Pisces-Taurus difficulties

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BellatheBull
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PLA,I want to tell you that I know you are not a common troll,trying to play a game here for fun.
I think I understand what the motivation behind this is,and I'm sorry it led to humiliation for you.
Did he really do those things to you? because if so,he is no man.
If you would have mentioned these things when you originally posted as PLA,in the Insensitive Taurus Man thread,we would all have affirmed he was a dirt bag.but you never mentioned those things then.
If these things are true,and you are not just a troll...you have got to let go of this.you will never heal and be healthy and whole if you keep wallowing in this muck.the future is where happiness can be found,an unhappy,miserable past is disposable.
If you need to hear the words,I will say them.that man is a scumbag that is not worthy of your energy.


That being said...if you are just a troll making up bs like that...you can kiss my ass.
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Posted by BellatheBull
PLA,I want to tell you that I know you are not a common troll,trying to play a game here for fun.
I think I understand what the motivation behind this is,and I'm sorry it led to humiliation for you.
Did he really do those things to you? because if so,he is no man.
If you would have mentioned these things when you originally posted as PLA,in the Insensitive Taurus Man thread,we would all have affirmed he was a dirt bag.but you never mentioned those things then.
If these things are true,and you are not just a troll...you have got to let go of this.you will never heal and be healthy and whole if you keep wallowing in this muck.the future is where happiness can be found,an unhappy,miserable past is disposable.
If you need to hear the words,I will say them.that man is a scumbag that is not worthy of your energy.


That being said...if you are just a troll making up bs like that...you can kiss my ass.




Ok... 😢 I'm so sorry everyone.

You scare me. You're right. He did these things and I felt too embarrassed to say that he did them cause I felt like people would judge me for being a stupid person and wouldn't explain WHY he did them. I thought if I posted as him, you would tell "him" why he did it. I'm in no way a troll and I didn't mean to offend people. I'm just hurting and really embarrassed.

I never mentioned all of these things as "myself" because it's too terrible for me to say and also if I were to say them as myself that would make them seem more real to me. It's terrible. I feel sick thinking about it. Everything I wrote is true, I just change the voice of the piece to be him. I thought people would think I caused it all when I don't think I did.

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Yeah to this girlie who posted if you were really the girl and not that stupid guy, please try to move on from this situation by taking care of yourself. The guy was indeed a pervert and is not worthy of your time and energy. Please remove this guy out of your system, and don't put any hopes on this man that he is your prince charming because seriously a decent, honorable and loving man won't do this to his woman - the guy is not good for you, i hope you listen.



You're all so intuitive it's scary. I just feel so ashamed about everything that's happened. I feel even more ashamed, because I let him treat me this way and he would always keep saying to me - keep sending me more naked pics, let's have phone sex etc etc, we will be together and then all of a sudden he stopped all contact. I feel like my world is falling apart and that he used me and I know people use people all the time, but I've never had that happen to me before and I don't know how to deal with it.

I know this seems stupid, but a huge part of me is very idealistic and I can't wrap my head around the idea that someone could act that way, because I wouldn't do it. I know that makes no sense, but I feel like I am stuck in this situation and not able to get over it, partly because I have feelings for him, partly because I have some psychiatric issues, but mainly because I'm like a little girl who can't understand why someone could be so mean and I want things to be right, so that my faith in the world is not shot. Triple pisces there.

I apologise for not posting as myself. It's the first time I've ever done that. I just couldn't share all of the details (and there are WAY more worse ones) as myself.
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Whenever I've addressed the original lie to him - that he had a fiancee he would always say to me: "I didn't lie, I just don't like people to pry into my life, I am technically "single" cause I'm not married." Then he would tell me "you're so gullible and naive" all the time.

