taurus confronted pisces- he ran away

well,, so much for the taurus/fish perfect union,, by the stars concept,,
the solid taurus and the wishy washy fish only made mud,,beware of falling in love !

"beware of falling in love"

Humm.....that phrase gives me a little jolt. One never falls in love. The words Fall in Love is not something to take lightly. Everyone says that they fell in love, is falling in love, etc....I truely believe that you don't FALL IN LOVE, you EVOLVE IN LOVE. If you take a look at the word fall it depicts declining, lessening, reducing, decreasing, declining, etc. (you know) On the other hand love is suppose to grow, evolve, escalate, rise, you get it.

TF

Awww : (

To the original poster--that really makes me sad! That bites. Well, maybe they will each fond what they need in someone else.

Such is the game of "love/love/la la la la la love". Oldie but goodie.

TF,

Interesting perspective you have there.
I have a question though, does this philosophy you have prevent you from believing in love at first sight?

"Find" that should say, not "fond".

Yup!!!

I don't believe in love at first sight either. In my eyes it's LUST at first sight. I mean think about it, if you see someone or meet someone for the first time, can you really say you LOVE them—? (unless you've just given birth to a baby, which happens with mothers). Like I said, people use that word too lightly.

You may want to be with that person sexually and emotionally on your first encounter with them, but it takes time to get to know a person, share feelings, thoughts, dreams and goals which can ONLY be done when you take the time to INVEST in a relationship with them (NOT meaning having them as a f*** partner, etc, etc.).

I guess I'm old fashion in a sense, (I'm 29) which is OK with me because I have experienced BOTH of those worlds and I know the difference.

TF (money lady)

I agree with you as well TF. Many people claim to have experienced love at first sight, when in reality, it is lust. It is impossible to feel love for a stranger that you have not been intimate with, spent hours of intense conversation with and invested your heart/feelings to, etc. You get my point. Yes it is possible to feel a connection -- and some intuition about someone when first meeting them but not love at first sight.

Also, I think many use the term love too lightly because they are mostly attracted to the idea of love itself. Hope that just made sense.

I am old fashioned when it comes to love as well. But I believe it is better that way.

AF (Sidekick)

I think I have to respectfully disagree with you ladies. I won't say that what's true in my life is true in yours, but I'm just saying that I do believe in love at first sight.

First (this is going to sound horrible at first, but stick with me)...I think a HUGE part of love IS lust. I think, and I know this will sound really weird, but I think that when we feel an intense lust for someone, it is our soul desiring a connection with that person. Therefore in my opinion, lust and love are so tied up in one another, that there cannot be one without some measure of the other. I believe very much that two strangers upon meeting eyes for the first time, can (and TF you're gonna hate me saying this, but...) immediately fall in love. Right there, on the spot. I think what takes work is any relationship, but I don't think you have to know a person that well or at all, in order to fall in love with them. And I think that the whole term "falling in love" refers to the way you feel when you're in the presence of that person. You feel that exhilaration of falling off a cliff but with a parachute...you feel like your whole workd is turning upside down (like the Diana Ross song. lol).

But I actually think it's impossible (unless you're looking at porn or something) to ONLY feel lust at first sight with a living, breathing person. I think when we desire someone sexually, that deep down we all desire to possess that person completely in an emotional sense.

I know it all sounds crazy, but these are just my theories! ; )

What do you all think?

I'm sorry to disagree with you but it's just not possible to immediately lock eyes with someone you know nothing about and feel love for that person. Think about it for a moment: Can you honestly look at a stranger, make eye contact and say you feel love for someone you know nothing about -- or haven't been intimate with(??)

Of course we are all searching for chemistry and a deep connection with that special someone but even if you feel an immediate connection after one conversation with that person, that is not love. I think it's just your intuition telling you something good about that person -- that you would like to get to know; perhaps just an instant attraction too -- but it cannot be love if your eyes just met. For real, true love to happen you would need to spend a great deal of time together; in deep conversation getting to know one another. And eventually being intimate as you both get to know one another in time. Just my opinion.

