do I still have a chance— any advice is needed!

I dated a taurus guy for a month. But we have been seeing each other for two month before as friends or something like that. We go to University together also. I know tauruses are very stubborn so that is wht I don`t know if he will ever change his mind. He left me saying that the thing we had just wasn`t it. He might have felt that I liked him a lot (cancer girl). But the problem is that I just don`t belive he did`t feel anything. We were testing each other for those two month and then had a great passionate (no sex) month. I know he liked me physically. That part was great! Then in the end he just told me that we bacame too good friends and that there is no way we can be some kind of enemies after what we had. But he also said that it would not be fair to me and to himself to continue relationship since he doesn`t have that special feeling or whatever. In the beggining I was the one to send messages and make ideas for us to go out. All of that changed from the moment we started dating officialy. He was the one with ideas, calling, texting... Not too much but every day we were in some kind of contact.

I dated a taurus guy for a month. But we have been seeing each other for two month before as friends or something like that. We go to University together also. I know tauruses are very stubborn so that is wht I don`t know if he will ever change his mind. He left me saying that the thing we had just wasn`t it. He might have felt that I liked him a lot (cancer girl). But the problem is that I just don`t belive he did`t feel anything. We were testing each other for those two month and then had a great passionate (no sex) month. I know he liked me physically. That part was great! Then in the end he just told me that we bacame too good friends and that there is no way we can be some kind of enemies after what we had. But he also said that it would not be fair to me and to himself to continue relationship since he doesn`t have that special feeling or whatever. In the beggining I was the one to send messages and make ideas for us to go out. All of that changed from the moment we started dating officialy. He was the one with ideas, calling, texting... Not too much but every day we were in some kind of contact.

PART TWO- so suddenly when we started getting more serious. He started telling me his deepest thoughts and problems... He has a lot of them and I am very good at leastening... So all of that seemed as a great thing for two of us. We became more important to each other. I know he is not that intimate with a lot of people... Suddenly he changed his mind and told me that we should have stayed friends. That he knows how he feels when he is in love and that this just isn`t it. Is it possible that I have found a guy who admits that has a great friend in me and a guy who is attracted to me and just doesn`t want to be fith me— He never said that something is wrong with me, the way I act when we are together or something like that. Problem can be that he got scared because we werer getting serious. Which we both said that is very good!!! He talked about aour plans for future month... where to go etc. I liked it, I want to be with that one special person. Maybe he got the feeling that we are too different. We are but we get along very well! So after we split up I sent him a message telling him I don`t believe he has`t felt anyhing, that it is to early to stop what we have, taht we should have talked about it etc. He did not reply.

part three- after that I waited around 10 days and sent him a nice tex telling him that it would be nice if we by accident saw each other on a big festival in our city (not very possible around 100.000 people are there). I also told him that I am cool now that it has past enough time and that i miss our conversations. He replied in two ours telling me how surprised fries he was to find his cell phone and then see my message (nice thing he explained why it took him so much time ^_^) and then on his own told me on which days he will me there (it is 5 days festival). I replied in 20 hours ^_^ telling him that I will me there on one days taht he will be there. Then in 5 days I told him, since it was the day he told me he will me there on that festival, that I will not go there but that I will be some place close to the festival and that we could meet if he has time. That day he was nervous, I felt it so we were sending sms-s to each other about some thing that have nothing to do with us. Anyway, in the evening I sent him one last message askig him wether he is going or not because in those messages during the day he kept beeing unsure of the time when he is going to festival. hE DIDN`T REPLY.

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I dated a taurus guy for a month. But we have been seeing each other for two month before as friends or something like that. We go to University together also. I know tauruses are very stubborn so that is wht I don`t know if he will ever change his mind. He left me saying that the thing we had just wasn`t it. He might have felt that I liked him a lot (cancer girl). But the problem is that I just don`t belive he did`t feel anything. We were testing each other for those two month and then had a great passionate (no sex) month. I know he liked me physically. That part was great! Then in the end he just told me that we bacame too good friends and that there is no way we can be some kind of enemies after what we had. But he also said that it would not be fair to me and to himself to continue relationship since he doesn`t have that special feeling or whatever. In the beggining I was the one to send messages and make ideas for us to go out. All of that changed from the moment we started dating officialy. He was the one with ideas, calling, texting... Not too much but every day we were in some kind of contact.

