Is He Slow?..or Am I Too Fast?

Im a Sag girl (going to be 24 on Nov29) and this Taurus guy turned 32 on April 24th. I just dont know where things are going with him!! He would come to my church every so often cuz his friend goes..and i had a bf at the time, so i would never talk to him just pass right by him (even though i did think he was cute). Sometimes i got the feeling that he was watching me or staring at me. Anyway, a month later i added him on fb and within 5min! he sends me a message and starts a convo with me..then gave me his #. I was shocked because i think hes gorgeous! So i would text him..turns out he did like me at least a month before i even added him..but he came on really strong and it kinda made me suspicious.He would text me constantly and even text me good morning before he went to work. He would invite me to dinner or on a trip or to the movies,but never went through with it because either i didnt think it was a good idea or he would feel guilty and stuff like that(he even knew i had a bf before i told him). Well i tried to keep my distance away from him but i just couldnt. One night he told me (not asked me) to come over, so i did. He kissed me, and i knew after that i was hooked. Two months later i had to break it off with my bf cuz i felt bad for what i did and i just couldnt stay with him and like this Taurus guy too. Now ive been single for 7months and i feel like Taurus guy does like me, but dam hes taking forever. Sometimes i think its a good thing so that way i can focus on myself and not just rush into another relationship-but then sometimes i get suspicious.He came on super strong but now hes more chill to the point where i do most of the texting. Is this because he doesnt trust me? because of everything? does he just want me because im younger? Or is it cuz he thinks hes got me? Hes told me that his last gf cheated on him and then this other girl 'used him as a distraction'..but that was awhile ago though.Does the age thing bother him? In total itll be a year since we first started talking in Nov. (btw we havent even had sex yet-were close to doing it but hasnt happened yet) 😢 Help i need to figure this all out!!

^^ my opinion? Run for the hill. He's been cheated on was #1 factor and #2 you cheated on your bf with him. Enough said? ? He might like you but he wouldn't make a serious commitment with you. #1 he doesn't trust you.. #2. He would never trust you.

Taurus' being the sign that really likes to test and gauge people before letting them in, means more experienced taurus will most likely take even more precautions than younger taurus'.

Oh..Im new here so i dont know too much about his sign or mine.but the thing is, he was a little faster than i was cuz i told him a few times that i couldnt talk to him as much as he wanted because i was trying to do the right thing--but he would just say 'ok' and then the next day he would still continue to talk to me. hmph, very persistent. but slowly he would do this hot/cold thing with me and i asked him if he wanted to still talk to me or if we should be friends. he said that he just didnt want to be a rebound guy. i told him that wasnt what i wanted him to be and he just said ok.but then he did it again and i got pissed and told him off. we didnt talk for two wks then he came back and said sry to me.its happened a few times where id get pissed and yell at him and hed just ignore me for two wks. then hed come back and when i see him he cant take his hands off me and he gets very affectionate(like kisses me on nose or forehead) and we cuddle at his place and watch tv or a movie. but now its switched from him coming on strong in the beginning to him being quiet. like i talk almost all the time and he just either laughs or listens to my rambling. ive told him quite a few times that he needs to open up to me more. I feel like he does kinda..but its VERY VERY SLOWLY.Is this really normal for real?? one time i got mad and told him maybe we should be friends because i didnt know what he wanted from me cuz he doesnt really say..he just gave me one or two hints that things could go somewhere. but i always overreact i guess so i didnt talk to him andthe next day he posted a quote from this movie called 'eternal sunshine of the spotless mind'(i guess as a hint or something and im guessing it has to do with how he is or felt). so hes just so mysterious to me. i mean, now im being easy on him and we havent fought or anything but i still feel uncertain. will things get better from here? will he ever just say how he feels to me? when i see him hes affectionate but when we dont see eachother hes still kinda quiet.

lol. If I were you. I won't bother myself... because regardless of other men sign and not because

he is a Taurus then he is slow motion to your emotion.... and they are direct.. not sending you

a''hint'' lol.

Posted by SunTauVenGem
^^ my opinion? Run for the hill. He's been cheated on was #1 factor and #2 you cheated on your bf with him. Enough said? ? He might like you but he wouldn't make a serious commitment with you. #1 he doesn't trust you.. #2. He would never trust you.