This guy has ruined my life for two years and I can't get over it. I think I need to discuss him with a psychiatrist to get over it. I try to block him from my email and phone etc, but he finds a way to come back and then I will try to be strong and say let's just be friends and he will insult me and say the meanest things to me. I know you will all think it's crazy, but I feel like I am in a long-distance emotionally abusive relationship. Our conversations were either sex or him telling me all the things that are wrong with me. He tells me I'm either too thin or too fat, my clothes aren't sexy enough, my attitude isn't sexy enough, I don't wear enough high heels, need to wear sexier outfits, I'm stupid, have no ambition (even though I am much more educated - I have a PhD - than him). He would keep telling me to strip on webcam and said if I didn't he wouldn't speak to me again. So I did and then the first time he actually got angry with me and was saying I wasn't trying hard enough and wasn't sexy enough and that if I couldn't get it right on webcam, what hope did I have in real life and that I would be boring in bed. 😢 Then he said to me that he would move in with me when I finished my PhD and he promised many times, but when I did finish it, he said that I was gullible and he didn't mean that. Cause we live in different time zones right now, he will only call me when it's evening where he lives and about 3am where I live. So I had to stay up all night waiting for his call to have phone sex. I never even wanted phone sex, I just wanted the few minutes before or after when we could chat about normal things. I started falling asleep at work and asked to talk at a different time and he said that it was at this time or never.

I had a very abusive childhood and I think I am just used to this, so what's funny is that intellectually I know it's wrong, but emotionally I am familiar with it.

Anyway, that's the story and I'm sorry I changed the voice to be the guy. I guess in a way I was trying to distance myself from it. When you write "I" it is real then.

This whole thing makes me cry so much. Believe me I know it's all my fault cause I let him do this. I know that.
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I kept getting a feeling after I got off of here last night,that that was exactly what you were doing.it was so strong I had to come back and tell you so.
I understand,believe it or not,why you pretended to be him.
Pisces women,regardless of what they might tell you around here...have a tendency to be pleasing to the point of being taken advantage of.you have no reason to be ashamed.HE has great reason to be ashamed,but you were doing what you believed he wanted in order to get close to him.you are vulnerable,he knows it and took it and ran with it.he is a pile of shit.
should you have done those things? no.but you did,and now you must let it go.
there is a power I have found in making a decision and following through.it puts YOU in control.you can now call the shots and exercise your power to NOT ever let him nor anyone else use you.
I hope you realize you are worth so much more,and you deserve REAL love,from someone who wants you for YOU,and is available to do so.
YOU are the one in control here,not him.
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Posted by BellatheBull
I kept getting a feeling after I got off of here last night,that that was exactly what you were doing.it was so strong I had to come back and tell you so.
I understand,believe it or not,why you pretended to be him.
Pisces women,regardless of what they might tell you around here...have a tendency to be pleasing to the point of being taken advantage of.you have no reason to be ashamed.HE has great reason to be ashamed,but you were doing what you believed he wanted in order to get close to him.you are vulnerable,he knows it and took it and ran with it.he is a pile of shit.
should you have done those things? no.but you did,and now you must let it go.
there is a power I have found in making a decision and following through.it puts YOU in control.you can now call the shots and exercise your power to NOT ever let him nor anyone else use you.
I hope you realize you are worth so much more,and you deserve REAL love,from someone who wants you for YOU,and is available to do so.
YOU are the one in control here,not him.



Thank you so much. You don't know how much that means. I should have posted as myself originally. By the way, i think you could be psychic or very intuitive to know that was what I was doing. It's scary. You're right, the only reason I did those things was because I wanted to be with him. It's really sad actually.

Thank you again for your advice and support. X
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I kept getting a feeling after I got off of here last night,that that was exactly what you were doing.it was so strong I had to come back and tell you so.
I understand,believe it or not,why you pretended to be him.
Pisces women,regardless of what they might tell you around here...have a tendency to be pleasing to the point of being taken advantage of.you have no reason to be ashamed.HE has great reason to be ashamed,but you were doing what you believed he wanted in order to get close to him.you are vulnerable,he knows it and took it and ran with it.he is a pile of shit.
should you have done those things? no.but you did,and now you must let it go.
there is a power I have found in making a decision and following through.it puts YOU in control.you can now call the shots and exercise your power to NOT ever let him nor anyone else use you.
I hope you realize you are worth so much more,and you deserve REAL love,from someone who wants you for YOU,and is available to do so.
YOU are the one in control here,not him.



Thank you so much. You don't know how much that means. I should have posted as myself originally. By the way, i think you could be psychic or very intuitive to know that was what I was doing. It's scary. You're right, the only reason I did those things was because I wanted to be with him. It's really sad actually.

