Taurus guy is back!

Here we go people! Cappy wine lady here...ok, the very Taurus guy that I dropped, left alone and decided to just keep my options open is back! I stopped contacting him some time ago due to his silience episode and he has contacted me yesterday and today. I can tell he's a bit standoffish (not sure if it's because it's the first encounter in some time) but I am pleasant with my responses. But how does one handle this? Do I tread lightly? Do I initiate conversation? I don't want to be pushy nor rush into a long and drawn out conversation. Nor do I want to bring up his latest disappearing act (later for that in person) but I don't know what I say. I've pretty much just left it up to him but is that such a good idea? Any advice will be very much appreciated.

Well, actions have consequence...

I think you should mention it. It depends on how you feel about him and how he feels about you. If you know he cares, confront him directly, if it won't make a difference, I guess you can decide.

We, or maybe it is only me, tend to take stuff like that serious. I try and change what ever has caused a rift. But if I am not interested, well, then I don't and just take the comment as it comes by. But if I care, I move mountains.

If he made it clear to you why he acted the way he did, then you can decide. Most people say we are slow as hell... Which I don't understand because I am generally the opposite of what people complain about (Maybe because of my Venus being in Aries, I don't know) when talking about a Taurus.

This is really up to you. Don't expect him to just disappear. If it, or more precisely you, means anything to him, then you'll see him again. If he feels that you attacked him or his character however, then write him off because we don't go back to something like that ever. But if he sees it as a consequence and decides to better him self, then he will be back and at least try his part to change.

I know I usually do. Take critique as a tool to better myself. Nobody is perfect.

Very true, thank you. That's just it. I haven't brought up the latest disappearing act. I felt maybe it is best to do that in person so I can look him directly in the eye. I guess I could mention it first. I just don't want to come across like I am attacking him so I will need to watch my words. Sure, I will be lying if I said that I don't have feelings for him which I do. I don't want him to think that this is a good thing and coming back to me can be so easy every time.

Yes, some (not all) of your are very slow and maybe you are different. I believe in "it's not what you say, it's how you say it". Both of us are scared and shy so it will take time for our walls to come down I guess.

He is making plans for us to meet again so I know that is a good thing. He has expressed missing me and so forth which I do like and totally appreciate.

I wish you so much luck iamwinelover! Hope it goes well for you!
Hi omagilll, how's things with you?

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I wish you so much luck iamwinelover! Hope it goes well for you!
Hi omagilll, how's things with you?

Thank you my friend. 🙂 I hope so also. Just a bit frightened. Lol.

When you overthink your actions, you become your own enemy. Trust your gut on what you should do. Confronting a Taurus actually sounds counter-intuitive and he'll probably back off a bit cause of it. Not to say don't do it, but naturally bring it up in conversation and gently! I'm just speaking from my experiences of dating Taurus and I'm Taurus myself 🙂

Posted by kupochan
When you overthink your actions, you become your own enemy. Trust your gut on what you should do. Confronting a Taurus actually sounds counter-intuitive and he'll probably back off a bit cause of it. Not to say don't do it, but naturally bring it up in conversation and gently! I'm just speaking from my experiences of dating Taurus and I'm Taurus myself 🙂

Thank you! I tend to overthink my actions a lot. In this case I will try not and take your advice. I'm keeping the conversation very light. I'd rather it come up in person. Ok, I will let things flow. I'm thinking that maybe he wants to just see where my head is regarding him and how I feel about him.

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Posted by Lurverlurver
I wish you so much luck iamwinelover! Hope it goes well for you!
Hi omagilll, how's things with you?

Thank you my friend. 🙂 I hope so also. Just a bit frightened. Lol.

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What Evers meant to be, will be. Just do how u feel, but tred carefully! Let me know how is goes!

You have done well so far, have faith in yourself to do the right thing!

I would go in with the mindset of being completely honest. If you like eachother...what do you have to lose?

If his disappearing makes you feel insecure, or as if you are not needed or even wanted....express that to him. Dont think so much about what you dont want him to think..(you making it too easy)...but more about how you feel. I personally get caught up into not allowing myself to come across this/that way, that Ill tend to ignore my feelings, which the pride/ego tend to get my feelings crushed 10x worse...since its not a representation of how u feel, so try to push it to the side.

I find they are very sensitive, so keep an inviting tone, so he can be allowed to share and express etc...and just be honest.

Hmm, now maybe Ill learn to follow my own advice smh lol. Good luck!

Whoa. You're a CAP!? I thought you were a Virgo with all that overthinking. Stop THINKING about what he wants, and focus on what you want. Do you want this dude? Then be open and receptive to him. If you wanna talk to him, reach out to him..keep the balance. All this thinking could be restricting the natural flow. Taurus men, atleast mine, are not big initiators...so if they get off their lazy bull butt to speak to you in the first place, it means a lot! But don't expect them to carry that out throughout the relationship. Decide what you want, and plan around that. Stop thinking about catering to him.

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I would go in with the mindset of being completely honest. If you like eachother...what do you have to lose?

If his disappearing makes you feel insecure, or as if you are not needed or even wanted....express that to him. Dont think so much about what you dont want him to think..(you making it too easy)...but more about how you feel. I personally get caught up into not allowing myself to come across this/that way, that Ill tend to ignore my feelings, which the pride/ego tend to get my feelings crushed 10x worse...since its not a representation of how u feel, so try to push it to the side.

I find they are very sensitive, so keep an inviting tone, so he can be allowed to share and express etc...and just be honest.

Hmm, now maybe Ill learn to follow my own advice smh lol. Good luck!

Hi Inana04! Thank you for your advice. We haven't had such a conversation like that yet since we just began to speak yesterday but I would like to express how his disappearing acts have made me feel for sure. I don't have anything to lose and I would think that he would appreciate my honesty while not playing games with his feelings or my own.

Isn't it easier giving someone advice yet you know it may work for you too. Lol. I do that all of the time.

Posted by anonymousheart
Whoa. You're a CAP!? I thought you were a Virgo with all that overthinking. Stop THINKING about what he wants, and focus on what you want. Do you want this dude? Then be open and receptive to him. If you wanna talk to him, reach out to him..keep the balance. All this thinking could be restricting the natural flow. Taurus men, atleast mine, are not big initiators...so if they get off their lazy bull butt to speak to you in the first place, it means a lot! But don't expect them to carry that out throughout the relationship. Decide what you want, and plan around that. Stop thinking about catering to him.

LOL! Algith gf! I hear you. I hear you. No, I am a cappy but my moon is Virgo. So that say's something, right? 🙂 Ok, I will take what you say into consideration. It's about what I want yes but I didn't want to come across too blunt but then again, hey it is what it is. I will plan around what I want. I am learning. First bull guy ever...this is crazy. I'm drinking wine for sure tonight. LOL, thought I wasn't? 😉

I knew it LOL! You have virgo all over you 😉
Honestly girl, I was keeping score too...When I stopped things go a lot easier. I do most of the initiation. When I pull back/get busy he comes forward. Have some wine, relax..He likes you. And it only gets better from here.

LOL! I will just relax. I had to stop keeping score myself which is why I decided to let things go. I keep hearing that it better from here and we shall see! I will keep you posted. I'm going home sooon to pop open a bottle! Cheers everyone and thank you soooo much for your advice!!