What's going on in male scorpios head?

I'm a sag girl who has been good friends with a scorpio male . We hit a ruff patch and did not talk for a year . after which I told him I liked him , with no reply from him about that fact. We met up the other day and he kept telling me how wonderful I looked . He even apologized for not texting, calling or making an effort to see me. I would text him and he would ignore my text , so I stopped. Now ever since meeting up the other day he text me all the time and keeps asking me out to dinner and the movies, he has done a total 180 from the way he was before . I don't know what sparked this , it's kinda weird . It can't be that he likes me seeing as he did not have anything to say when I told him how much I like him . Yet I can't be sure how do I find out what his end game is or what's going on in his head ? Any good tips on getting him to spill the beans?

Ever since meeting up the other day he texts you all the time & you reply to his texts? And you do so after a year of him not texting/calling you? IDK about you but I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of answering any of his texts. He ignored you for a year & when he saw you again after a year he suddenly remembered that you exist. No thanks. A year is a very long time, anything can happen within a year- what gives him the nerve to believe that you'll carry on with him after such a long absence? What makes him believe that you didn't move on? If you take him back it'll make you look like you were waiting up for him, like you didn't have a life or other men to chase after you. I'm sorry but a year is too long for him to expect things to pick up from where you all left off 12 mnths ago... just because he saw you again. He didn't care about your feelings then, why should you care about his now? If you do take him back just remember that it's on his terms, so don't cry mnths down the line when he does another flip on you.

That's why I change my number when a guy pisses me off or after a breakup...I don't want them to have an open line to "check up" on me about anything. You can't move on from a relationship if you still talk to an ex soon after a breakup. Cutting off all means of communication gives you the space to think about stuff & to sort out your feelings. When you do meet up with them again then the reconnection is up to you...on your terms, because YOU'LL decide if you want them to have your new number or not.

ST, ooh I must have misread the OP..I thought she told him about her feelings, the he vanished. What do you mean he felt rejected? Rejected about what?

Personally, I don't care what the circumnstances were, no guy is going to expect me to resume a relationship after a year of no contact . This situation is worse, he made no attempts for 365 days & then after seeing her he suddenly remembered about her. Why didn't HE contact her if she meant that much to him? Something smells off here. What/who was he doing for 12 months? Hmmm...

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Many years ago, I had a vibey relationship with this incredibly handsome, sexy, Scorpio man. We stared at eachother alot and kind of read eachother's minds. Yeah one of those. Needless to say. We went out one night and had a fabulous time. I was so in love. I didn't hear from him for a week or so to tell me that he was moving to another country to intern and would be gone for awhile--he was leaving today.

I was like: really? And you couldn't have told me that earlier? I had no idea this was even on the agenda.

So I went on with my life. Met and fell in love with the Virgo.

A year later, scorpio comes back to claim me and writes me a letter explaining that he wasn't in a place he could be in a relationship a year ago, but now he is and he would like to take me out to dinner and to see what happens. Oh my gawd. Sigh.

These Scorps. They will lie in wait forever for a person. Seriously. We is fixed baby.

Did you go out with him? I think it's a very selfish thing to do, though. It's been A YEAR, life goes on. Why expect another person to go with the flow just because YOU are ready? What about all the bitterness accumulated with time...do you expect that to just vanish just because "you're ready"? Sorry but that wouldn't fly with me. It shows direspect & disregard of the other person's feelings. I'd tell him to go take the year he vanished on a date. What the heck? No!

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Also. I understand absence. And upon analyzing this scorp's actions, I have always thought it was a very sweet thing. Sure it didn't work out at the time--I was 19-20 yrs old lol.

But the intention was good. 🙂

I get absence too, but a year is too long. To me, love can't be without the other for too long. I'm not understand this year long gap because I've never been in a situation like that before & I doubt I'd tolerate it. I've experienced something similar to it though, but both me & the guy had no way of contacting each other...that's understandable. A person that has a way to contact you, but chooses not to is unforgivable. What about Christmas & other special day? Those don't require you to be in a relationship with the person you're giving wishes to, it just shows you have not forgotten about them & that you wish them a happy day. Simple. No commitments needed.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
If a person comes back and you are in a place to see what's up then the only thing getting in your way is ego. Why is it so important to put ego in front of an opportunity? If there are bad feelings between you then discuss them to see what's going on. You never know unless you ask.

