Is there still a chance?

I met this Taurus guy in June. We went out a few times but he came on too strong for me. Basically he kept trying to make out with me & I wasn't ready for that yet. The last time we were out & I pulled away he seemed angry when he left so I didn't try to contact him & he didn't contact me either. However, we still see each other once a week because we have the same hobby.

At class he still talks to me, jokes around, plays around etc. Every so often he's been making little comments here & there about me not contacting him or not wanting to date him etc. Finally one night after these comments at class, I sent him a msg explaining that it wasn't that I didn't like him he just came on too strong for me. Then last week at class he spent half of it strictly working with & playing around with me. After class all of us went out for a drink & he spent the entire time talking with me, rubbed my leg, massaged my hand etc.

The next day I sent him a text to say hi & asked him if he wanted to go out with me & some friends that weekend. He called me the next day saying he had friends coming over in the afternoon but he did want to go...said he would let me know what was happening with his friends that day & if he could make it. That day came & I got the blow off text that they were still there & he wasn't going to be able to make it. I responded with "bummer some other time then & have a good night." Haven't heard from him since. As far as I'm concerned the ball is in his court.

I thought maybe he was still interested & with the new understanding that I like him but I'm not easy that maybe we could work on getting to know each other better, or was I just misreading things?

A Taurus won't chase, they'll do their best to draw you in. If you're not comfortable with initiating, it would be better to move on

My Taurus friend always told me I'd have to draw him out of the house

"I'm not the one to initiate but I will always make time for you if you want to go out"

As you can see all across the Taurus board, the men are too lazy to reply to anything 😛

I don't mind initiating some but I'm not gonna do ALL the work lol. I was more wondering if he's just going to toy with me now?

Guess I can try to initiate a few more times & if he keeps blowing me off I'm done.

Scorpio, do you have time for this? My Scorpio girlfriends won't give that kind of man the time of the day.

Don't think he's toying, I think you're looking for different things. You both want assertive partners.

Or don't play any game. You'll find someone who'll value you for who you are AND who'll be assertive about expressing his interest.

Like I sd I won't do all the work. Flirting is not a problem 😉

Everyone seems to have a different opinion on this: what do you guys consider chasing? Initiating texts? Initiating calls? Obviously asking someone out would be. How much is too much?

I don't play games either.

^^^I read what u wrote....assume it had to do with your personal experience? It was good. Why did you hide it?

I do have the advantage of seeing him once a week so there won't be those long gaps of absolutely no contact lol. We'll see what happens I guess.

I was just worried before that he was only interested in getting me to sleep with him since he came on so strongly with the physical stuff, which is why I backed way off. I am not that kinda girl. And I couldn't tell if he thought I wasn't interested because of that or if he just let me be because that was all he wanted & since he wasn't going to get it he'd ghost.

Posted by scorpgal76
I do have the advantage of seeing him once a week so there won't be those long gaps of absolutely no contact lol. We'll see what happens I guess.

I was just worried before that he was only interested in getting me to sleep with him since he came on so strongly with the physical stuff, which is why I backed way off. I am not that kinda girl. And I couldn't tell if he thought I wasn't interested because of that or if he just let me be because that was all he wanted & since he wasn't going to get it he'd ghost.

You seem to have a good head on your shoulders. His reaction doesn't matter here, if he thought you weren't interested, that's on him. Stick to your principles.

Scorpgal76,

Don't pursue. let him. He is a Taurus. Once they like you they chase. if he ain't do that then

let it be. I had lots of Taurus men in my life. I don't insist. I let them do that for me.

They like to invest... you know what I mean. so Save yourself.

How does a Taurus guy normally flirt? Does it include alot of sexual innuendo & touchy-feely or is he really just trying to get some?

That's a player Taurus.. lol. I don't like it. Soo obvious.

I had a Taurus who just sooo much touchy feely but not sexual innuendo(serious person and slow bull).

I had a Taurus Ex who had lots of Sexual inuendo and touchy feel(intense and player).

soultalk,

based on my experience. That's how I know Taurus men.

Update: My Ex Taurus man gave me present. I already told him that I won't give him because he don't

need it. He still gave me. I don't know why... but I hate to accept it really. I don't like anything

coming from an EX. I don't like remembering an EX.But somehow, he bought me expensive one and I can't

even resist. lol. A gold bracelet and some other stuff.I don't know what he was trying to project.

I am not into him and I plainly stated I don't want to give because I don't want to be misunderstood.

He knows all the colors I like..

Me: Oh you know the colors I like.

Him: M, I know you.

Me: oh ok. 'smiling'

soultalk,

We fought before Christmas and he stated already we are done and Christmas day he gave me presents.

Yesterday, My family and I went out and we came home 9 pm since 10:00 am we left. We didn't say

anything before we left. As I have said I am not into him and I don't want to tell my whereabouts.

This morning, He asked me...While having coffee and silent even we're both in the kitchen

Him: Where did you go yesterday?

Me: just hanging around.. (not the truth, just alibi as I don''t want him to know)

Him: oooh ok.

I am not confused Scorpio. What he said won't be taken lightly in my part. He kept saying move on. lol

I had lots of dating when we separate 2 wks. lol. I just want to react but I don't care what he is

saying.. He even updated me that his wife and him filed a divorce already and on Jan. 5th he is going

to get a full medical check up. lol . I am not asking these.

and even asking the sag man who courted me when we separate our ways.. he saw it before we separate

our ways. I can't get his point telling me ''move on'' and we are ''done''.

