Another Leo/Taurus (f/f)

Alright, alright I know there's been a lot of these recently. Wonder what's in the air?

But I guess I'm looking for more specific advice for my situation.

The Taurus is my bestfriend of 3 years. I've been in love with her for all of that (She was person who 'made' me realise I was gay.). I've been with 3 people in that time. Two dudes, definitely made me realise I was gay if I didn't know I was before, and a girl. I was the one who ended all three, with the last one turning into a emotionally abusive relationship (She's an aquarius, and did stuff like threatening to kill herself if I broke up with her, slicing her arm in front of my family and little brother and making me responsible 24/7 in case she felt bad or was suicidal. When I wasn't there she'd get very angry, once escalating to her hitting me. She now angry-drunk texts me about how I'm a piece of shit and she'll kill me.)

I've sort of been floating in the acceptance that nothings going to happen, but still being stupidly infatuated with her. She's a Taurus sun, Leo moon and Gemini. I'm a Leo, Cap, Leo. Early 2015 I asked her out, and she let me down (she talked about how she thinks romance is silly at our age, how she appreciates my friendship and if anything happens in the future, it happens, but she's not ready for a relationship. She hasn't ever been in a relationship).

She's a very organised, practical person who's a high achiever. Like OP of 1, wants to be a physicist high achiever. She gets easily stressed out and overworks herself. Shes the kind of studious person who works hard to get what she wants. Alongside this, she's very chatty, but definitely not an extrovert. Indecisive, but stubborn with her values. Not physically affectionate, but puts it up from me. Stay at home and netflix kind of gal. She gets excited easily about things, but her natural state is mildly amused disappointment in me. Hates spending money.

I'm an introvert. 10/10 would pick being at home over being with others. I'm not organised. I am the antonym of that word. She is eternally trying to organise and keep me on task, which puts her in a very mothering position. I am by nature easy going. I tease her about it and she gets 'annoyed' but as soon as it reaches conflict I back off and apologise. I'm impulsive. I'm definitely conflict averse, tending to burst into tears when other people start yelling. Like, uncontrollable tears. I'm quiet calm when I'm at my best, but I have suffered from the fun mix of social anxiety to depression which lead to an eating disorder in the past. I'm in recovery right now, and am on antidepressents which saved my life. My self-worth is based on how much other people love me, and I'm super physically affectionate. Not clingy tho, I can go days without talking to people and feel so rested afterwards. I'm a perfectionist as well, and I like being the best and doing well.

Okay, questions. Are we well matched? How should I ask her out? Go back to pining? How do I make her happy?

Is her moon Leo or you mean her rising is Gemini?

Posted by Ram416
Is her moon Leo or you mean her rising is Gemini?

Moon is leo and rising is Gemini. Mine is moon cap and rising leo.

Posted by touchandgo


Early 2015 I asked her out, and she let me down (she talked about how she thinks romance is silly at our age, how she appreciates my friendship and if anything happens in the future, it happens, but she's not ready for a relationship. She hasn't ever been in a relationship).

You can try asking her out again, just to see if she is ready now.

If she accepts, then great. But if she tells you the same thing she said in 2015, I suggest you move on.

Posted by KittyKnitter
well you mentioned you were in recovery, that should be priority now so timing is actually off for a romance. period. you need to have stability in your self esteem before you are in a relationship, right now you rely on how other people love you when really you need to work on loving yourself. you love your friend and she loves you, that much is clear. you might want more than a friendship but you are not ready for it.

actually you have no rush to get anywhere. work on getting healthy. work on maintaining and building a stronger friendship. maybe one day she will be ready for more and you will too. maybe she will never want more. a platonic friendship is best idea. if something is meant to happen it will, and then you will have friendship as basis of relationship.

Yep