Need some assistance in understanding this taurus guy

Hi All -- im very new here and wanted some views from the Taurus guys on here or anyone who can probably knock some sense into me 😢
I met someone online a year and half ago (yes a year and half) and we had this amazing connection where we would chat about almost anything. He have been there for me in times in my life where there was death and always helped me in ways that was really appreciated.. I as well helped him see things differently and we would talk at least 3 times for the day. we lived in different countries and we both know things would not work out that way but we obviously had serious feelings there which we did not hide. I am a leo and a very mature one at that -- I am not the attention seeker as most leos and I don't get angry -- blame it on the tragedies that happened in my life that I just refuse to allow pettiness to get the better of me. Now for the part where I was totally stupid.. after getting caught up in conversations for months and getting to know this guy I wanted to see him on cam as I have only seen pics .. he refused as he did not want to show himself to me which I could not understand.. He told me he started to see someone and he told her that he likes to chat .. she told him she does not mind once he does not cam of do voice messaging... I didn't buy it as what would letting me see you for 30 seconds gonna hurt anyone? We did not do the sex chat thing but there would be times he would just say how he feels. Anyway I accepted it because of all the time spent and how much he did help me and listened and we had the most amazing times laughing. he told me that there are times it hurts like hell to be away from me.. and even I felt it.. the connection was just so real. there were times I would be very down and I would get messages asking if I was ok that he felt that I wasn't .. and vice versa... it was just unexplainable. Anyway to cut a long story short -- he was going away for two weeks and like many times before he would always come back the date he said he would... always leaving messages if he doesn't catch me etc. we said our goodbyes but it was hard -- very hard this time -- he was very emotional and upset and said he just wanted to be back to talk to me ... its going on to four weeks now and he have not returned. For a year and half he would always say when he would be online and we know the times we will catch each other... but this time I got no messages .. no return email nothing.. I emailed asking if everything was ok -- no response.. so somehow in my mind im thinking maybe he was not the person in the pic ... as I told him when he comes back I would really like to see him and he said he would let me. Im not sure if he is in a relationship now that he thinks that he cannot talk to me again... I would understand that as he needs to honor that -- but not a word? that's a bit unkind if he has really done this ... im trying to put it down to him being ill -- or something and give it more time

have you searched for the photos online?

Hi Jeane -- I did -- nothing came up 😢

Posted by busyeyes88
Catfish come to my mind!!

You have never met him in person? Please move on!! I had an LDR with a sag for 18 months but I had met him in person before he moved abroad for work and after 18 months he moved in to my country to be with me but it did not work out.

You have not even met him and he makes excuses. Why have you two not met yet?

Hello and thank you for your assistance -- u are right -- catfish came to my mind also 😢 we didn't meet cause of different things happening one after the other -- death in my family etc that took a real toll on me --- he said one day he wants to but he moved on to someone so I was respecting that .. .but not even a word after a year and half -- not that we were together but friendships are valuable too or so I thought -- why not even send a message saying something at least -- not leave someone just like that .. I am moving on -- I don't allow people to trample over me but this is my way of venting I guess -- I need to let out the steam -- so I signed up here as in reading all your post and rants sometimes I see how people do feel better.. thanks so much

Posted by jeane
have you searched for the photos online?

I have -- nothing came up 😢

do you know, i really wouldn't give this a lot of thought. worrying over it won't change anything. you're not in a relationship and he lives in another country.

just chalk it down to a mystery and get on with your business. if he comes back great, you can ask him where he has been. if he doesn't, then he doesn't by which point you won't have missed a beat in getting on with things in your life.

chatting to you on webcam or not really isn't a big deal unless you have romantic feelings for this guy. if you do, i would encourage you to turn your attention to something real rather than something virtual. it's a waste of time and emotion and better cauterised in it early stages.

Posted by jeane
do you know, i really wouldn't give this a lot of thought. worrying over it won't change anything. you're not in a relationship and he lives in another country.

just chalk it down to a mystery and get on with your business. if he comes back great, you can ask him where he has been. if he doesn't, then he doesn't by which point you won't have missed a beat in getting on with things in your life.

chatting to you on webcam or not really isn't a big deal unless you have romantic feelings for this guy. if you do, i would encourage you to turn your attention to something real rather than something virtual. it's a waste of time and emotion and better cauterised in it early stages.

Thanks for your advice.. I will definitely move on .. having said that ... even though its a mystery it was still time invested and also emotions... I idid have feelings for him but you are right I do have to turn it into something real ... thanks so much 🙂

the important thing to remember is online is not real. it's fantasy. have a look at how many threads recently have to do with online 'relationships'. these are not relationships. they can't be. they can be friendships but if you think it is anything more than that you are gambling with your emotions. be sensible, be the mature leo you are and invest in that which you can see and feel rather than what you imagine.

time has been wasted but not really. you entertained you, he entertained you. i'm sure you enjoyed the banter. just don't give it more value than it deserves.

Posted by jeane
the important thing to remember is online is not real. it's fantasy. have a look at how many threads recently have to do with online 'relationships'. these are not relationships. they can't be. they can be friendships but if you think it is anything more than that you are gambling with your emotions. be sensible, be the mature leo you are and invest in that which you can see and feel rather than what you imagine.

time has been wasted but not really. you entertained you, he entertained you. i'm sure you enjoyed the banter. just don't give it more value than it deserves.

U are right -- it isn't real --- but I value humans regardless -- call me stupid but its real people behind this computer -- just like you are taking time to answer me right now and help me in my issue -- its time and energy and its also care and love to a point.. it was more a friendship to me that I really valued a lot... I am moving on Jeane don't think will spend time crying over this but as for me I needed some venting here -- and it seemed like a nice place to meet good people with good sound advice like you -- thanks again 🙂

Posted by busyeyes88

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Posted by busyeyes88
Catfish come to my mind!!

You have never met him in person? Please move on!! I had an LDR with a sag for 18 months but I had met him in person before he moved abroad for work and after 18 months he moved in to my country to be with me but it did not work out.

You have not even met him and he makes excuses. Why have you two not met yet?

Hello and thank you for your assistance -- u are right -- catfish came to my mind also 😢 we didn't meet cause of different things happening one after the other -- death in my family etc that took a real toll on me --- he said one day he wants to but he moved on to someone so I was respecting that .. .but not even a word after a year and half -- not that we were together but friendships are valuable too or so I thought -- why not even send a message saying something at least -- not leave someone just like that .. I am moving on -- I don't allow people to trample over me but this is my way of venting I guess -- I need to let out the steam -- so I signed up here as in reading all your post and rants sometimes I see how people do feel better.. thanks so much

But the taurus did tell you he has found someone else. I don't keep friendships. I cut all ties if I have moved on to someone new. Saves a lot of hassle imo. But that's just me!!

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He said he started seeing someone and that our friendship would never be affected ... its no use actually -- you cant do anything or message someone who does not want to message you .. regardless of ethics... how I may think and treat someone is not how others would treat me -- its just to accept that and move on -- not worth my time --