On the other hand if a person comes back and you aren't in a place to see what's up then politely decline.

It's really that simple. Yeah or nay. Go for it or move on.

Shrug

My ego is too big, so the answer would be a definite NO. Interesting that you're so forgiving, have you ever been hurt 😛 ? LOL! Being hurt is a huge issue for me (pain scares me), so if a person hurts me in any kind of way, there's no way in hell I'll let them get close to me again. I get done. Heartbreak is painful lol.

You are brave, that's all I can say.

Posted by WaterCup
Ever since meeting up the other day he texts you all the time & you reply to his texts? And you do so after a year of him not texting/calling you? IDK about you but I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of answering any of his texts. He ignored you for a year & when he saw you again after a year he suddenly remembered that you exist. No thanks. A year is a very long time, anything can happen within a year- what gives him the nerve to believe that you'll carry on with him after such a long absence? What makes him believe that you didn't move on? If you take him back it'll make you look like you were waiting up for him, like you didn't have a life or other men to chase after you. I'm sorry but a year is too long for him to expect things to pick up from where you all left off 12 mnths ago... just because he saw you again. He didn't care about your feelings then, why should you care about his now? If you do take him back just remember that it's on his terms, so don't cry mnths down the line when he does another flip on you.

I reply to his txt because he said he was sorry , 2 years ago before we stopped talking he showed what some might say is interest in me. He would get me random gifts and hug me all the time, we met at work and so sometimes he world pull me into corners to talk to me when we should be working, and he would always find me to give me a hug before he left for the day. He never once said he out of his mouth that he liked me so I assumed he wanted to just befriends. Then one day we went for dinner and he it was weird he kept staring at me and asking odd question like what are you thinking right now etc etc. I got quite he then invited me out go somewhere else the same night I told him I had do something, Then when i would txt him he would not reply ,and would never txt me first. I baked him a cake for his birthday and when I called him to drop it off he did not pick up then called me a week later to tell me he had been busy and forgot. I was so angry with him because I knew he did not forget because he had txt me 15 mins before I called him asking me where I was. Anyway after that we spent more time together as just friends we have never been more then friends. One day he told me that he felt I was hiding something and wanted to know what it was so I told him via email that i like him a lot , I told him i hide it because i felt it was wrong of m

Posted by Rabbit
1)Unless you were in a committed long term relationship, engaged, or married, no one is under any obligation to stay in contact with someone they have a falling out with.

2) If you've had a falling out with someone, them not answering your texts or contacting you back ASAP can simply mean they're busy living their life. Sometimes you have to face the reality that you are not the center of their universe.

3) Maybe after the one year gap whatever issues caused the rough patch have been left behind/solved and he once again sees the positive things that drew you two together to begin with. Just go with it and see what happens.

Jayzuz...let's stop over thinking everything.

I'm not saying he is or was obligated to stay in contact, it's just weird that after so long he wants to get back into contact and act as if nothing happen, when I still don't even know what really happened. I just don't know what the thought process is, He was so reserved now he is all open and going out of his way it is strange.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Its not easy. In my case, I so very rarely find someone who I'm interested in, that I had to ask myself--which would be worse, not taking a chance or taking a chance? You know? I think finding a good person helps--and that takes examination and consideration. But if all that comes together, the risks of heart break are less. But that's always a possibility. So, is taking a chance greater than not taking a chance? If one opens one's heart to taking the chance, it says that you still have hope. Never taking a chance means you've closed your life, don't you think?

Heartbreak happens. But think about this: if you go in with a free and open heart and it doesn't work, then you have given your all and you know it just wasn't meant to be. There is peace in knowing and understanding that. 🙂

Also, if someone cheats on you, imho that makes not getting your heart broken easier. Because a real love won't cheat on you. A real love will protect your tender heart, no? Anyhoo...just some thoughts.

Real love wont cheat on you, TRUE. I like most of your post..easier said than done though, but those are really good words. Thanks 🙂