So there's this Taurus guy, he's 10 years younger than me and barely an acquaintance. I asked him for a favor recently, gave him my email address to send me some file I needed.
Instead of doing that, he added me on facebook and then tried to invite himself over to my place, offering to pleasure me orally (he tried to be clear it would be just oral). I refused, told him I wasn't interested and how I thought he had a girlfriend already and that he could barely stand me at that. He replied I was mistaken, how he broke up with his girlfriend and how he's really attracted to me. He told me how I should trust him and sent me his dick pic to show me he trusts me.
He kept asking to see me, but someplace that's not in public and saying he won't talk to me when we see each other around other people we both know. After I kept firm and told him no again he did a complete 180 on me and said it was all an experiment and how he actually does have a girlfriend and he just suspected I was either frigid or had some lesbian tendencies and how he would never do that (oral) to me.
I was honestly baffled and felt like I was in a plot of a high school movie. I assume he was lying and trying to salvage the situation and his bruised ego. I replied I was happy I could help him with his experiment and then ignored the rest of his messages where he was trying to insult me some more. Through all that he kept saying he will send me the file I asked him for, even after the insults. I removed him from my facebook that same day because I didn't feel comfortable having a person like that around my facebook. In the end he never sent me that file I needed.
My question is will this be the end of it or will I see more of this guy? Will he try something else?
I don't have much experience dealing with Taurus guys so any insight would be appreciated. His placements are: Sun Taurus, Moon Taurus, Mercury Aries, Venus Taurus, Mars Pisces.
I do have to see him around in public but since we were never friendly I just try to ignore his presence. But I am aware of him more than I was before and it just makes me so mad thinking about the way he treated me.
I have a feeling he will come back... they usually do. He was testing you big time, he's got some major insecurities too. Not talking to you in public. Just ignore him the next time he comes around.
I read about Taurus coming back but this didn't really seem like the usual situation for him to come back to. I don't think he's particularly invested beside trying to score some action, he got rejected, but he also probably feels like he got the upper hand in the end. So to me it would seem like it's a pretty straight forward situation and a done deal, but I guess time will tell.
Yes, I do realize I am fixating on this more than I should. I can't really explain why, maybe because there isn't too much else going on at the moment. There isn't more to the story, there wasn't any attraction towards him, he's not bad looking but he seemed like a bit of douche and not the type I'd go for.
I feel thrown of balance by him. When he started messaging me I was disbelieving and a bit amused, because I thought I was reading too much into it. I don't think I would think much of it if he just accepted no and never sent me the file. But it's the way he actually went about it, trying to play it off as an experiment and trying to insult me, that won't let me let this go at the moment. If I was his age the things he said would actually insult me and hurt me and do a number on my self confidence. My self confidence isn't that sturdy to begin with. I feel stupid for even indulging him in the first place, for letting him get close enough so he could insult.
I admit there is a part of me that makes me want to see him try again. I think it would be better if he didn't and this situation would stay as it is so I could later think about it as a weird thing that happened. I just wish there was some way to make him eat his words. I know it's not really possible, I know I wouldn't have some smart comeback to anything he might say. I'm just not too rational about this. With his words he went from the guy I barely even noticed was there before to somebody whose presence I can't help but be aware of even if I go around trying to ignore him.
I will also admit I'm not the most mature 32 yo and I haven't had much romantic experience to begin with. So yeah, I realize how this whole situation sounds. I debated posting this at all but usually talking and writing about things is helping me process them as I go so I guess it is what I'm doing here.
And I just realized that I might feel like I'm angry at this guy in particular, but actually I am more angry at our society in general.
Because it's perfectly okay for him to send me a dick pic, a thing I didn't ask for in the first place, and not worry about me posting it somewhere on the internet after he went out of his way to be an asshole towards me. Even if I did it wouldn't be a big deal to guy. But if it was my sexy pic I'd live in fear of a guy posting it and then other people calling me a whore for sending a sexy pic to a guy. (That said no, I did not send him a sexy pic.)
Also how the fact that I didn't swoon at the sight of his dick must make me either frigid or a lesbian. It can't be that I simply don't find him attractive. Must be something wrong with me! I don't know, I had an ex call me frigid one time and then a whore another time after break up when I was ending our friends with benefits arrangement and I still feel angry about it sometimes. Words have a special way of hurting me and staying with me long time after something happened.
I've seen so many conversations like this posted around the internet. A guy starts a normal conversation with a girl and after getting the basics over, goes straight in to asking her out on a date or for sex. He acts nice at first, and is pushy. He then becomes aggressive and insulting when the girl continues to say no. 'You're a slut, anyway. No one would want to fuck you'. 'You should be lucky I even asked you, ugly bitch'. Those kind of replies.
I don't understand it. Guys think they have a right to our bodies and if we decline, they feel so insulted that we declined their 'right' that they do a complete 180.
You shouldn't take any of what was said personally. It appears to happen quite frequently, sadly. Maybe he thought you'd be an easy lay since you're older than him. 'Who doesn't want a younger man that can perform?' kind of thinking. Who knows, though. I would believe it if he still had a gf and was planning on cheating on her.
Whether he'll come back...well, if he's really stupid and cocky, then maybe, though the convo would probably go the same way. I would think it's unlikely, though, since he probably would be happy giving oral to any number of women. You just happened to contact him.
Instead of doing that, he added me on facebook and then tried to invite himself over to my place, offering to pleasure me orally (he tried to be clear it would be just oral). I refused, told him I wasn't interested and how I thought he had a girlfriend already and that he could barely stand me at that. He replied I was mistaken, how he broke up with his girlfriend and how he's really attracted to me. He told me how I should trust him and sent me his dick pic to show me he trusts me.
He kept asking to see me, but someplace that's not in public and saying he won't talk to me when we see each other around other people we both know. After I kept firm and told him no again he did a complete 180 on me and said it was all an experiment and how he actually does have a girlfriend and he just suspected I was either frigid or had some lesbian tendencies and how he would never do that (oral) to me.
I was honestly baffled and felt like I was in a plot of a high school movie. I assume he was lying and trying to salvage the situation and his bruised ego. I replied I was happy I could help him with his experiment and then ignored the rest of his messages where he was trying to insult me some more. Through all that he kept saying he will send me the file I asked him for, even after the insults. I removed him from my facebook that same day because I didn't feel comfortable having a person like that around my facebook. In the end he never sent me that file I needed.
My question is will this be the end of it or will I see more of this guy? Will he try something else?
I don't have much experience dealing with Taurus guys so any insight would be appreciated.
His placements are: Sun Taurus, Moon Taurus, Mercury Aries, Venus Taurus, Mars Pisces.
I do have to see him around in public but since we were never friendly I just try to ignore his presence. But I am aware of him more than I was before and it just makes me so mad thinking about the way he treated me.