Need help with my taurus woman.

Hello everyone.

Im new here.

I'll start off by explaining that I need some meaningfull advice from both taurus women and men.

Im an Aries man in every aspect that I can be ,emotional,impulsive and everything that icludes to be an aries. I have been with my taurus girlfriend for about 5 years. Its been constant ups and downs from both of us. A rollercoaster . I know her for 5 years and we have been on and off relationship all this time. We have broken apart for at least 4 times and lived together 3 times. For the past year ,since I moved out,we kinda are seeing each other all the time. Sometimes she dissappears sometimes i do,but the no contact phase usualy doesnt last longer than 2 weeks. From my side I can say that I have tried to get over her and move on ,but I usualy cant. We somehow end up seeing each other again. As far as I know,she has met other people as well ,obviously.

I know that I have made some serious mistakes and hurt her badly over the years,but somehow I manage to come back from it.

For the pasty year the relationship was undefined and we just kinda were dating and doing all other stuff ,it was a relaxed relationship with no definition.

But this summer I kind of came to terms with myself of what I realy want in life and understood that i realy want her to be by my side . (Marry her) . So at one point I started to change my relaxed approach,started having conversations with her about it being serious. I got the idea that shes tired of this thing as well and wants to sort it out ,but then she went to a trip and she came back different. I was starting to plan my ways to surprise her,spend loads of time together and make a future together.I got realy emotional along the way and I pushed her . She told me 3 times in the past one and a half months since im trying realy hard,that we should go our seperate ways ,but all the time she stayed and I somehow ingored the fact that she told me those things and kept trying. She always stayed and let me take her out on dates and to talk ,but everytime it led to her saying its over. I became kinda needy and clingy..

So the last time past week,i again tried to talk to her and it all went south. I told her i love her with all my heart and i will give her time and space,which she asked before. So we didnt contact for this week.

Now Im just trying to get back up on my feet and come back from the destroyed state that i was left after this hard time.

I started to man up ,so that she could see the change in me. Im now leaving her a flower each day on her door and a note with one word of the things i love about her.

Yesterday she called and we kind of met but it was obvious that shes distant.

I dont know what to do. I just keep trying? What can i do to prove her that i want this for real? Whats the best approach. Because i know i love her with all my heart and i know that she loves me too ,she just resists the feeling...

thanks in advance.

Taurus and Aries def have an attraction for each other. However, it is incompatible. Almost most have a unhealthy relationship. Taurus just can't understand Aries fast energy. I know an aries/Pisces cusps woman with a bull and wow, their relationship was doom but they kept at it-for what? Idk.

-Leo sun, Sag Moon, Gemini Venus, Virgo Mars, Libra Rising

The dilemma: "You're telling her and not showing her"

The dilemma: "Your emotional state, impulsive nature, and flighy ways scream 'instability.'

The dilemma: "She is keeping her options open, but at this current state, you're being weened off.'



The solution: Show her consistency, stability, and some level of security.

The solution: Limit the overomanticized gestures to more concerete tangible solutions, such as something that may a be a representation of the both of you. Something stable, something concrete and something that represents longevity, safety, reliability and trust.

You mentioned you hurt her many times in the past. Was there infidelity involved?

Posted by TaurusBull1977
The dilemma: "You're telling her and not showing her"

The dilemma: "Your emotional state, impulsive nature, and flighy ways scream 'instability.'

The dilemma: "She is keeping her options open, but at this current state, you're being weened off.'



The solution: Show her consistency, stability, and some level of security.

The solution: Limit the overomanticized gestures to more concerete tangible solutions, such as something that may a be a representation of the both of you. Something stable, something concrete and something that represents longevity, safety, reliability and trust.

You mentioned you hurt her many times in the past. Was there infidelity involved?

Thank you very much for your reply.

At this moment im not trying to bother her with constant contact. I just leave her a flower each day with a card. I do not expect anything in return,but first two days,she called or wrote me a message sating thanks and seemed flattered. Im not pirsuing any contact or asking her out all the time.

I dont know how can I show her this. She obviously thinks that im contacting other women ,but im not. Im willing to give this my all in the long term,that is to be patient and try my best.

Infidelity. No ,I have never touched or made serious contact with other women while we are in a relationship.

Why does she assume you're contacting other women?