How to get my male Taurus to listen

This is long so sorry but I need help. I have been involved with a male Taurus for two months. but we knew each other longer. We met in 08 when I was pregnant with my daughter. Then we saw each other the summer of 2011. I was very attracted to him then. Two months ago we worked the same case and we started talking for an hour straight. Anyway he left but he was due back to relieve me the next morning. Here is were we swapped phone number. I have to mention that he lives in Ga. and I in Ct. He's divorced with three boys and I'm married with three girls. Currently I am going through a divorce. I know I'm wrong but I really don't want to here about that.. My marriage was abusive and we haven'tacted like a married couple in 3 years. Anyway. This guy and I talked and tested non stop. Then he disappeared. After three days of texting with no response. I stopped and three days later we started right back up. He told me that he really really liked me, that he missed me and how he has been keeping an eye on me since 08. Last month he came out to work did spend time and we slept together. Afterwards he told me that he loved me. Even when he went back to Ga. We talked and tested. At the beginning of this month I thought that I was pregnant. I was very confused because I had my tubes tied in 09. I told him, then there was no response so I tested him telling him that I would care for the ba y myself. With this I was confused because we talked about getting my tubes u tied in the future. Anyway he tested back posses. Told me that I lied about my tubes being tied. Since I was set on keeping this baby in this situation that I was deceptive and that he was not the type to have kids all over the place. That he was done with this situation and that I lied. He. has not returned my text. or phone calls.. I explained that I did not lie. I provided proof from my doctor along with giving him permission to talk to the Dr. I really love him. He is a great guy. Sorry so long and all over the place. I haven't been able to really focus. What can I do to get him to listen to me and do u think he is really done with me. I opened my heart to him which I kept guarded for 16 years.

Whether you lied or not, and only your word can be taken on that here, he feels that you did and that is a huge betryal to a taurus man so its quite likely that he will not ever speak to you again. They are extremely stubborn. Were you pregnant in the end?

This is a mess, he's not going to talk to you until he's ready, a baby has never made a man stay with a woman and I don't know what you're doing but it's going to backfire on you, although you said you weren't attempting to trap him it sure seems that way, he's pissed off, just wait and see if he'll come back around to speak to you, can't make him do anything.

I.know that it seems as if I was trying to trap him. That's not something that I do. My whole life has been nothing but lie and betrayal. That is not how I want a relationship. Sad thing is, is that I wasn't even pregnant. I may have blown it though because I texted him so many times. He probably thinks I'm.desperate when in reality I was just trying to talk to him and understand his reaction. We never had any problems before.

Lady it seemed manipulative because you didn't confirm it first before bringing him such a heavy situation, you tested him, you wanted to know how he felt about you through this whole maybe I'm pregnant ordeal and that's a sure way to get yourself dumped. By doing things the way you chose to do them made you appear desperate thus you ended up self sabotaging the whole situation.

If your past is riddled with abuse you may have picked up some really toxic bad behaviors from that such as the drama you created which is one of those bad behaviors you need to rid yourself of, seeking affirmation he's truly in love by hitting him with a questionable pregnancy scare is not a good way to start a healthy relationship.

Take some time to get to heal and know yourself again instead of jumping back into another relationship. Give him some space, and don't contact him again for a long while, he may come back, if he comes back don't do that again, don't seek this kind of approval and reassurance through drama.

Hmmmm... just write him off as your rebound and call it good. You have nothing to offer anyone right now... you are 'going through a divorce'... and you're still living with your ex-to-be, right ? Get your 'official' piece of paper... give yourself some time... find yourself again... and in another year, who knows.

Wow. First off when a guy tells you "when your tubes are untied we will have a baby" I felt that when he got.here we could test together. I need no reassurance from.him at all if he's into me. I know for a fact that he is. I was not trying to cause drama but what do u care you mind is made up without even knowing me. As for the drama I have been throught toxic behavior what ever. If u asked anyone who knew me they would say the opposite. I feed the homeless from my house if I see someone hungry outside and I have enough. I am not what you seem. I am very open with my feelings and I don't expect that from everyone but that is who I am. I know who I am. There is no question about that. I came on here not to have people who don't know me to make assumptions about me but to get inside the mind of a Taurus and so far one in particular I don't like.

I get what you are saying David but I had my rebound 3 years ago. My soon to be ex does live in the house on my living room floor. That's only because he's so lazy his brother kicked him out. I really love this guy. Even though I am married we haven't had a relationship in 4 years. He's been in and out of my
home for 2 years because he doesn't make enough to live on his own. This divorce in long past due. We both have been dating on and off. Him more than me. I wasn't ready for anything serious. Still wasn't until I met the Taurus. We connected big time. I work and spend time with my kids. I know it sounds boring but that's me.

well welcome to DXP. If you ask for advice and opinions, you're gonna get them. And not always with a tablespoon of sugar. Hearing a still married woman with 3 kids sexing around with a man with 3 kids of his own, in a newly reconnected long distance relationship mentioning she may be pregnant after the FIRST time of having sex—?

Come on...you're gonna get "opinions". Why did you tell him when you *thought* you were pregnant? I smell dishonest motivation.

LadySag your life is filled with drama and that same drama trickled into the relationship you had with the Taurus and until you work on correcting that mess with your husband the Taurus won't be be back especially after the baby scare, you are in no way prepared to take on a relationship with your lazy ex sleeping in the same house you both share together, realization kicked in that you are messy and the Taurus is gone.

Nothing dishonest here. Like I said he said that were going to have children together. I was excited. but scared because I thoughtt it may have been a. tubal. The opinions I have no problem with its assuming that I have this dark ugly side doing means and tozic things is what's bothering me. Trust me if I was up to no good I wouldn't have asked anyone. I would chalk it up to karma getting back at me and move on. This was totally innocent. Besides we agreed that there would be no secrets between each other. This was all his idea. oh and it wasn't the first time we had sex🙂

ladtsag75 - you can the direct approach. Tie his hands and feet together, tape up his mouth. THen he has no choice to listen. LOL. Kidding.
Do not know how. As I am a Taurus man myself.

Tiki33 everyone has there own definition of drama. I have been up front with the Taurus from the beginning. He knew tha t I have been married for three years and got all the information from my mother which she admits to telling and him asking. He started the relationship not me. That does not give the right. for any Taurus or any other sign to say one thing then back off without just cause. Due to my high blood pressure I pretty much need to be drama free which my Taurus knows. Now one question for you, who f***ed you over because u r rude as hell