Winning over a Taurus female, help needed!

Hi everyone, this is my first post in this forum!

I recently got to know a Taurus girl thru facebook. We exchanged a couple of messages but that's just about it. I was wondering if I could get some advice on how to continue and win her over. By winning, I mean like getting her to become my girlfriend.

Thanks!

First off, take it slow. Get to know the girl. If you're close enough, invite her out for a good meal. Talk to her, pay attention to her, make her laugh. Lightly touch the back of her hand and withdraw, and see how she responds. Entice her with songs, ones that make you think of her. Out for a walk, or anything to do with the outdoors is good as well.
Try not to come on too strong at first, Bulls make up their own mind and that would make her flee for the hills if you put out that whole *cue screeching violins* vibe.
Be masculine, smell good ( no Brut or High Karate, I beg you, something NICE, or just the smell of you, laundry soap and bath products ), wear something that feels nice to the touch. Even if she's a complete tomboy deep down lurks the heart of a very feminine girl that wants to be valued. Be truly interested in her, be sincere, compliment her with zero artifice. We can smell bullbutter from a mile away.
And know that if she makes up her mind that you're her fellow, she'll stand by you thick or thin and woebetide if anyone makes a disparaging comment about you.
Do not be wishy-washy, stick to your word. And make it very clear ( when the time is right ) that she is your lady. No indecision or 'maybe'. Let her know right down to the ground that she's your girl.
Best of luck to you. 🙂

Thanks for the advice, but that would work only if I get to ask her out. Should I continue to initiate chats with her? How would I know if its the right time to ask if she would go out with me?

Ahhhso, you're just beginning. Make her laugh man! Sound her out. Learn her likes/dislikes, be yourself. And above all be there for her, even if it's just to be ears ( eyes ) if she's had a crap day. We put much stock in someone who will ride the tide with us and for us. And better yet, we return the favor.

Woops, forgot to answer your question. If she chats with you every day, or quite a lot, that's a very good sign. It means she honestly enjoys spending time with you. And even if her thoughts turn to flights of fancy, she won't give it away very well. Honesty, be direct but don't crowd. Gentle nudges to see where things are headed. We are quite careful guarding our hearts, but once that decision is made it's a complete 180. There is no one else from that moment forward.

When starting out is it natural that I am always the initiator of conversations?

Sorry forgot to add, if she is interested will she initiate a conversation back? If not, is it to say she is not interested?

It is natural to her for you to initiate the conversations. We like to 'be chased' as it were. We prefer a suitor. I can only speak for myself here, but I will wait for a man to approach me, seek me out, prefer my company. Whatever form that takes. Some, not all Bulls are rather old fashioned that way.
And I don't think her not initiating in return makes her not interested in you. She's probably quite curious and making up her own mind about your interest in her. We may act quite confident in situ, but deep down there is a fear of rejection, so we need to feel quite secure as to where things stand. And that doesn't just apply to romance, it's in many different realms. RELAX, breathe. Just take things slowly and calmly. Remember the Bull, we look so placid and calm out there in the field, but at any time we charge. 😉

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Hello, it's been awhile since I last posted, but good news! I've succeeded in getting her number and I was wondering, where should I take her on the first date?
Need help from Female Taurus!

taurus woman here....

first date...we like to be comfortable...period. where i like to dress up and play barbie from time to time, i'm a jeans kinda gal. so a place where i can put on a nice pair of jeans, some heels and a sexy top would be ideal. as far as you're concerned though, taurus is a sucker for a pretty face. you don't have to GQ it up but careful attention to dress/hygiene are important. make sure your car is clean, that you hold open the door and all that jazz.

i don't like to do a lot of running around...at least not on the first date. remember, i'm trying to impress you and look cute doing it so laser tag would suck. if you want to do something "active," pool or bowling would be more of a first-date activity. no sweating. occasional sitting and if she can't do either well, it's still "good, clean fun." so something along those lines is what you're looking for.

do NOT make assumptions. passive-aggressive personalities go further with me than guys who are over the top. subtle sexy looks are HOT! constantly touching me, whether it be a hand on the small of my back or holding my hand, are annoying and can make me go cool rather quickly.

try to find a place where you can be with people but be alone at the same time. think museums or the zoo. (remember to tell her to bring a pair of sneakers if you're going to do a lot of walking because she's going to resent being in heels for hours walking around looking at monkeys). museum/zoo type settings are ideal because there'd be people around but not so many that it's nosey or impossible to talk. it doesn't have to be an expensive outing, you're better off taking a thoughtful/unique approach. we like to feel like we're the first and doing something that atypical and thoughtful is something to write home about.

whatever you do, she should walk away feeling as if she got to know you better. it shouldn't be about the movie or the activity, it should be about you two getting to know one another and if you can pull that off, you're well on your way.

