Scorpio72
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Taurus Man CONFUSING?!?!
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Sorry, need to add. He is the following: Taurus Sun, Gemini Moon and Venus in Cancer. I am Scorpio Sun, Aquarius Moon and Venus in Libra. He is 37 and I am 40.
I would just like to know what is going on in his head and why the push/pull.
I would just like to know what is going on in his head and why the push/pull.
Well it seems like he actually really does like you. Most Taur men are really honest about what they're feeling, if he says he has serious feelings for you- chances are his emotions are just that. I can tell you that when a Taurus is busy- it doesn't necessarily have any alternative meaning. I don't see my Taur guy everyday of the week, maybe 2-3 times but that's enough. Let me tell you, usually when a Taurus seems busy or occupied he really would love to spend time with you- but he just can't at that moment. And in time as love grows, he will start making more and more time for you as you become a bigger part of his life. It takes time for love blossom with a Taurus- they need to be sure it's right. Slowly and steadily he will if you're patient with him. Patience is key darling!
Meow,
I'm just confused by the whole "Don't want a relationship" to "If that's what you want, then we can do that" referring to relationship out of his mouth in a week's time. I don't want all, or even half, of his time. I understand he is busy and believe him because I do work with him. We are 20 yards away from each other but we try to keep our interaction at a minimum because we don't want people knowing. We discussed this in the beginning and both agreed. But when I told my Taurus (Let's call the Taurs Jason and my supervisor Stan) that Stan told me the other day "Can you get with Jason about this issue? I know how much Jason likes to hear from you." I was like wth??, but Jason said "I don't care who knows. We aren't doing anything wrong." I said "It's not that I'm ashamed of you, I would shout from the rooftops that we are together BUT I don't want any drama with my supervisor and coworkers towards you." He agreed.
I'm also confused about the contact. He was busy when we first started seeing each other but yet text me everyday, at least at night to chat for a bit, then after about 3 weeks he doesn't contact me as much. 😢 I do try not to push him but ignoring some of my texts is just RUDE!!!
I'm just confused by the whole "Don't want a relationship" to "If that's what you want, then we can do that" referring to relationship out of his mouth in a week's time. I don't want all, or even half, of his time. I understand he is busy and believe him because I do work with him. We are 20 yards away from each other but we try to keep our interaction at a minimum because we don't want people knowing. We discussed this in the beginning and both agreed. But when I told my Taurus (Let's call the Taurs Jason and my supervisor Stan) that Stan told me the other day "Can you get with Jason about this issue? I know how much Jason likes to hear from you." I was like wth??, but Jason said "I don't care who knows. We aren't doing anything wrong." I said "It's not that I'm ashamed of you, I would shout from the rooftops that we are together BUT I don't want any drama with my supervisor and coworkers towards you." He agreed.
I'm also confused about the contact. He was busy when we first started seeing each other but yet text me everyday, at least at night to chat for a bit, then after about 3 weeks he doesn't contact me as much. 😢 I do try not to push him but ignoring some of my texts is just RUDE!!!
Hmm by that I think he's kind of saying "If we we're in a relationship now...you wouldn't get much of my time. I'm really busy, but if you want that we'll do it." So he's kind of saying, take it or leave it at this point I guess. It takes time for a Taurus to change, if you don't think you can deal with the waiting and yearning then maybe you should let go until he starts to make more of an effort and not just you. I -hate- when people ignore texts, so frustrating I know. The key I've found with my Taurus is to literally clear my mind, focus on something else and wait until he contacts me. But I suppose that's a different situation since we're already in a really established/solid relationship.
