YIPE!!

Okay here goes..... I'm interested in someone, but there's a slight problem, he lives and Arizona, and I'm in Minnesota... He and I talk on the phone on a consistent basis, basically still getting to know eachother, and what I see of him, he's awesome.
We met back in May, he was in town for his best friend's wedding, although, both of us were keen, we kind of did this whole cat and mouse thing. Where he would be by people, and I would be by people, we'd get around eachother, and then both of us would avoid.. lol... I suppose that was pretty silly, but I have no idea how to approach another when I'm keen, I always seem to stumble on myself. So, one night, while he was here, a mutual friend of ours decided to get things moving by telling him to mess w/me. Like the friendly type mess w/thing. So he did that, and we ended up talking all night into the following day, and if I hadn't been so sleepy, I would've opted for it to never end. He has the most amazing eyes, and they almost glisten when he's smiling. And besides that, he's intelligent, has an opinion, we have a lot in common, and he's very ambitous... Wow...🙂

Anyways, very quickly after that, he had to go back. His family is here, so are his friends, but he has a personal goal of living in California for at least a year. And he's already so close. And from what I understand from our mutual friend, when he sets goals for himself, there's nothing stopping him. Not that I would ever get in the way of someone fulfilling their dreams, and it's actually very intriguing for me to find someone with such personal strength to leave all he knows for his dreams. I've never known anyone like that.

So here's the thing, I've decided that I will go visit him, part of me is kind of skidish of anything happening between us because of the situation at hand. I refuse to be a burden to his personal goals, but at the same time he's someone I've never encountered before, with a true ambition to make his goals/dreams happen. I know I wouldn't be the best at having a long distance relationship, yet I feel as though it would be a stupid move on my part if I just passed things up. HELP!

Storm....

Me a Scorpio, him a cancer...

Storm - Don't you dare give up on that Scorpio! You know that Cancer and Scorpio are a good (sun sign) match. You should look at the rest of your chart(s) too!

That is great that Mr. Scorpio has goals and dreams and I glad to hear you say that you wouldn't want to stop someone from obtaining those goals and dreams. If something good is happening to you guys maybe he will want to include you in his journey to Cali. Would you be opposed to something like that? Let me tell ya I love MN (i live in bloomington) but I would love the chance to move or visit new places.

Did he ask you to come visit him in AZ? You mentioned it so I was just wondering. Keep us updated on your progress with Mr. Scorpio 🙂

clvzl!

Whoops - I guess I read your inital post wrong - he is the cancer - yum a cancer man! No wonder he is so goal orientated - cardinal signs are leaders and tend to be goal orientated.

Anyways - same advice as above - just pretend I didn't get your signs mixed up!
clvzl!

Sign mix up?what are you talking about cancervslibra lol.Sorry but I can't help ya storm cancers are always just friends with me.

Just go for it.

Thanks for the feedback everybody!! CLVZL- He didn't ask me to come to AZ, but he put hints in there to come visit him, saying things like: I have a guest bedroom, don't know of anyone that will come visit me, but I have one. He told me that he was going to take a road trip to Vegas around my b-day, and I had been talking about a vacation. So I asked him if he wouldn't mind a tag along... He said not at all, and that it would be a blast. That's how it began. He had the chance to come visit at the end of this month, but can't because he's trying to switch jobs, and that would make for a bit of a problem.
As far as moving out there, well, it would be pretty difficult because I'm trying to help my sister with getting her business off the ground. Since I've been doing that now, it's kind of difficult for me to just go be with him. So part of me is wondering if I take this leap, and something happens, will I be setting myself up for torture!?! I could easily see myself falling hard for him, and though I know it's a good match cancer and scorp, I typically end up heart broken when getting mixed up with a cancer. Though he's very different from any of the cancerian's that I've been keen to in the past. The type of cancers that I've found myself mixed up with are the type to run like a bandit away from their emotions by means of substance abuse. He did that at one point, and no longer does anymore. Now he does things like run marathons, and runs sober cab for friends that drink.
Ah to heck with it, if I don't try, I'll be mad at myself for missing out. Regardless if anything happens or not, it's a great opportunity to go someplace I've never been, and be with great company... Even if nothing happens. Which there's part of me hoping for one way, and part the other... lol... I don't want to put any expectations on it though, so I'm just going to keep an open mind..

Storm - GO FOR IT! He is sending you all the little subtle hints that us cancers throw out! We do that to get a reaction, and that is what we want . . . a reaction. Next time he mentions the guest bedroom thing - tell him that you would like to come stay. I bet you that is what he wants to hear!

So i understand that you guys live apart, but just try it and see what happens. Every relationship has obsticles and well this one is just one of them long distance things. If it makes you feel better - my libra and i only see each other once a week or so because we work opposite hours and we have kids that take up our time. So just cause you live close doesn't mean that you get to see each other often.

It sounds like you guys like each other alot - react to his little hints and stuff!
Let me know what happens🙂
clvzl!

Next time he mentions the guest bedroom thing, ask him what color the bedspread is. Tell him you'll get a nightgown to lay across it, and a candle for the nightstand. Ask him if anyone else has ever slept in it. That'll get him.

Wow that's bold, don't know if I can do that. lol... Although there was a stint where we were texting one another, and I was kind of anon because he didn't know my number yet... Well, what can I say, he went to the, eh ehm, bedroom talk, and I went right with him...lol... I got nabbed a dirty girl, once he figured out who it was he was texting.. lol... And he said that he would have to take a cold shower after what he read. It hasn't come back to that since, I think we're both a bit too shy. That's also the reason why I'm not setting any expectations on this trip. If something happens, then it does, if not, well, that's okay too I suppose... I'd be lying if I said I wouldn't be a tinge dissapointed, but I'm not good at being the one to initiate. I could if certain circumstances left me no choice, but the long distance thing has me pretty skiddish, but his personality has me intrigued. We'll see we'll see... I'll definately be keeping everybody posted on things...

You can do it!! Make his ass all hot again!
clvzl!

A Scorp scared to make the first move? What a novelty!

I am inclined to think he wants you too...

CL

Yes yes yes... I'm an a-typical scorpio... Or maybe I am typical, the whole defiant thing from what is 'supposed' to be.... 😛

Okay so I said I would update... Wow!!! My head couldn't be further in the clouds... Okay so in August he came to visit, a surprise visit, and now he'll be stopping in for the last weekend of this month... OMG!!! I'm soooo excited... Anyways, so I ended up initiating the kiss when he came to visit in August, and pretty much we both have been going through a rough time trying to get back in the routine of our lives since... We both have been thinking alot, him thinking of coming back, and my thinking of living there. Again, I don't want to be a reason for him to come home and miss out on his goals, and right now I'm in a position that will make it a tinge difficult for me to go out there, but it could be figured out. Am I crazy for thinking like this? Is this too soon? Wow, it just seems like all the emotions are flooding in at a crazy crazy rate, it's almost difficult to decifer it all. I have no idea what to expect when I get out there, which is what I'm basing some of my decisions on. To see how he lives, the people he hangs with, how he handles things, etc. Just to have a good idea of what I might be getting into. I already know that mindwise he and I are pretty compatible on a lot of things. And for the things we don't agree on, we can agree to disagree. It's pretty cool... The wierdest thing though is all has pretty much been figured out over the phone. All of the one on one time together where we've been physically together has been a total of 72hrs give or take a few minutes. Hence my questioning.... This sort of stuff happens in the movies... But does it actually happen in life?!?!

Storm