virgo Venus (he lost interest but we are still good friends)
Libra w Scorp Venus (but he was in a relationship and tried pursuing me....I gave him a lecture and he became annoyed, saying he's older and wiser than me and can do what he wants LOL OK THEN)
Leo w Virgo Venus
Gemini w Taurus Venus
Gemini w Gemini Venus
Aries w Taurus Venus
Aries w Gemini Venus

@Infinite8
My chart is:
Sun/Merc/Venus/Pluto: Scorp
Moon/Chiron: Virgo
Mars/North Node/Part of Fortune: Sag
Jupiter/Ascendant: Libra
Saturn: Aqua
Uranus/Neptune: Cap
MC: Leo

If it is worth noting, here are some of the other portions/asteroids that may (or may not) be of value:
Ceres/Lilith/Eris: Aries
Pallas: Aqua
Juno: Libra
Vesta: Pisces
True Osc. Lilith: Taurus
Lilith 1181/Nessus/Ixion: Scorpio
Vertex/Waldemath: Gemini
Orcus: Leo

I have quite a bit of fire in the asteroids along with air and Scorpio.