It's good that you let him know you needed him once, that should be enough. If he continues to periodically ignore you- you shouldn't text him. Let him wonder about you and think about you sometimes that works, other times it doesn't. But in reality you deserve someone that's willing to sacrifice more than a day/ or night every couple weeks for you
It's good that you let him know you needed him once, that should be enough. If he continues to periodically ignore you- you shouldn't text him. Let him wonder about you and think about you sometimes that works, other times it doesn't. But in reality you deserve someone that's willing to sacrifice more than a day/ or night every couple weeks for you
Meow,
That's funny you said that about take it or leave it from his perspective because that's EXACTLY the vibe I got from him. He told me that he knows I want to go out to dinner and drinks but that he can only do that like once or twice per month. He can't on weekends because he goes home to another state every weekend to see his kids, which I totally understand and he appreciates that. He's told me many times that he appreciates that I am understanding of his schedule. I am a Scorpio and you know how we are impatient! lol He's worth the wait though. We both admitted that it was instant magnetism between us both the moment we saw each other for the first time. And he's ALWAYS apologizing! "I'm sorry" for this and that...things he doesn't need to apologize for and I've told him to stop apologizing so much. He's also very concerned that I'm going to think he's an arse! He's told me MANY times "I just don't want you to think I'm a d-ck because I'm really not". Oh and you know what was weird?? The other night when he was holding me he said "I like you alot and care about you." but it was the way he said the caring part. When he said the like you part it was straight but when he said the care about you part, his voice was shaky, almost emotional? I thought he was going to start crying! I just laid there speechless! You know we Scorps are extremely intuitive and I may be wrong but I think he's falling for me. Thoughts—
That's funny you said that about take it or leave it from his perspective because that's EXACTLY the vibe I got from him. He told me that he knows I want to go out to dinner and drinks but that he can only do that like once or twice per month. He can't on weekends because he goes home to another state every weekend to see his kids, which I totally understand and he appreciates that. He's told me many times that he appreciates that I am understanding of his schedule. I am a Scorpio and you know how we are impatient! lol He's worth the wait though. We both admitted that it was instant magnetism between us both the moment we saw each other for the first time. And he's ALWAYS apologizing! "I'm sorry" for this and that...things he doesn't need to apologize for and I've told him to stop apologizing so much. He's also very concerned that I'm going to think he's an arse! He's told me MANY times "I just don't want you to think I'm a d-ck because I'm really not". Oh and you know what was weird?? The other night when he was holding me he said "I like you alot and care about you." but it was the way he said the caring part. When he said the like you part it was straight but when he said the care about you part, his voice was shaky, almost emotional? I thought he was going to start crying! I just laid there speechless! You know we Scorps are extremely intuitive and I may be wrong but I think he's falling for me. Thoughts—
Well then it sounds like you can handle the wait until you become a really sole part of his life 🙂. I know us Scorpio's are impatient but you'll have to teach yourself to be patient. I know I did, and my Taurus was definitely worth my patience. Aw, I've only heard the shaky, trembling voice about four times- it's so sweet and touching. It's cute when their emotions come out through their voice and they can't help it, once my boyfriend was gone for three weeks on a family vacation- and when he came back we were in bed, he told me he loved me and it sounded like he was almost holding back tears or something- it was so raw.
I think your Taurus -really- likes you a lot, and I think your connection could lead to a strong love bond. Always remember, true love waits. 🙂 The fact that he's actually apologizing to you means he cares what you think about him and about your feelings. So still I cannot stress patience enough! It will take time but Scorpio and Taurus bonds can grow nearly unbreakable.
I think your Taurus -really- likes you a lot, and I think your connection could lead to a strong love bond. Always remember, true love waits. 🙂 The fact that he's actually apologizing to you means he cares what you think about him and about your feelings. So still I cannot stress patience enough! It will take time but Scorpio and Taurus bonds can grow nearly unbreakable.
Meow,
Thank you for the encouraging words! They make me feel soooo much better! 🙂 I almost shed a tear myself because of his "rawness". He is such a sweet and endearing man. I told him last week that I absolutely adored him and he said "The feeling is mutual". He also told me the first night we hung out that he's a big communicator and wants me to talk to him about anything that is bothering me at any time, he doesn't want me to hold back. So when I do, I always apologize for coming across as needy or desperate and he always says "No, I don't think that at all.". I can't wait to see where this leads to. 🙂 How long did it take for your Taurus to start delving into your likes, dislikes, family, etc? I mentioned last week that I know nothing about his childhood or family and he said "I'm not ready for that yet.". Odd?