I was thinking, if I brought her to a rather fancy restaurant, will that say I'm trying to hard to impress her? Or should I keep it to something more easy going like a cafe or something in the middle?

Hmm, I'd rather have a cafe for a first date. A more relaxed atmosphere. Takes the pressure off of dressing up a bit more than you'd like, keeps things more casual. That's terrific that you've a date with her! 🙂 I've been wondering where things were going. This Bull is nosey!

i agree with venusianbull. yeah, we like to dress up and it's great that you want to spend money BUT, if you want her to be at her most comfortable, it should be somewhere relaxing and less pretentious. i'm not talking hot dog vendor or boston market but not exactly cheesecake factory either. save the more upscale venues for subsequent dates.

if you have a favorite restaurant or mom-pop style place that serves great food, take her there and be sure to talk up a dish or two. you'll hit a home run if the food is delicious and affordable. trust me, lack of decor = charming when the food turns out to be great.

just make sure YOU look cute. i LOVE eye candy. my last relationship with a leo lasted FOREVER because as mad as he would make me, whenever he walked into a room i'd darn near swoon. every hug i gave him was extended as i had to rub his back or smell his neck...he just exuded manliness and charm. on a side note, i have a gf who's also a taurus who had a horrible date b/c the guy was wearing black socks. some of us can be pretty vain...laid back, but vain.

my advice was to spend less concern about whether or not the restaurant has tablecloths and candles and more attention to what you're going to wear and talk about it. i'd be happy with a stroll in the park with the right guy.

Thanks for all the advice so far! I was just talking to a friend and he suggested that I should get a gift for her. Do you think it's a good idea to give her a gift on a first date? If so... what should I get her?

Something simple and classic. A single rose in an unusual color, like the silver rose ( lavendar in color ) or a pretty coral. 🙂

wow! this chick must be HOT! what's your sign?

i'd say it depends on where you're taking her. have you decided that yet?

are you picking her up or meeting her at the location? i once had a guy bring me flowers but it was sorta awkward carrying them around. that gesture would've been a lil better received (although still appreciated) if he'd pick me up from home. that way i could put them in a vase and admire them later rather than watching them slowly wilt on our date.

ahhh...capricorn! just looked at your name. that splains it!

venusianbull: Will the rose come on too strongly? Because I do not really know if she is interested in me..

tubbyscubby: I'll be meeting her at the location after work, it'll be a restaurant/cafe kind of setting.

Actually I'm not sure if I should get a gift.. what if it turns out that she's not attracted to me?

Sorry for the negativity haha.. Capricorn trait =p

It's a lovely gesture, and tubbyscrubby brought up a good point about lugging about a flower all evening. That's why I suggested the different colors though. If she knows anything about flowers ( and she might ) red is love ( too forward and assuming) yellow is friendship ( you're on a date ), etc, etc.

she's going out with you...she's interested in some level. how much she's interested really depends on you alls chemistry.

i dont think taurus women date at random very well. it takes too much energy and time. i've tried serial dating and it worked for a while but i got exhausted trying to remember/care about the details of multiple people's lives. so unless she's the lonely-type or in a "say yes to a date because it means free food" mode, she's interested in you on some level.

i'm not sure about a gift. i think you should dazzle her with the date...either by taking her to a great place or afterward to a place with live music...but don't worry too much about trinkets.

in the end, it's a first date. take it easy and relax. the more relaxed you are, the more relaxed she'll be.

To be honest, I'm really happy that I have a date with her... but she hasn't been replying to messages these few days... I feel so lost with the sudden hot and cold treatment! ARG~ it's driving me crazy... 😢

She might be really busy, but it would be the polite thing to do to let you know. I'm a bull and this behavior makes me NUTS.

venusianbull: haha... what behaviour!?