The more he kept saying those words... The more I tell him.. It looks like it's you who don't do

anything to your life.. lol.

Last night as we came home.. I am shocked.. he drank a lot of wine. First time I saw him.

lol. I ignored him and my family just went to the room. enough is enough.

I felt like I bruised his ego that's why he did this...and to repair it is not my goal anymore.

He could be gauging your interest, by pulling away. Because you scrambled his brains with your earlier rejection, he probably does not know where you stand and is assessing the situation . Taurus are very touchy, but it does seem like he came too strong (sounds like he probably read some shitty pua advice lmao).

Taurus are slow paced as hell (and maybe he had legit excuse). What seems like weeks to you is literally seconds to Taurus.

Maybe let him know you are a challenge that likes to be chased? Otherwise, he's probably moved on and you should too.

Posted by soultalk
ya my interest said u r very stubborn n if u r stubborn I am stubborn too. haven't heard from him in 3 mnths n haven't talked in almost 7 mnths. lol I don't even think this is disappearing period anymore, it is more disappeared I guess 😛

Is that why Taurus men are great magicians? 😛

Posted by M143

That's a player Taurus.. lol. I don't like it. Soo obvious.

I had a Taurus who just sooo much touchy feely but not sexual innuendo(serious person and slow bull).

I had a Taurus Ex who had lots of Sexual inuendo and touchy feel(intense and player).

What kind of Taurus man do you like then M143?

Posted by Vainth
What seems like weeks to you is literally seconds to Taurus.

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We do like binding our time

The disappearing act, the magician's last trick 😛

What kind of Taurus man do you like then M143?

atearth,

Taurus man who his slow and serious so challenging.I go for this kind.

rather than intense and just play and poof... disaster.

Scorpio have accurate intuition. So better save yourself for any games.

I hadn't thought of how they draw back as a power play but in retrospect I can see how my ex husband did that. I didn't know it was a game. To me it was hurtful (too much Cancer for my own good). Even if I had known, though, I probably wouldn't have played as I'm not that kind of game player. He also wasn't capable of the kind of emotional connection I wanted. I know I'll never end up with a Taurus again. Too many points that don't match/mesh well with me.

MoonArtist,

Glad you learned the hard way.

Impulsv,

I like their games. I really loved it when they thought I am powerless. lol.

and for some reason, I already prepared it for them before they came in.

I test water how clear it is and date without emotionally attachment.. to save

my tears and pains.

I posted this comment on a previous thread......

Posted by TaurusBull1977

For me, it's not about winning, but the 'act' of maintaining consistency. Initiating contact or touching base with me at least once a week can be a sign of chasing. Asking me out for coffee can indicate a sign of chasing. Slight touches and casual flirting for me can indicate chasing.

I hate being rushed. But, I also dislike it when my flirting, interest and mild form of affections go unnoticed.

With some Bulls, you have to find that balance.

No power play.
No mind games.
Just reciprocated interest, coupled with a gradual courtship, on a consistent basis.

I'm not complex, but direct, linear, and quite simplistic.

The only 'vague misrepresentation' I have read on these threads so far, are some (not all) authors attempting to create situations that only exists in their heads.

Wow, definitely familiar with the power-plays. Once you decided to not play the game though, seems like they get bored and move on.
But I think Bull men need someone who are not afraid to take charge/initiate often, then they will become loyal with you.
A bit passive.

I don't think Taurus men really play all these power games. When we feel challenged, we can be a real thorn in your side, but that's not really a game.

I think a lot of the water sign women (typically known to game and manipulate a lot more) in this thread are probably just projecting, and I notice not a lot of specifics are given. Water signs are the gamers and the signs who wear masks. The emotions are so intense, you learn to be secretive about them from early on in life. Bulls are pretty content inwardly. Everyone knows how slippery, charming, and manipulative the fish can be. If you haven't been emotionally manipulated by the crybaby inside a Cancer, you haven't met one. And any astrologer will probably say Scorpio is the sign most obsessed with power, and also the sign that plays the most games in courtship. All the little "tests" count as games in my book.

But as a lot of Scorps have said, much of that behavior is really rooted in self-protection and distrust, two other aspects inherent in the Scorp nature. Taurus might come off as a gamer due to our shyness/passivity, slow nature and thought process, initial hesitance to commit bc we know its for good when we do, etc. But I don't think Taurus men are sitting around thinking "I know I've really impressed her; now I'm not going to call her for 2 months so she gets confused and scared." We don't fail to pursue because we want to be in the position of power. It could be said that there's more power in being the aggressor. Confidently going after what you want is power. Often we want something or someone really bad, and our nature is to just kinda hope it comes to us. Thankfully it does alot of times, bc we are Venus's little darlings, lol, but we really aren't sure why. LOL. A lot of it is just a matter of passivity, insecurity, etc.

I know I've been perceived by the Scorp I had a crush on, as playing games. But Scorp women almost challenge you by their very presence. The aura of a Scorpio is intimidating and challenging, even though some don't realize it, so of course you start to flex or defend a little.

With other signs its very different though. I don't feel the same around Virgos for instance. The Virgos I know radiate purity and kindness and I feel at ease around them. They're easy to read and they don't wear masks like all the water signs, so you can have more confidence to initiate with them, without having to second guess their motives or feelings.