Thank you for the encouraging words! They make me feel soooo much better! 🙂 I almost shed a tear myself because of his "rawness". He is such a sweet and endearing man. I told him last week that I absolutely adored him and he said "The feeling is mutual". He also told me the first night we hung out that he's a big communicator and wants me to talk to him about anything that is bothering me at any time, he doesn't want me to hold back. So when I do, I always apologize for coming across as needy or desperate and he always says "No, I don't think that at all.". I can't wait to see where this leads to. 🙂 How long did it take for your Taurus to start delving into your likes, dislikes, family, etc? I mentioned last week that I know nothing about his childhood or family and he said "I'm not ready for that yet.". Odd?
It took my Taurus probably about hmm two months to start delving into my likes and dislikes in a really thoughtful way, and about five or six months to meet and really take an interest in my family. It took him a while to open up about his past and his family, slowly but surely he began to open up. He told me his general background and as time went on he began to open up about little imprints- experiences that hurt him, or impacted him to make him who he is. He did this without me asking, just naturally and I think that's the way it has to happen. So it's not odd that he's not ready for that yet- with Taurus it can take months if not years to learn true secrets about the roots of their life and childhood (much like us Scorps actually). It will go fast, believe me, it's been about two years with my current boyfriend and it flew by. Things are so easy between Scorp and Taurus- we bring out the best in each other.
It's funny because my last bf was a Taurus and there were some parts that where typical and some not. He was an alcoholic with schizo tendancies. Being with this Taurus is like a breath of fresh air compared to my ex. 🙂 This one I believe genuinly wants to see me happy. The ex I believe wanted to see me miserable, like it was his life mission to infect and destroy anyone involved with him. The only thing that this Taurus has said remotely involving his childhood was about religiion. He's an atheist now as a partial result of being raised in a true Southern Baptist setting (3 days per week services, strict raising, etc.), this shall be interesting to know more about as we go along.
I guess my confusion came in with him saying no to relationship to yes for a relationship and the fact of he was pursuing me in the first few weeks then seemed to pull away from me. He did say in the beginning that it may be 2 or 3 weeks between being able to hang out BUT he has found at least one night per week to see me. We "see" each other at work everyday from a distance. I told him last week "When I see you outside, I get all giddy inside." He said "Yea, when I see you come outside, I say to myself 'There's *insert my name*' and I just stare at you." Damn, I didn't know I was so mesmerizing! lol He is so super hot, I'm attractive but never thought I could have someone so handsome. Like Fifty Shades Christian Grey hot! 😉 Funny how he was protective of me prior to even spending actual time with me. I have children of my own and fully support him going to see his kids. I even told him that the other night.
Have you found it difficult sometimes to handle Scorpio's intensity? We don't mean any harm, that's just us and that's how we express how we feel for you. If we are intense about something or someone, take it as a compliment. If we aren't intense about something or someone, then be scared! lol
I'm just trying to keep a positive energy and mindsight. I have learned one thing about men...If they feel that they can not make you happy, then they are out the door! So I'm keeping my happy face on and a happy energy.
Have you found it difficult sometimes to handle Scorpio's intensity? We don't mean any harm, that's just us and that's how we express how we feel for you. If we are intense about something or someone, take it as a compliment. If we aren't intense about something or someone, then be scared! lol
I'm just trying to keep a positive energy and mindsight. I have learned one thing about men...If they feel that they can not make you happy, then they are out the door! So I'm keeping my happy face on and a happy energy.
What are some things that could make you run for the hills? I know he doesn't like to be pushed into doing something and that he is slow to move (other than work related! haha).
I do try to keep my intensity in check but it's hard sometimes because it's in our nature just like it's in Taurus's nature to be slow moving. I just don't think he wants me to be aloof to him, he told me the first night that he doesn't want game playing (Scorpios don't play games!). I'm a quirky lady and I think he likes that. It is funny because he's never shown a sense of humor and I have such a sarcastic one, but one night he said "I'm going to have to kick you out." I was like WTH? and he said "I was just joking like you do." Sweet!!!
I do try to keep my intensity in check but it's hard sometimes because it's in our nature just like it's in Taurus's nature to be slow moving. I just don't think he wants me to be aloof to him, he told me the first night that he doesn't want game playing (Scorpios don't play games!). I'm a quirky lady and I think he likes that. It is funny because he's never shown a sense of humor and I have such a sarcastic one, but one night he said "I'm going to have to kick you out." I was like WTH? and he said "I was just joking like you do." Sweet!!!