Thank you again for your advice and support. X
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Well thank you for that.I get a lot of crap around here for listening to feeling rather than words,but it's all I can do.😉
I hope you feel free to stick around.any time you just need to talk about it,and need some of that Taurus tough love to encourage you,we'll be here.don't be embarrassed,just be yourself.not a single person in this world is without problems.
Sometimes just getting it out and talking about it helps tremendously.
and I will personally kick the butt of anyone who gives you trouble around here for it. 😉
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I kept getting a feeling after I got off of here last night,that that was exactly what you were doing.it was so strong I had to come back and tell you so.
I understand,believe it or not,why you pretended to be him.
Pisces women,regardless of what they might tell you around here...have a tendency to be pleasing to the point of being taken advantage of.you have no reason to be ashamed.HE has great reason to be ashamed,but you were doing what you believed he wanted in order to get close to him.you are vulnerable,he knows it and took it and ran with it.he is a pile of shit.
should you have done those things? no.but you did,and now you must let it go.
there is a power I have found in making a decision and following through.it puts YOU in control.you can now call the shots and exercise your power to NOT ever let him nor anyone else use you.
I hope you realize you are worth so much more,and you deserve REAL love,from someone who wants you for YOU,and is available to do so.
YOU are the one in control here,not him.



Thank you so much. You don't know how much that means. I should have posted as myself originally. By the way, i think you could be psychic or very intuitive to know that was what I was doing. It's scary. You're right, the only reason I did those things was because I wanted to be with him. It's really sad actually.

Thank you again for your advice and support. X



Well thank you for that.I get a lot of crap around here for listening to feeling rather than words,but it's all I can do.😉
I hope you feel free to stick around.any time you just need to talk about it,and need some of that Taurus tough love to encourage you,we'll be here.don't be embarrassed,just be yourself.not a single person in this world is without problems.
Sometimes just getting it out and talking about it helps tremendously.
and I will personally kick the butt of anyone who gives you trouble around here for it. 😉
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🙂 Thank you.
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I'm not psychic,but I am an empath.




You too huh— I'm starting to think we really are twins, But you must be a more advanced version since I have to be in proximity/eyesight for mine to work for the most part.. haha


To the OP... Pisces I've known in love have such a wonderful way of... being so beautifully hopeful in that love, or the object of that love that they seem to lose sight of whats really happening around them.. Its nothing wrong with you, and in and of itself really is a amazing trait. Just be careful not to 'door mat' yourself...

Also: with more self-worth come less tolerance of a males bullshit, The stronger you can be.. Look into yours..

I have full faith in you ability to tell em to f-off. And i have the utmost hope that when he finds his way to try to crawl back in your life, you'll remember him for who he is and not the dream/hope of who he is in your heart.. And you'll be strong with a good ole GTFO.. 😉
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Posted by TaurGuy
I'm not psychic,but I am an empath.




You too huh— I'm starting to think we really are twins, But you must be a more advanced version since I have to be in proximity/eyesight for mine to work for the most part.. haha


To the OP... Pisces I've known in love have such a wonderful way of... being so beautifully hopeful in that love, or the object of that love that they seem to lose sight of whats really happening around them.. Its nothing wrong with you, and in and of itself really is a amazing trait. Just be careful not to 'door mat' yourself...

Also: with more self-worth come less tolerance of a males bullshit, The stronger you can be.. Look into yours..

I have full faith in you ability to tell em to f-off. And i have the utmost hope that when he finds his way to try to crawl back in your life, you'll remember him for who he is and not the dream/hope of who he is in your heart.. And you'll be strong with a good ole GTFO.. 😉
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🙂 Oh thank you. You're so nice. Everyone here is really supportive and kind. I need to change my 'tiredtaurusguy' to a more suitable pseudonym. 🙂

You know you're really right, in that I realise lately that I see him in my own dream like state. He does dodgy things and I just think - oh that's not who he really is inside, when that is actually who is he. He's showing it to me and I'm not believing it. I just find it really hard to believe that all people are not good. It's naive I know. Thank you again for your nice words. 🙂

Btw I love: "I have full faith in you ability to tell em to f-off." Classic.