Need help from Taurus Women

I need help with a Taurus woman I was briefly involved with. We went out several times and it was clear that something was developing and then she decided that she wanted to get out. We work together so it made things a little complex. She wanted a clean break including no communication. I went along with what she wanted and then 3 months later she starts saying hi to me. She does it in a very shy way almost to the point where I'd miss it if I weren't paying attention. I sense that she's being careful. I'd like to talk to her but I'm not sure what to say. Any ideas?

Virgo4real - if you could give a little more information about your relationship. You say you went out a few times - was it a after work happy hour type of thing? A "real" date situation or what? Just from the brief description it could be many things, but the first thing that comes to mind to me is that she may have been at the tail end of a relationship of her own, and didn't want to muddy the waters by getting closer to you; therefore she asked to cut off communication. Maybe to clear her mind. Again, since I don't know her, and you didn't provide a lot of information, I can only speculate.

USCTaurusGal,

Thank you for your reply. Here is a little more info on the relationship. We've known each other for about 2 years. We went out for lunch several times and were lightly intimate(kissing). I found out after she ended things that she was involved with someone. I really don't know what her thinking is now which is why I don't want to make any assumptions. Any suggestions about what I'd say to her?

i don't think she's really interested in you. we are very passionate women. we make it very clear if we are interested in you; doesn't mean we jump into anything. but she's probably just bored and needed some attention now that she's single. if she likes you, you wouldn't question it.

BellaBulleautiful,

That makes some sense to me. It feels a little awkward approaching her again after she so thoroughly kicked me to the curb :-). Do you think she's expecting me to make all the moves?

BellaBulleautiful,

Ok so I say hi to her, she smiles at me and also says hello then promptly turns to face her computer. I said one other comment to her and she responded but didn't turn to face me. I stood around for about a minute to see if she would say anthing then I wished her happy holidays and went on my way. What should I conclude from her behavior?

Ok, I do agree (for me) what BellaBulleautiful said:

"Taurus is pretty faithful and loyal.apparently she is free now and testing the waters with you see if you are still interested.we are careful because we hate rejection."

We HATE REJECTION -- LOL. Yeah, I capped those cause I know I can't stand it. In the past, I've actually avoided situations because I didn't want to have to deal with possible rejection. If I were you, I'd see how she is within the next few weeks. If she is interested, you should get some more subtle cues and indicators from her; however, if we like someone, we do make it fairly clear, so if she's lukewarm with you, she just may want to keep you in the "friend" zone, but doesn't want anything else. Speaking only about me, if I put a guy in the "friend" zone, he pretty much is stuck there unless something spectacular happens. I've had some guys plead with me to go on a date, lol, but honestly, I just didn't feel them that way, but I did like them as friends ONLY. Oh, and we are very passionate, so again, you would know pretty darn quick if she's interested as you would feel that heat simmering under the surface, even if she's a quiet person. If I like someone, I'm a bit more reserved and sometimes nervous around them (even if we have been intimate with them - that's the weird thing about me), if it's just a male friend that I have no interest in, then I'm just "one of the guys" and I make it clear I'm not interested, so there is no confusion.
Good luck!

LOL@ Bella -"keep us on speed dial."

I love it!!!

Thank you all for you responses,

I plan to keep the "Speed Dial" in my back pocket......thank you :-). Is it a good idea to avoid discussing the past when I see her?

bluelilac:
In a way I want to believe that you are correct because I don't need the added grief of being a "plaything." During the time that we effectively stopped talking to each other there was no contact at all on her insistence. She started saying Hi to me about a month ago and has been doing it every day since then(about 4 weeks worth). Several times I just ignored her because I didn't understand why she was doing it and she continued anyway. Does that still seem like someone just looking to get their ego stroked?

BellaBulleautiful:
She's been shy several times towards me. Usually it's been when she wanted to advance the relationship. I'm the kind of person that has to be hit on the head before I realize that someone's interested me. I just happened to mention that I was going to lunch in front of her and she just invited herself but in a way that you could tell she was trying to hide her interest. And when we kissed I would be next to her and she would just spin back in forth in her chair like she was nervous.

USCTaurusGal,

Thank you for suggestions. When I last spoke to her she looked at me once and then continued the rest of the conversation with her back to me. In the next 2 weeks if this behavior doesn't change but she continues conversation should I take that as a lukewarm response?

Virgo4Real - she may have put you in the "friend zone." That doesn't mean that she doesn't think you're a nice person, but her actions sound very lukewarm. Follow her lead. If she says "hi." You say "hello" and keep on moving.If for some reason she is playing "hard to get" she'll be intrigued by your dismissive behavior and will step it up a bit to talk to you. If she doesn't, and continues the lackluster hello's, then I'd be looking elsewhere if I were you.

@Bluelilac - well of course we are great partners and passionate lovers, and NOBODY should EVER let us go! LOL 😉

But yes, you may be right. Perhaps Virgo4reals Taurus needs some "ego" stroking. I just don't believe in stringing people along. Either I like somebody and am into them; or I don't. Period.

USCTaurusGal,

In reading your response I wanted to ask this: Given that me and this Taurus were involved once before what's the likelihood that she would be playing around this time. It seems like, in my mind, that would be kind of heartless. Would a Taurus woman be capable, in general, of something like that? I understand the need for attention but she's an attractive woman and would have no problem getting this elsewhere. It seems weird that she would pick someone she was already involved with just to get some attention.

Well, obviously without knowing her it's a tough call, but if she was in a prior relationship and was maybe treated poorly, she could (subconsciously) be using your "attention" to build herself back up. While that's not common (well, for me anyway), you never quite know what makes a person "tick.". Again, I would pull way back from her if I were you, and see if she pursues you a little; if not, then she may just want to be friends, and in that case you can move on knowing you gave her every opportunity, but for whatever reason, she may just want to be friendly with you, but nothing else.
Btw, no matter how attractive a woman is, they still like to get their ego's stroked from time to time.