Yea, the Aquarius side of me causes me to less clingy than a lot and also it causes me to hate drama. Aquarius are peaceful people and will put up with a lot and even apologize (although the other person was in the wrong) just to keep the drama down. Between my Aquarius side and life experiences, I DETEST drama!!!! I fully trust this man, although my last couple of relationships have caused me some major trust issues. This is no small feat seeing as how Scorpios are very mistrusting people along with my experience with people.
I wouldn't say I'm jealous, I'm more possessive! Lol What's mine is mine!!! If I'm in public with my man and he starts talking to another girl, I will either sit there and observe then call him out on the bs later after we leave OR I will leave his butt there and let him wonder WTH? Haha It is funny because the first night we hung out, I told him that when I'm seeing a guy that I don't talk to other guys and he said —Good because I don't share!??. But then he turns around 2 weeks ago and tells me to go out with other guys. I don't know if he was testing me or what. I don't recall him saying I was —his?? unless you consider what I just said about him saying he doesn't share.
I'm really affectionate with him. I love touching him! I??ve made that very clear from the moment we started talking that I like touching him, not necessarily sexually! I do know that you Taurus??s are real sensitive on your neck so I??ve either got my fingers in his hair or putting my hands on the back of his neck. I think we both can't keep our hands off of each other, not in a horny teenage way, but in a really sensual and loving way.
I wouldn't say I'm jealous, I'm more possessive! Lol What's mine is mine!!! If I'm in public with my man and he starts talking to another girl, I will either sit there and observe then call him out on the bs later after we leave OR I will leave his butt there and let him wonder WTH? Haha It is funny because the first night we hung out, I told him that when I'm seeing a guy that I don't talk to other guys and he said —Good because I don't share!??. But then he turns around 2 weeks ago and tells me to go out with other guys. I don't know if he was testing me or what. I don't recall him saying I was —his?? unless you consider what I just said about him saying he doesn't share.
I'm really affectionate with him. I love touching him! I??ve made that very clear from the moment we started talking that I like touching him, not necessarily sexually! I do know that you Taurus??s are real sensitive on your neck so I??ve either got my fingers in his hair or putting my hands on the back of his neck. I think we both can't keep our hands off of each other, not in a horny teenage way, but in a really sensual and loving way.
AH!! I just didn't understand because he didn't actually say "I'm protective of you because you are mine." lol He said "I was trying to protect you." 🙂 He does call me baby ALOT and tells me he misses me. I will, however, be clingy to people, especially men, that I really like or love wholeheartedly! Like this man, I could cling to him like static! lmao!!!! But I do have to contain that because I do not want to scare him off.
I know this is about to get a little TMI but why do some Taurus like "vanilla sex"? My ex Taurus was anything but vanilla and this is more of the "standard vanilla", if that makes sense. How do I get him to be more adventurous without making him think that I'm some kind of whorish freak?? lol Can I "choke" him since he's sensitive in the neck?? roflmao!!!!!!
I know this is about to get a little TMI but why do some Taurus like "vanilla sex"? My ex Taurus was anything but vanilla and this is more of the "standard vanilla", if that makes sense. How do I get him to be more adventurous without making him think that I'm some kind of whorish freak?? lol Can I "choke" him since he's sensitive in the neck?? roflmao!!!!!!
I can totally see what you're saying about slow and sensual with him. He is a "savor the moment" man. He can go and go and go. He actually told me yesterday morning that he wished we could do that all day, sex. I was like "bring it!" lol As long as both of us are enjoying it, then I'm good. I get off from the other person being satisfied. I just didn't know if Taurus's liked to try new things and what type of things.
