first love experience

Talk about your first long-term love and If it worked out or not. If not, then why it didnt work out for you? What made you walk out the door on them? Since bulls are persistent af. If it worked out, then YAY for you 🙂 What makes a bull give up on the one they love? I know infidelity and if-your-SO-falls-for-someone-else are the main ones but anything else?

Posted by aftershine
Talk about your first long-term love and If it worked out or not. If not, then why it didnt work out for you?

I didn't see a future with him. It was a logical decision. An internalized, suppressed, but re-occurring thought...something was missing. I loved this person. Love wasn't enough. I look for consistency, reliability, honesty, and integrity in an individual. A man who exudes those traits can emit a natural high that can be much more euphoric than being in love just for the moment. I saw no potential for longevity. I mentioned this in a previous thread.

He was a flash in the pan. Too impulsive. Unreliable. Inconsistent. Romanticized the entire concept of love. Lived in a dreamworld. Nothing about him was concrete, genuine, authentic or solid. He tried too hard. Marketing and selling a fairy tale ending that only existed in his head. I can honestly state that he never understood me. Never knew me. Just was in love with the 'idea' of impressing me. Impatient when he didn't get his way. Needed affirmation constantly. I was young, and in love...

Then reality set in...

...And the very thought of investing any more time in this relationship made me sick to the stomach.

Love turned into something else. I wouldn't say 'hate'....just 'indifference.'

I tried, of course for the sake of the relationship...and...NOTHING. my patterns of behavior began to change. I stopped returning his calls (a bitch move). Something I'm not proud of. Very immature on my part. When he did get a hold of me, I just kept myself real occupied with a number of things, but I knew his days were numbered. I was relieved when it was over.

He probably had ALOT of air placements, suppose he wanted to save the bond between you two and keep you ...what should he have done?

@TaurusBull1977 also what is your venus placement?

Posted by aftershine
Since bulls are persistent af.

What is af?

Posted by TaurusBull1977
He was a flash in the pan. Too impulsive. Unreliable. Inconsistent. Romanticized the entire concept of love. Lived in a dreamworld. Nothing about him was concrete, genuine, authentic or solid. He tried too hard. Marketing and selling a fairy tale ending that only existed in his head. I can honestly state that he never understood me. Never knew me. Just was in love with the 'idea' of impressing me. Impatient when he didn't get his way.

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intriguing, please do tell more TaurusBull1977

Posted by aftershine
He probably had ALOT of air placements, suppose he wanted to save the bond between you two and keep you ...what should he have done?

Honestly....to tell you the truth... Patience, Active Listening, a more gradual, less intimidating approach, and a keen interest in getting to know me (would have been his saving grace). His intentions didn't appear too authentic. He didn't deal well with constructive criticism either, this made communication even more difficult. It's as if I was suppose to just navigate through this idealistic fantasy he had for the both of us, not have an opinion, and just blow sunshine up his ass (plenty of ego stroking).

I know I'm making him out to look like a monster. I share some of the blame, too. He was actually very sweet. Very romantic. I'm sure his heart was in the right place. But it was too much, too soon, too orchestrated, too delusional.

Posted by aftershine
@TaurusBull1977 also what is your venus placement?

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His Venus was in Gemini. His Moon was in Leo. (Date of Birth 7/13/72). I don't know his rising sign.

My Venus is in Aries. My Moon is in Gemini. My Rising Sign is in Aquarius.

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Posted by TaurusBull1977
He was a flash in the pan. Too impulsive. Unreliable. Inconsistent. Romanticized the entire concept of love. Lived in a dreamworld. Nothing about him was concrete, genuine, authentic or solid. He tried too hard. Marketing and selling a fairy tale ending that only existed in his head. I can honestly state that he never understood me. Never knew me. Just was in love with the 'idea' of impressing me. Impatient when he didn't get his way.

intriguing, please do tell more TaurusBull1977

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Contrary to popular belief, money isn't everything for Bulls. He assumed he had to impress me by bragging about his finances, his pseudo-feeling of self-importance, feeling he understood what was best for the both of us. He wanted this idealistic plan executed right away. No gradual courtship, no getting-to-know-process. Although his heart was probably in the right place, his intentions didn't appear too sincere. I never wanted a superficial relationship. Just a real connection. No pretenses. I also caught him in a few white lies. He appeared inconsistent in some of his actions. I felt like I was given an ultimatum, it's now or never.

You can't coerce a connection with someone. It has to happen gradually or spontaneously. This can't be orchestrated.

I worked consistently since I was 17 years of age. I love financial independence. This is what attracted me to self-employment. Not the overall finances in general, it's the freedom that comes with it. Blame it on my Jupiter in Gemini.😉

I didn't care for his money, nor his false bravado. But I can tell you, I was quite relieved when it was over.

Thank you Taurusbull1977...your old relationship sounds like mine with my aquarius Ex. He's a great guy, yet something's missing.