I totally agree. It won't work for a long period of time.

@Galacticfun...

It can indicate a myriad of reasons....

Bulls are usually consistent. There seems to be an inconsistent pattern of behavior in his pace. He moved quickly, and then slowed down...

1. He may have a Venus in Aries, and just enjoyed the thrill of the chase, and he's not taking you seriously. (possible loss of interest).


2. He chased, and now he's awaiting reciprocation. (Read Hot and Cold threads on this forum, there are tons).

3. He doesn't trust you enough to pursue a full blown relationship. With Bulls, it's all or nothing, now and forever, and this includes absolute fidelity. No compromising. Your initial innocence and the meeting at the church may have gravitated him towards you, but the infidelity committed behind your BF's back may have placed him in a position to second-guess a possible future with you.

My advice...

ASK him directly!

..And do not be vague with your questions, no hints, no subtleties, no metaphors.

Dam..my hopes are dwindling fast😢
@TaurusBull1977..I will ask him directly when i get the chance to. I do feel like he has this wall up with me still--but then he doesnt want me to go either. He is very blunt with eveything he says, and i do like that about him. But when it comes to a 'relationship' talk, he hasnt said.
Ive read a little about Taurus men, and the possessiveness? yea, its there. He has this thing where he needs to know what im doing sometimes. Not all the time though. But if im out with my friends, he'll ask if they r guy friends-or he'll text me:'don't get too crazy' cuz he knows i get drunk when im out with my friends.lol Like i have to behave when im out. Ill tell him where i go even when he doesnt ask me so that way he can at least know im being honest with him. When he goes out with his friends he tells me too,or tells me when he gets home (

Galactic: He kissed me, and i knew after that i was hooked.

>>>He knew it too...hahahah. Good kisser, huh? He knows that, has been told that, etc. You should feel lucky; he was coming on pretty strong there in the beginning and that's rare for bulls. He's probably very attracted to you. Anyway, yeah....when fishing, you have to yank the pole real fast to set that hook in the fish's lip, but once its set there's no real rush in reeling that fish in (unless maybe its a really big fish and you're afraid it will snap the line or something). LOL. And when we don't have the power in a relationship, you can rest assured we are going to try to flip the script at some point and gain it. Once we gain it, its pretty hard to get it back. Doesn't mean he likes you any less, particularly if you are initiating more, etc. Just may mean he's more comfortable in the relationship, and that's what bulls like anyway. So it may actually translate to him liking you more.

I wouldn't say he doesn't trust you based on anything you've said. Does he know why you broke it off with your boyfriend? You might tell him. Sags are pretty easy to read IMO and I'm *sure* he knows you like him, so you could earn some trust points just by explaining you couldn't stay with someone else given the feelings you were having for him. Even if he sees you as cheating with the kiss, you could build his ego up by telling him how hard it was to resist, earn trust with "I never do things like that", etc. In my opinion, if a man is going to do anything with a woman in a relationship, and he KNOWS that woman is in a relationship, he is as much of a cheater as she is in that situation. Its as important to respect someone else's relationship as it is to honor your own IMO.

I'm with a Sag now; the chemistry is really great. We actually were rebounds for each other. Just make sure he doesn't run into any Scorpio women. LOL. As far as the questions about what you're doing out, etc., yeah...that's a point of tension between a Sag and a Taurus. You're a Sag so you're probably real flirtatious and fun and stuff. Most bulls (particularly of the conservative variety, who have been cheated on) probably don't want a flirtatious/fun girl who goes out and gets hammered without them. It scares us (for good reason). If he's crafty and/or has enough of what you're looking for in a mate to negotiate (seems so), you'll probably be doing less of that in the near future. LOL.

>>>He knew it too...hahahah. Good kisser, huh?

Is he? lol! He does it in this way where its sweet, but really intense at the same time.

>>>You should feel lucky; he was coming on pretty strong there in the beginning and that's rare for bulls. He's probably very attracted to you.