AF (Sidekick)

You have a point there comparing love and lust, but I still beg to differ. I guess the saying is to each is own. What's good for you may not be good for the next person.

If you do "FALL" in love and see love at "FIRST SIGHT", how come there's so much misery in relationships, lonely people and divorce.

Why people when all said and done say that "oh I didn't really know him/her at all" or "he/she changed on me" etc, etc,. The reality could be that the person HAD THAT FIRST ATTRACTION and they put in their own mind that that person is their soulmate, so to speak. because maybe they didn't give the romance a chance to grow and develop.

People say and show in the beginning what they want you to see. we all do it. But like the movie SHREK says, we have layers (LOL) like onions. you're in love with that image, persona, etc. you have to dig deep to get inside the core

They didn't give a chance to learn, get to know that person. I know that relationships take WORK, but in order to get the "job" you have to go to the "interview". I hope that made sense?! YOU KNOW

Sidekick

That was great what you said when you stated that people are in love with the idea of love. You hit the nail right on the head. Like a bride just wanting a wedding, but get tired of the marriage. It all boils down to this civilization making romance soooo glorified, you know that whole Cinderella thing.

Money Lady (TF)

I think it depends on whether you believe love is predminately chemical/hormonal, or predominately emotional...i.e, takes growing into over time and with cultivation.

I believe more that love is a chemical reaction to seeing someone you're "fated" to be with. That's why I don't think that love in and of itself takes any work, deep conversations, or even intimacy (of course at some point, you're going to want to be intimate with the person you're in love with). I think to remain in a relationship with that person, requires deep conversation, intimacy, and everything else you mentioned.

I guess my whole belief in "fate" is where a lot of this comes from. I think there really is one person out there (not necessarily on earth at the same time you are)--who is "the one". I know a lot of people don't believe that, but I really do.

I do respect your opinion Aries Female. Thank you for participating in this discussion with me, I love hearing what other people think about these things! : )

-phoenix

P.S. Sorry to the original poster for going a little off topic : )

PREDOMINATELY

(spelling correction)

-phoenix

Taurus Female--

have to run for a minute here but will respond to your post ASAP! : )

-phoenix

No prob! take your time.

sorry im the original taurus fem,, NOW my Pisces wants me to meet MOM—? its like some body just did a turn 180 degrees, now Im scared,,,leary,, very leary.. i was leaving town hes been around me like white on rice,,I havent left yet,, —
im confused,,

Taurus Female, a lot of what you're saying is very logical and makes sense to me. But I truly feel that I have fallen in love at first sight. It was like an explosion within 2 seconds of laying eyes on this person. I don't think I will ever experience a feeling such as that again--ever. It was the weirdest thing, it was literally that cheesy like they do it in the movies, where everything else around you disappears and dissolves into the background. It was like we were the only two people on earth at that moment, nothing else mattered. My friend was talking to me, I didn't hear a word she was saying. It was all muffled. All I could see was this vision of a person. Something instantly was there. I don't think it was just lust, or just an intuitional feeling, or a "I'd like to get to know him more". It felt more like "This is the one". It felt like I had known him in a past life or something. So this is sort of why I believe in love at first sight. He was acting in a play and I was in the audience, and luckily when we first met eyes, he didn't have any lines at that part! (LOL) We just kept staring at each other, not even flirting, just staring. It was so weird.

What you're saying about this culture making romance sooo glorified--I actually agree with that; there are a lot of people who get so wrapped up in "the wedding" as opposed to really considering the finality and committment involved in THE MARRIAGE (which is so much more important than the wedding)! Overall i completely get where both of you are coming from though...again, thank you both for your opinions!! : )

-phoenix

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I'm confused too! That does sound like a 180 to me. Weirdness!!—??

all i can say is im very scared and my heart is NOT doing well,, maybe taurus do need stable people, and the pisces arent settled enough to do it...
im sick,,,,,,

Then run back inside and hide neath the covers with your pain.
You know just what I am here for!
Don't turn me on again and leave me to face myself alone again!!!!!!
L