I am sorry to hear... but we are very honest individuals. We will tell you straight if we do or don't like you in that way.
We are fixed honest sign...... again, taurus men are different than female...but we have friend zone..and most likely you are in a friend zone. 😢 ...so you dated for a month and no sex?

part four- that was all ffom me. It was not nice not to answer since we were making plans. He could normaly just tell me-no, I decided not to go. Anyway, in three days somehow in the middle of all of those people we actually saw each other!!! I was there with my best friends very nice and handsome bf alone. My ex saw me. We could`nt belive we saw each other. He had that shy or somehow different look. He is usually very proud of himself but that day... I was the one to act as if nothing happened. He said hello to each other. He was behind with his friends trying not to lose them. It was strange. He looked at my friend very unpolitely (I liked it, like he was jelous ^_^) and then he went away. I din`t introduce him to my friend. There was no time. Kept smiling during that very short contact. That is all. It has been tree days since then. Still no contact. The thing taht is bothering me is that I know we had the thing. I felt it and a as a cancer girl I am an expert for feelings. Why did he suddenly go away. I know he has no girlfriend now. He had one 5 year relationship but I don`t know how it ended. He also had a relationship with a girl that cheated on him. About that he told me that he doesn`t want something like that to happen to him again. But he knew he had me completly. Once he told me that no one has ever treated him so nicely and though about him as much as I did. But also once told me to be a bit colder from time to time just to keep the excitement (that was stupid) I told him that he can have all of my attention or non of it and that I don`t want to play any games.
My question for all of you is do I still have any chance— Why do you think he pulled away? And how can I try to make him come back? Do taurus men ever come back? HELP I am ready for stubborn man who likes his daily routine and is a bit laizy... ^__^

I agree with everything Milkysoft said. He hasn't mislead you. He has said it very plainly. I only wish other guys would be that straightforward when they no longer want to be with you. He hasn't even sent you any mixed signals. He politely answered a text that you sent, and when you pushed to make a concrete plan he didn't respond because he didn't want to see you. Don't read into it, that's the only reason he didn't respond. You deserve someone who is crazy about you. You won't have to chase and drive yourself insane with analysing words and actions. It will feel easy. Doesn't this feel difficult, hurtful and painful? Because its not right, and he's not right for you. Move on.

I understan you, thanks for the answers. Somehow it hurts even more because I just can`t be angry with him. He didn`t hurt me. Well, he did but he did the right thing. The question is, is it possible to remind him of what he has lost? I know it meant to him something. He told me that he would never be with someone he doesnt like and appriciate during the time we dated. So... I am scared that he will forget about if we have no contact... It feels to me he pushed me away on purpose and wants me to get angry and let him go so he can move on too. Things ended to quickly and everyhing was more then great. Do any of my words make any sense— hehhehe

Move on without any hope of reconciliation. Cut it off like its never going to happen. Maybe he will miss you after awhile and maybe he will reconsider, but by that time you may not even want him. You can't prove to a man your worth. He has to realize it for himself and value it. The surest way to prove that you don't know your own worth is by sticking around, texting every few days, trying to make plans, telling him he doesn't know the depth of his feelings. He will run the other way fast and think you're crazy...and he would be right.

Heh, ok then, moving on, thanks ^_^ well it`s hard but I have to. Taurus people like to take time. I am afraid that with the time he needs too many thing will change in my mind. Shame, it was a nice expirience...

yes, but it seemed as he was ok with that. But also it was very possible to happen soon. Suddenly he left me. Maybe because he felt that I will become more attached... who knows. Why would he start all of this anyway? He knew me. He knew what kind of person I am. Not much has changed during the dating time. Of course passion part... but still no surprises on the both sides.

hi thre sanja, ok im a taurus, in my opinion (if he really loves you) just tell him (your right, if u dont have feelings for me, i understand and ill be on my way then) tell him you love him and leave, give him as much 2 months if in 2 months u dont have a txt or a call from him, thats it, he really doesnt love u, and believe me, im as a taurus as it gets hahaha... hope dies last remember, and well if he told u plain and simple just friendship, he is lying, its either i love you and i have some problems trusting or i just dont love u but im nice when im near the person i just dont want to hurt, but i dont really txt or call that person, bcus at least for me as a taurus, if there is love i will keep contact if is not love i never call or txt no body... (if its friendship well its just that friendship and there is no love of closeness or sentimental just friendship, but to be only friendship, it means that i never intimate with that person, if i did, i cut bonds bcus it hurts like hell to be near of contacting a person that we loved and we miss it like crazy but we are stubborn and just to show u that we dont care we eat our pain and hide it somewhere deep inside and u bet u cant tell that we are dying to tell u how much we miss u, but NO i prefer to die first than let u know that we still in love but i cant if i already told u friendship.. (its a lie there is no taurus friendship if there was intimacy before)..

and again thats my point of view, hope it helps..

so XaldebaranX you think I should tell him my feelings? i never told him that I love him but I think he felt it... nevermind, as soon as we get in contact I will do such a thing and wait.
But I did not understand the part about friendship you were writing about. If he does answer my texts and if he said hello in a very strange, confused and shy way when he saw and if he was very intimate whit me in many ways you think that there is a possibility that he still misses me? or that he wants us to be friends only by the way he acts?

Sanja, I think you should move on.
The right guy is out there for you.