Do Mail Order Brides Really Exist?

Do mail order bride really exist?

The answer is Yes, and No, it really depends on your

definition of mail order brides.

The historical roots of the mail-order bride industry that

emerged in the 1800s in the American frontier: European

American men found financial success in the migration

West, but the one thing that was missing was the company

of a wife. Very few women lived there at this time, so it

was hard for these men to settle down and start a family.

They attempted to attract women living back East; the men

wrote letters to churches and published personal

advertisements in magazines and newspapers. In return, the

women would write to the men and send them photographs of

themselves. Courtship was conducted by letter, until a

woman agreed to marry a man she had never met.[9] Many

women wanted to escape their present way of living, gain

financial security and see what life on the frontier could

offer them. Most of these women were single, but some were

widows, divorcees or runaways.

During most of the 20 century, the mail order bride

continued with the main method of women putting

themselves in catalogs. Then men would view the women's

profile, then for a fee order the women address. These

became the main order bride companies business method in

the 20 the century, with the fall of the Soviet union and

cheap airfares, these companies spread from Asian to

Eastern Europe, mainly now the Ukraine

Today most women do not leave their countries to escape

poverty but to seek a man they believe will be a good

husband and provider, that is family orientated and that

looks at women with more respect than in many countries

around the world.

With the advent of the intent, the mail order bride

industry boomed into a billion dollar industry, Now with

a few pictures and website, anyone could be in the mail

order bride business. With hundreds of ma and pop shops

opening over the last two decade, Most who were clients of

one of the three original mail order bride companies, A

Foreign Affair (AFA), Anastasia and EC, The owner of

ForeignLadies.com met his wife while working on a tour

from loveme.com, A Foreign affair still today in the

largest in the industry, each week they offer tours to one

of a dozen countries China to Peru and everywhere in

between. The industry grew so fast in 1998, Senator

Cantwell of Washington state introduces legislation to

regulate the mail order bride industry. and a new law

Called: "International Marriage Brokers Act" or IMBRA

was born. With stiff regulations, many companies like

Anastasia moved from Bride business to Fantasy Chat.



Although the industry strongly objects to the term mail

order brides, saying there is no difference if man in

New York courting a woman from California through

match.com, then courting a woman from Russia. Critics

like the Terra Justice Center has a different out look,

saying these men take advantage of women oversea. But

studies have contradicted these statement and show abuse

is actually lower in these marriages. See "International

Marriages - A Report to Congress"

So why do thousands of women join these site: Elena

Kosalova of the Ukraine says, "Men here are not serious

about family, they expect women to stay home while they

go out each night with their friends and drink. I want a

man who s serious, mature and who wants to be with his

wife and family. I have met Americans in the past and

they seem more reliable and mature." Elena rejects the

idea she is a "Mail Order Bride"

Why do men seek a mail order bride: James Goodwin, 43 of

South Carolina says, " I meet women here all the time,

but I just can not find the values I am looking for.. I

have dated here for more than 20 years, After three days

in Kiev, I was shock at how many beautiful women I met

that I would consider marrying, now I am just trying to

reduce my options and pick the right one. It truly is the

fastest way to find a beautiful sincere women.

So what is the cost, the cost can range greatly from site

to site and from type of service, AFA or loveme.com

offers everything from letter writing, tours and executive

services for the rich and famous. As little as $ 12 to as

much as $ 25,000. The owner John Adams say's the best way

is just go over and meet then women, avoid letters and

never waste money on expensive chat. You can meet up to

1000 beautiful women in just 10 days, it will be the

greatest vacation of your life. Joe Nail of

ForeignLadies.com, has stayed with the traditional Letter

Writing, Each letter is $ 7.50 and but say they do plan on

offer some limited chat option.

Many sites like,foreignwomen.com, PhilippineSinges.com,

and UkraineSsingles.com, that offer simple unlimited

membership for $ 29 per month. These type of site also

target pacific regions, like Asia, Latin America or

Eastern Europe.

There is also a site for mail order grooms;

SingleMenOnline.com, that caters to men publishing their

photos in hopes to meet an American Bride.

James Dunn, who is a ghost writer for review sites says

"You get what you pay for. Membership sites to do not

screen the members at all. so you never know who you

really are writing, The big boys require the women to

apply in person in one of their local offices. The

companies that offer group tours will introduce you to

hundreds of beautiful women, for the cost of $ 1000 to

$ 3000 depending on location, about the same you would pay

for any vacation. Several companies also do individual

tours these can range from $ 750 to $ 1500, But only arrange

one to one introductions, Always make sure they are

biased in the USA or EU, Most of the complaints come

from small agencies that are desperate and need to make as

much as they can from you. Just a note, if the company is

based in an a foreign country you will have no recourse

if they do not follow through.



So do mail order brides exist, If you belive a if a

woman is a mail order bride if she lives in another

county then Yes, But if you believe it just another

dating option like any on-line dating site, matchmaker or

dating service, than No. . It really seems like a doubled

standard in the world, If a women meets a man in Italy or

France, then oh that is so romantic, but if a man meets a

women in Philippines, than ....