I don't know his birth time but here is the chart:
Sun Taurus 21.19
Moon Gemini 7.44
Mercury Gemini 12.30
Venus Cancer 3.11
Mars Pisces 23.28
Jupiter Aries 12.50
Saturn Cancer 14.58
Uranus Libra 29.33 R
Neptune Sagittarius 10.57 R
Pluto Libra 6.50 R
Lilith Pisces 10.44
Asc node Sagittarius 1.01
I don't know his birth time but here is the chart:
Sun Taurus 21.19
Moon Gemini 7.44
Mercury Gemini 12.30
Venus Cancer 3.11
Mars Pisces 23.28
Jupiter Aries 12.50
Saturn Cancer 14.58
Uranus Libra 29.33 R
Neptune Sagittarius 10.57 R
Pluto Libra 6.50 R
Lilith Pisces 10.44
Asc node Sagittarius 1.01
Here is mine:
Sun Scorpio 21.03 Ascendant Virgo 27.31
Moon Aquarius 10.51 II Libra 25.11
Mercury Sagittarius 12.00 III Scorpio 25.36
Venus Libra 16.16 IV Sagittarius 27.23
Mars Libra 28.17 V Capricorn 29.10
Jupiter Capricorn 7.14 VI Aquarius 29.37
Saturn Gemini 19.05 R VII Pisces 27.31
Uranus Libra 20.41 VIII Aries 25.11
Neptune Sagittarius 4.28 IX Taurus 25.36
Pluto Libra 3.38 Midheaven Gemini 27.23
Lilith Scorpio 29.20 XI Cancer 29.10
Asc node Capricorn 18.27 XII Leo 29.37
Sun Scorpio 21.03 Ascendant Virgo 27.31
Moon Aquarius 10.51 II Libra 25.11
Mercury Sagittarius 12.00 III Scorpio 25.36
Venus Libra 16.16 IV Sagittarius 27.23
Mars Libra 28.17 V Capricorn 29.10
Jupiter Capricorn 7.14 VI Aquarius 29.37
Saturn Gemini 19.05 R VII Pisces 27.31
Uranus Libra 20.41 VIII Aries 25.11
Neptune Sagittarius 4.28 IX Taurus 25.36
Pluto Libra 3.38 Midheaven Gemini 27.23
Lilith Scorpio 29.20 XI Cancer 29.10
Asc node Capricorn 18.27 XII Leo 29.37
Yep, yep, yep, yep!! lol That is soooo him!!! Like I said he's super fine! haha When he touches me, it's like NOTHING I've ever experienced before! And I've had my share of experience! So what is your conclusion to the findings?
What is the website? I would like to look up mine.
What is the website? I would like to look up mine.
Wow! I just read the rest. I'm a tad concerned because they seem to be all over the place, or is it just my bad interpretation??
I'm more scared of him getting scared of my intensity than anything. The new song by Kelly Clarkson "Dark Side" fits Scorpios to a T!
If you have Mars in Libra with Venus in Libra
you are . . .
The More than Perfect Lover
You are a Lover so in love with the idea of love that nothing else matters. At times your whole-hearted idealism makes you too optimistic and too easily deceived by people who promise to fulfill your ideals and then renege but, as delicate and unworldly as your romantic fantasy may seem, it is remarkably durable. Though you may be misused and hurt, you never lose your faith in the power of true love.
Issues of the flesh are always secondary to you and you are apt not to give them much thought. If such urges must be satisfied, then so be it. If sex proves useful in reaching other goals, that's fine too. As long as sex does not intrude on your ideal of perfect love such physical inconveniences hardly matters. Unfortunately, most of the rest of the world does not agree with you on this point and, measured by their standards, your sexual behavior may seem immoral or at least strangely na??ve. You must learn to allow for such harsh realities even as you strive to create that grand idyll of perfect love.
This is so on point for me! 🙂 I just wonder how our charts interact with each other. I have never wanted a man for the long haul more than him. I've been married and several long term relationships but never has anyone fit me more than him.
If you have Mars in Libra with Venus in Libra
you are . . .
The More than Perfect Lover
You are a Lover so in love with the idea of love that nothing else matters. At times your whole-hearted idealism makes you too optimistic and too easily deceived by people who promise to fulfill your ideals and then renege but, as delicate and unworldly as your romantic fantasy may seem, it is remarkably durable. Though you may be misused and hurt, you never lose your faith in the power of true love.
