taurus woman - whats up

hi,

i have been seeing a taurus woman for 8 months now, we see each other everyday, she has her own place but she is at mine all the time. If she isnt here she calls all the time or sends me messages.

I don't know I just dont get her sometimes, we havnt got an offical title for our relationship - she isnt comfortable giving it one.

She ended a relationship with her ex just before we started seeing each other as her ex cheated on her several times - and then wouldnt stop contacting her constantly.

Anyway, we were intimate, and recently she decides she doesnt like me being close to her even a hug - although she can when she wants to be with me.

I'm not sure what is going through her head right now, shes very quiet as person, and doesnt like to talk much, thats just her nature, we were friends first.

if someone rings or sends me a message she wants to know who it is even now, if i got out she wants to know where with who etc, and will ring while im out or send a message with a sad face saying she needs a hug.

I just dont get her, and its beginning to annoy me, i try and give her space, but she just calls and messages or turns up. I have asked for space, but she gets freaked out and won't let me have it - either calls or messages, or then she would finally open up to say she is having a hard time, and then i feel bad.

I just am not happy with out intimacy, but i like her, and would like to be able to work things out with her - but i'm not sure how, is she in to me? does she love me? I just need to figure this out, i would aapreciate if any female tauruses cold give me any clues.

thanks

her ex cheated on her, and all she says is she doesnt want to get close to anyone like that again, and yet she freaks out if i say i will move on, what do you think toro?

hmm i do like her a lot, but she seems to be in this weird place right now, she always calls me pet names etc, and is intimate when it suits her, its strange, she just seems to be a bit cold right now.

But she doesnt let me go either - what do u make of tha toro?

hmm i do like her a lot, but she seems to be in this weird place right now, she always calls me pet names etc, and is intimate when it suits her, its strange, she just seems to be a bit cold right now.

But she doesnt let me go either - what do u make of tha toro?

she is 25, and she said that she was thinking about taking her ex back a couple of times, and i said fine, lets call it a day. then she didnt, but kept texting her ex, and always at mine, and now i am fed up.

I am a virgo,

She has trust issues from previous relationship...she likes you but cant trust you right now...she's not emotionally ready for a relationship and you can see that from her hot/cold behaviour. What she really needs right now is a good friend...someone who can show her some loyalty (something lacking in previous relationship). She was betrayed.

We're very much like scorpios (minus the blind need for revenge) in thaat respect. She's reaching out to you but also has low self-esteem from what jacka $ $ ex did.

You really need to sit down and communicate with her. She may not even realise she's doing what she's doing...if I were you, I'd hold off trying to get her into a relationship and tell her that. Tell her you'll be there for her but even though she denies it like hell...she's not ready. Tell her how you feel about her...cos she might think you're rejecting her and that wont help with the self-esteem issue.

8 months, I told her its over, but she keeps coming back, she told me she doesnt want to be with her ex anymore, and doesnt want to be close with anyone again, so i asked her what she is doing here.

i haev tried to talk with her - but she just walks off or gets angry.

"but she just walks off or gets angry."

What can I say? We're stubborn like that 😉

You're mutable virgo, which means you're accomodating. You need to be firm. Sorta like a strict parent who love his child. Just tell her you care/love her/"insert emotion" but you're not about to have this to and froing and be firm about it. That's all.

Ok so i read your initial post for this entry (to impatient to read all the little notes). What i can tell you from my own experience, if i dont wanna title someone theres a reason. chicks obviously likes you, but old habits die hard right? it might have been 8 months or however long you two have been together, but that doesnt mean shes over what happened. some habits are hard to get rid of, especially if your relationship was tramatizing. trust me i'll gladly admit, i'm fucked up in the head, my ex threw me around like a soccer ball. like im seriously paranoidal about my phone n other random things. so mayb her constant calling n worring is to due that, also because she openly said she didnt wanna be that close to anyone, but naturally her body and mind are doing the opposite. she wants you, wants to be close, but is horribly scared of being so close again. she doesnt think her heart can take it again. just tell her shes confusing u and that if shes gonna be on ur ass 24/7 she better be offically yours and not going for anyone else. 'sh*t or get off the pot', if shes gonna be so jumpy, she might as well be ur jumpy nutbag rather than a single jumpy nutbag. just a thought.

ok.... so i got curious and went back to read everything. i still stand firmly behind my words. If shes on your a $ $ , it's for a reason. as everyone said we never do anything 1/2 a $ $ ed, shes not gonna stop and shes gonna stay stubborn n continue pursuing you. you need to get her ex out of her life. granted giving her the ultimatum wont give you anything cuz she'll cling onto him harder (i've done it). some ex's dont disappear, find out why hes still around. what hold does he have on her. he obviously knows her weaknesses and thats why shes still talking to him. just get her in a comfortable moment, be the everything shes ever wanted n make her feel very secure. then just talk calmly about the world, be her best friend, u might learn more than way. n yea its obvious.. shes not emotionally ready, but if u really want her talk to her as a friend n figure everything out. shes possesive cuz she wants to be with u, but knows she cant. thats life.

thanks everyone for being so supportive, I have told her that I can't keep doing this, I know she has issues from her past, I 've even ended it and told her my reasons as to why, she always comes back.

she will say she misses me so much, or make up an excuse to see me or talk to me. I have no idea how to get her ex out of her life - she like a dog with a bone, she just won't let go, if i mention it she jsut does it more, and gets in a mood about it.

I don't know, if being with someone for 8 months she hasnt realised she is into me, then she never will, I have other girls on me, and well I genuinely like my taurus, but its not working.

I emailed her the other day and told her, that i cant do this and have decided to be with someone else - you know what she did, instead of even talking about the email i sent, she just started talking about something else...she always does that, never actually talks about what is happening.

" emailed her the other day and told her, that i cant do this and have decided to be with someone else - you know what she did, instead of even talking about the email i sent, she just started talking about something else...she always does that, never actually talks about what is happening."

Honey...this is why you DON'T have conversations like this via EMAIL !

she wont talk newbie, if i bring it up she walks off, or says i dont want to talk, thats the only way i can actualy say whats going on

Ok...now SHE'S starting to piss me off...and you? Well...you're just too sweet sounding. Just blank her out. Seriously. If you've tried everything and she doesnt have the decency to act like an adult...friggin blank her out, i.e. ignore all attempts she makes to contact you.

Sounds harsh, but it's the only thing that will get through to her. THEN when she's ready to talk, y'all can have a nice little heart to heart. 😉

thanks newbie, thats the only thing that i can think of, but i'm not going to sit back and wait for her, i gave her a chance, and she completly rinsed it, now i am gonna do my thing and she can wake up when she wants to, but doesnt mean that I will be lying next to her when that happens.

only no point down bashing the chick, its obvious shes not emotionally available, what more can ya say? Look, she's got a lot of crap on her mind, no offense but if she went for u right after her last relationship...u were rebound and even still ur not getting much out of it, besides her ex's trauma. save urself the hassle and look else where and when shes ready and if ur both in the right place later, then you'll talk. but only as friends, keep it simple.