Food

How do u stop a Taurus woman from eating you out of house and home?

First off, does she cook?

Yea. She a good cook. It one of the reasons I married her. Her ass is getting big though.

So work it off in the bedroom or find some activities you both enjoy. Take her out dancing, go on walks, etc.

What kind of advice is that? Are you really a Taurus? I go to the gym to work off the weight she put on me by feeding me to death. She won't come with. We argued a few days ago and now I'm getting the silent treatment during the day and sex at night. Not complaining bout that but she needs to get off her fat ass. I bought her a treadmill and she hangs clothes on it. It pisses me off.

Whoa there cowboy. Don't get your BVD's in a bunch. And of course I'm a real Taurus, so lemme break this shiz down for you. She knows exactly how she looks, your silent ( or maybe not so silent ) disapproval is going to put a vicious tailspin on things if you don't nip the shit right in the bud.
The silent treatment is because she's hurt, and the eating is a way for her to get approval/love/feel good. We don't just enjoy food, it encompasses us. Food is LOVE. That is precisely why she fed you so well, she cares about you.
What I suggested was activities WITH and FOR her, a way to be a gentleman and be with your lady. To silently support her efforts, not undermine them. If it's couched in fun or an extension of the both of you as a couple, that's better.
The treadmill is a silent reproach from you. Yes it's just a machine, but that trumpets "You're not beautiful in my eyes anymore." It's a reminder that you are unhappy with her physical state. Which is exactly WHY it has clothes hanging off of it.
And another Taurus nugget which I'm sure you're aware of. We're stubborn. And she will dig in her heels over this because it's a control issue. Your wanting to control her weight, and her wanting to control her damned self.

Im stubborn too but she expects me to work everyday, bring home check, provide for her and the kids rite? Well I expect for her shit not to stink worse than mines and for us not to wear the same size clothes. I hear what your saying and I tried being nice but her ass keeps spreading. I love my wife but I think she does the shit on purpose. She cooked brownies yesterday just to torment me. I dont even feel like going home today I'm so pissed. I bet she baked a fuckin cake or some bullshit.

Like I said, control issue. I know why you're upset, but it won't prevent her from baking goodies, because she'll be doing that for the kids. Or at least that's what I do here. I cook for everyone, why? Because I'm good at it, it's a point of pride, and it feels NICE to watch people enjoy the mojo. It's an extension of self.
I was thinking about the not going to the gym bit. More than like because she's too self-conscious. If overweight the last thing you want to do is bounce around a bunch of hard bodies, you'd stick out like a sore thumb. And you'd feel like everyone was watching you. Not a shining moment.
Is there anything she really enjoys doing, I do Pilates and am about to embark on belly dancing. If you like to eat ( and I do ) you must counteract the effects. There are a lot of great DVD's out there to do at home. And I'm not getting on a high horse either or blowing smoke up your ass, I put on one hell of a lot of weight and have been working hard to shed it. But the ex and I did the same thing. Same behavior pattern.
Have you tried talking to her about it, calmly. Tell her you love her, which is why you don't want her going down this road that may lead to heart disease, diabetes, and heaven knows what else. Because you'd like her there for a good long while yet. And so would the children.

I don't feel that I should have to hold her hand. She should want to be healthy for her damn self. She's not huge but she's not small either. I thought about cutting up her cards so she couldnt go to the store and buy stupid shit that we dont need to be eating. She makes sure the kids stay healthy but she wants both of us to die I guess. Normally we see eye to eye but this is the one thing that we fight about and her dumb ass thinks shes winning by getting fat. Its stupid. I might suggest doing some other actvities but I know she gonna make an excuse. I feel like I need a cattle prod.

No, I'm not suggesting that you hold her hand. And I'm more than sure she's a good Ma. What I'm trying to get at is a way around you being pissed and her being upset. There has to be a middle ground. Because you care for her is why you're pissed, because her behavior is self destructive. And that's aside from the obvious effect that you see with your eyes.
And a cattle prod might not be that far off base, that struck me as amusing. Zapping the bull.
Mmmm, family activities? Surely there is something that can be done as a unit. Basketball, baseball, anything and everything kid friendly that gets you outside and moving. Swimming.
A bit sneaky this, but do you have a dog? They must be walked and played daily.