When people don't let you know what they're about. Or initiate an IM conversation and sit there like a bump on a log. Would it kill them to say "Tired", "Have to go", "Sorry I haven't spoken much of late, been busy with work", etc.

ARG!! But it's not me.. it's her! So it's kinda the bull's fault this time round? =p

Oh don't misunderstand me. I simply meant the behavior itself makes me crazy, coming from anyone. So I empathize with your frustration over her not letting you know what's up. 🙂

Sigh.... it's definitely very frustrating... and I don't even know what's going through her head at this moment 😢

I wish I had the answer for you. I really do.

I blame the affinity Capricorn has with Taurus counterparts... haha!

sorry to hear it. her loss.

Yea the date is still on..
It's the cold and hot treatments that is driving me crazy!

She digs you. If she did not there would be no 'hot' to toss in there. It would just be cold or she wouldn't bother at all. Girl is making up her mind. Patience!

Well.... 'hot' is kinda like.. when we do talk we talk alot. And 'cold' is like she doesn't reply sometimes.

So I dunno.. I thought if a girl liked someone won't she want to talk to that person more often? Forgive me if I'm wrong about this..

actually, unless i'm on my cycle or ticked off, i can go long periods of time...days, weeks without contact. that might be due to other aspects of my chart but on the whole, i can be interested in someone and not do the traditional head over heels stuff.

Correction my dear cappyboy, she's sounding you out. And testing whether she's aware of it or not. Maybe her school/work schedule is a real killer. Making sure you'll stick is a priority, we don't care for fake, and neither do Caps last I heard. Just roll with the punch and enjoy the ride. 🙂

Actually I'm only worried that she treats me as just another friend... that would really be very bad 😢
And last I heard... it's difficult as hell to get out of the 'friends zone'.

This is what the date is for. 🙂 If she had poked you into 'just friends' zone, she wouldn't entertain a date, she'd just ask to hang out.

WHEN is this date?

i dated one capricorn and initially, it seemed like we would work well, for a while. he was younger than me by about 7 years so that might attribute to his immaturity but, i have a female cap friend who i've known for over a decade and they're surprisingly similar.

the thing i didn't like about him was that he was way too pressed. i think taureans can sense being rushed. we like for things to develop naturally and no amount of customary wooing is going to move a guy from the friend zone if we're not ready. it just has to feel right and in order for that to be the case, you, cappy, have to relax.

you also need to work on your confidence level going into this situation. you seem like a great guy and this chick is just another chick....until she's not. i think taurus women love confidence and machismo. you don't exactly have to be a bad boy but if you exude rugged manliness, if your nature screams "MAN!," you'll be hard pressed to find a taurus women who isn't sitting at attention.

at the end of the day, you tarzan, she jane so that's the way it tends to work for us. a natural union between two people so again and again...relax! be yourself. you two will fit or you won't.

YUP

The date is at the end of the month, she's an air stewardess and she's got 2 more flights this month. She won't have time till end of the month so we will be meeting up then.
So I guess... I'll just sit back relax and enjoy the ride? lol

LOL Yes sir, if you just recline in your seat and buckle your seatbelt, the in flight instructions will commence. And say, did you want peanuts and a pillow?

LOL no... I much rather prefer a Taurus Soul Mate! =)

I like that answer. Yes I do. 🙂

Haha! Why do you say that bella?
To be honest I never had such an attraction to other Astrological signs... I really hope this ends up somewhere good! =)

We're pulling for you! 🙂

Bella still hasn't answered why Cap guys are awesome!! I wanna know! =)

cappy, although i don't like to date caps, i will say that you all genuinely try to please your mates. my grandfather always puts my gma first. he won't get/do anything until she's taken care of. it's really sweet and my gma who is an aries eats it up.

with your date, you're genuinely trying to show her a great time and show her what a great guy you are. and what i guess is odd for me is, what if she's a bust? it's like you're not even leaving open that possibility and that is refreshing. she's awesome because you say she's awesome and it's up to her to prove you wrong.

i really hope it goes well because you deserve it to.

and on that last yawn, i'm going to hit the gym because i just got my second wind! hopefully it'll make me sleepy.

Haha.. although people say Capricorns are nice people.. but no one wants to date a Capricorn!! That's twisted logic!
Or.. is it that "nice guys finish last" topic all over again?!

Caps are earthy, close to the vest and goal oriented. No shame in your game Mister.