Really??Yea hes told me that when i would walk by him, he'd stare at my ass. Seems he had tunnel vision on me for awhile cuz there were other pretty girls he could of talked to. Im sort of simple and dont wear too much makeup..yea hes different from what i read about Taurus men..hes traveled to different places, he snowboards, hes gone diving before,hes in a band(plays guitar and keyboard)and they even have an album out so he really loves music. All these things are what attracted me to him also, because i always wanted to travel and i love music too. I mean, he does have a small group of friends that he hangs out with on a regular basis..and hes pretty shy but he can be goofy if he wants and told me that hes a good cook (which im not too great at). Oh and he works out. sooo maybe he does have some Aries in him i guess like what @TaurusBull1977 said.

>>>Does he know why you broke it off with your boyfriend?

Yea..well..i didnt specifically say it was for/because of him because i didnt feel like it was right to say. So i just said that i wasnt happy and that i needed to be single because i was confused, and i HAVE said that this never happened to me before(really,i wasnt confused it was because i had feelings for him).Plus,he was getting a little nervous about the whole being a 'rebound'.So maybe thats why he seems to be around still. But later on after that, i started telling him how i felt so he knows EXACTLY how i feel. And its not even like he tells me to not say those things..he accepts it. ill text him random things (like hearts or something funny or sexy pics)and he likes it....but as far as expressing his feelings for me? Meh..hasnt happened. Only when im around him do i feel like the feelings are possibly mutual.

>>> In my opinion, if a man is going to do anything with a woman in a relationship, and he KNOWS that woman is in a relationship, he is as much of a cheater as she is in that situation. Its as important to respect someone else's relationship as it is to honor your own IMO.

YES! i totally agree on this..takes two to tango! hahaha! Thats why i didnt 'take the bait' from him at first!

>>>You're a Sag so you're probably real flirtatious and fun

Yea, i mean i like to go out with my friends and go to clubs cuz what else do u do when u live in Miami??haha! But i dont flirt with other guys...actually i really dont know how to flirt!lol. I just wish he would express his feelings to me, or take the lead more when it comes to doing things together. I go out with my friends, and he goes out with his guy friends. That needs to change soon because i dont like that. I want him to come hangout with me and my friends, and i want him to ask me when he goes out. He use to-but its now switched to hanging out at his place everytime.ISNT GOING OUT AND HAVING FUN WITH EACHOTHER ONLY NATURAL TO DO??! Guess only time will tell...

DAM I TALK TOO MUCH... 😢

Posted by GalacticFun89
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Really??Yea hes told me that when i would walk by him, he'd stare at my ass. Seems he had tunnel vision on me for awhile cuz there were other pretty girls he could of talked to. Im sort of simple and dont wear too much makeup..yea hes different from what i read about Taurus men..

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Beauty comes in different forms. Don't sell yourself short. Bulls are very selective. Grounded. In terms of Venusian signs, Bulls differ from Libras in that aspect.

(eg) Libras may be drawn to a world of diamonds.
Bulls may be drawn to timeless paintings.

Diamonds are forever and appreciated by everyone, solely based on its external appearance..

Timeless paintings may be just as valuable, but only admired for its rare beauty by a selected few.

Superficiality is probably one the biggest misconception about Bulls.

@Galacticfun---

When you're in his presence, be VERY AFFECTIONATE!

This will win you brownie points!

That shyness of his will transform itself into a warm blushing face real quick. (if he's still interested)

Posted by TaurusLovesScorpio
>>He knew it too...hahahah. Good kisser, huh? He knows that, has been told that, etc. You should feel lucky; he was coming on pretty strong there in the beginning and that's rare for bulls. He's probably very attracted to you. Anyway, yeah....when fishing, you have to yank the pole real fast to set that hook in the fish's lip, but once its set there's no real rush in reeling that fish in (unless maybe its a really big fish and you're afraid it will snap the line or something). LOL. And when we don't have the power in a relationship, you can rest assured we are going to try to flip the script at some point and gain it. Once we gain it, its pretty hard to get it back. Doesn't mean he likes you any less, particularly if you are initiating more, etc. Just may mean he's more comfortable in the relationship, and that's what bulls like anyway. So it may actually translate to him liking you more.

Good Advice ^^^^^^