The kids are active. She's a wonderful mom but we've been arguing about this alot. My coworker who believes in this astrology shit suggested this site andat this point Iam willing to try anything. I will be calm and discuss this tonight.

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Aren't you the Volvo bitch? I wouldn't take your advice if it came on a lottery ticket. Off to my family. You head on home to your imaginary one.

That was not necessary. *smh*

wow

Hmmm....

Boy has some serious anger issues, either that or got something caught in his fly at some point. And it stuck.

He doesn't get that he's doing more harm then good. This isn't a sign issue, i wish you would come at me like that. Your lip would be as fat as my ass is. I mean come on. the more you harp the worse she feels, the less she will do because she is embarrassed. Do you realize she probably feels mortified abouther weight gain? And when that becomes the focus, you eat to feel better. You sound like are her problem and she's eating to cope with you.

I originally was going to post some real help to you like the others, but you dont' want to hear good advice.

Shit, it almost sounds like you have given up on her. If you dont think she feels that.. you are so wrong. You're anger is deep about this, something more is there.

You got a girlfriend? Cuz i have heard this song and dance before, and the few times i have, there was another woman in the picture and the bastard was comparing his wife to the mistress and all that bullshit.

Be nice to her, you will get more.

my leo-ex and i had a similar tug of war. when i met him, he said, "you need to gain 10-15 pounds." he's a big man, 6'4, 250 and he wanted a fit woman but he didn't like feeling bone. so from day 1, he was trying to change me but he was joking...or was he? i could never figure out.

so 3 years in, i started to put on some weight. i gained like 25 lbs. so did he...and then some.

well, he never really made issue of my weight directly but i always FELT as if there was a problem. i think he was slowly losing respect for me although he never confronted me...until he did. i can't recall the exact way it went down but basically, he said that he was trying to lose weight and it frustrated him that i wasn't trying too. he said, why would i want to spend my life with you if you don't value your life?

my thing was, in comparison, he's much fatter than me so i got pounds more cake and fat to eat before i catch up with him. and where i felt compelled to work out, i was in a rut....that's why i put on the pounds in the first place. i'm not sure what he could've done at that time to help motivate me because i had to motivate myself.

long story short, i think leo was coming across more aggressive here than he was with his wife. i think he's frustrated and venting. i have a leo male friend who does the same and i hate the way he talks about his wife but it's all hot air. they're actually fairly tactical with their approach which is why he said he bought her the treadmill and that he's going to the gym. leo's go into "hint" mode when they want you to do something they need to do themselves.

as far as my leo and i, i lost all of my weight...about a year after we broke up. he's still getting fat though 🙂

i think he could've motivated me to lose the weight by giving me an incentive. give her a payoff that doesn't require frosting. maybe it's a trip that involves a bathing suit? sure fire way to get most women to the gym is the realization that there will be pictures.

lol @ this thread!

In all honesty though....



(Speaking of the rule here)

Women are attracted to men who will make good providers.

Men are attracted to women who look good.


Both of those attractions have a biological basis.


I really don't think this guys situation is all that different from a woman who gets fed up with a husband who has not only lost his job, but is also not being proactive in finding another.

I'm not even sure this guy is forreal...but assuming he is, it doesn't sound like hes rude to her. Hes just being a dick here. If he really were an asshole about it, he wouldn't bother being on some website looking for suggestions. He'd just use her fatness as an excuse to fuck around with other women. From what he's said, he has been trying to help her lose weight, but apparently its not working. Hes also said a few good things about her and does seem to respect and love her.

I think hes just being a dick on here just cuz. I don't think its a reflection of how he treats her in real life.

*nodding in agreement with Bella*

LOL Don't be, that was pretty hilarious to me. I thought "Someone actually UPSET that the house smells of hot chocolate and something delicious is afoot?"

What a dick!

LOL!