Issues of the flesh are always secondary to you and you are apt not to give them much thought. If such urges must be satisfied, then so be it. If sex proves useful in reaching other goals, that's fine too. As long as sex does not intrude on your ideal of perfect love such physical inconveniences hardly matters. Unfortunately, most of the rest of the world does not agree with you on this point and, measured by their standards, your sexual behavior may seem immoral or at least strangely na??ve. You must learn to allow for such harsh realities even as you strive to create that grand idyll of perfect love.
This is so on point for me! 🙂 I just wonder how our charts interact with each other. I have never wanted a man for the long haul more than him. I've been married and several long term relationships but never has anyone fit me more than him.
I will check that out! IF we do get to that point of the big "L" word, should I wait for him to say it first? Or should I throw it out there first since he seems so guarded and sensitive sometimes?
Thank you for all your help! I will keep everyone posted! 😉
I did want to add this pic. My Taurus looks just like this actor (hair and all!), except for my Taurus has brown eyes instead of blueish/gray. And guess what role this actor is slated to play, Christian Grey in Fifty Shades! ROFL!!
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Scorpio72 -
Some realy great advice in this thread. Meow is really on point with the male Taurus personality. He's not lying about his feelings. I would say they are *very* strong. I have that magnetism thing going right now with a scorp and it is VERY emotional for me (as you can see with my heart bleeding all over this board). When I rehearse some of the things I'd like to say to her in my head, I have to choke back tears. I would definitely get the shaky voice thing. I'm telling you there is something very unique about the Taurus/Scorpio chemistry. You guys are such amazing women - you really activate a romantic/emotional side to us that we don't normally feel. And we feel VERY protective. Its like we can see through the tough exterior to the tender woman inside, and we absolutely do not want to hurt you. We know the vindictiveness and wrath and all that only stems from the fact that you feel things so deeply.
Another thing - about the work stuff...Just from having a staring match with my scorp crush, my daydreams about her are so unrelenting, I cannot get any work done. The most amazing thing *for me* is that they are not sex fantasies or any of the typical guy stuff. They are fantasies about us just TALKING! Laughing together...maybe kissing one another at most. When a guy starts thinking like that, when a guy wants to just hold you? That's love. I'd wager his feelings are so strong he is a bit frightened. Taurus really can't handle break-ups and rejections - we can sulk for years. So, he's probably going to take things very slow to make sure he is not rushing into a relationship with an amazing person that he will be hurt so deeply by if it doesn't pan out. Here's an insider secret with the Taurus though. We *think* we are taking it slow and being cautious and rational about *deciding* to love you - really we are slowly just falling deeper in love. The longer we are around you, the more we love you.
I asked this to a bunch of scorps on another thread but no one answered - do we get in your heads as well? When in this courtship phase, do you guys think about us *all* the time? I'm really wondering about that....
Some realy great advice in this thread. Meow is really on point with the male Taurus personality. He's not lying about his feelings. I would say they are *very* strong. I have that magnetism thing going right now with a scorp and it is VERY emotional for me (as you can see with my heart bleeding all over this board). When I rehearse some of the things I'd like to say to her in my head, I have to choke back tears. I would definitely get the shaky voice thing. I'm telling you there is something very unique about the Taurus/Scorpio chemistry. You guys are such amazing women - you really activate a romantic/emotional side to us that we don't normally feel. And we feel VERY protective. Its like we can see through the tough exterior to the tender woman inside, and we absolutely do not want to hurt you. We know the vindictiveness and wrath and all that only stems from the fact that you feel things so deeply.
Another thing - about the work stuff...Just from having a staring match with my scorp crush, my daydreams about her are so unrelenting, I cannot get any work done. The most amazing thing *for me* is that they are not sex fantasies or any of the typical guy stuff. They are fantasies about us just TALKING! Laughing together...maybe kissing one another at most. When a guy starts thinking like that, when a guy wants to just hold you? That's love. I'd wager his feelings are so strong he is a bit frightened. Taurus really can't handle break-ups and rejections - we can sulk for years. So, he's probably going to take things very slow to make sure he is not rushing into a relationship with an amazing person that he will be hurt so deeply by if it doesn't pan out. Here's an insider secret with the Taurus though. We *think* we are taking it slow and being cautious and rational about *deciding* to love you - really we are slowly just falling deeper in love. The longer we are around you, the more we love you.
I asked this to a bunch of scorps on another thread but no one answered - do we get in your heads as well? When in this courtship phase, do you guys think about us *all* the time? I'm really wondering about that....
I have a split-faced grin on my face now after reading what you said. 🙂) I think because we are polar opposites we kind of "complete" each other, make sense? I will tell you this also, Scorpios are just as protective of their offspring and loved ones as Taurus are of theirs. When we love, we love DEEP!! You are right, we may have a tough exterior but deep down we are very insecure (Speaking for me, maybe not all Scorpios), still waters run deep is a very common quote for Scorpios and it fits perfectly. Do you think that's why he's lessened the contact is because he's realized the deep feelings that he has for me and wants to "regroup" his feelings? It's funny because the first night we spent time together outside of work, I was soooo nervous and that's NOT me. No guy has ever made me nervous in my life until this man. And he was so sweet...he said "Why are you so nervous?? *Insert my name*, we just hung out in my office 2 weeks ago and you were fine. " I said "Because I didn't know you like me then and you are so beautiful and sweet. Someone like you having a crush on me? I never would've imagined." He grabbed my hand and held it to calm me. He was protective of me before he ever even really talked to me. It's has if when he saw me for the first time and looked in my eyes, he was done, he was in love. 🙂 As for the work, I guess the saying "If a man wants to be with you, he will move mountains to do so." doesn't necessarily apply here? He's the one who admitted first that he had a crush on me and liked me alot. He's a chivalrous kind of man. He's been very open with me. It's just hard to tell him "Hey, I need more attention. I don't need constant contact but a text each night to say good night would make my day." Scorpios have the constant need to know where we stand with someone because we make damn sure you know where you stand with us all the time.
We don't talk during the weekend because he's home with his kids but he does send me a text when he leaves work saying "Have a good weekend. I will see you next week." In the beginning he didn't do that but about 3 weeks ago I asked him if he could do it, and he did! I didn't nag or push him, I just made a simple request. Like I said, he tries his best to make me happy but what he doesn't understand is that all I need is his time, simple. I've even told him that it's not about the sex with him, that I just want to spend time with him. I can go to his place and just read or lay in the bed and watch tv while he's working til 11 and 12 at night (he does work from his house at night). I just want to be in his presence. But he's told me that he can't do that because I am a distraction to him because he is sooo attracted to me and he wouldn't be able to do his work without having his hands on me. I don't know whether to take that as a compliment or insult! lmao
Now for your questions...Oh 10000000000000x YES!!! If you've found your way into our brains and our emotional side, we CAN NOT STOP thinking about you. We are OBSESSIVELY thinking about you. All I do is think about my Taurus! Sad, but true. Don't get me wrong, it's not to the point that I can't function while obsessing about you in my head because we are multitaskers! 🙂 When someone makes theirselves inside my head and bonds with me emotionally, it's like they have infected me and there's not cure for it! Can you direct me to your story with your Scorpio? I can try to help you. I did see something about she looks at you when you look at her?? Is that right??
Now for your questions...Oh 10000000000000x YES!!! If you've found your way into our brains and our emotional side, we CAN NOT STOP thinking about you. We are OBSESSIVELY thinking about you. All I do is think about my Taurus! Sad, but true. Don't get me wrong, it's not to the point that I can't function while obsessing about you in my head because we are multitaskers! 🙂 When someone makes theirselves inside my head and bonds with me emotionally, it's like they have infected me and there's not cure for it! Can you direct me to your story with your Scorpio? I can try to help you. I did see something about she looks at you when you look at her?? Is that right??
I also want to say this..We will analyze the hell out of things people say and do!! And it's little things not the big things. For example, the very first interaction I had with this Taurus was when he came to my office building to discuss things my team needed for our new office spaces (that's part of his job), I was joking with him and told him I needed a rug for my office. I was being my usual smartass self! lol He was laughing with me but said "Would you like some flowers too?". I just laughed it off but now that I am getting feedback here and learning more about him, I think that was his way of flirting with me and he was probably being half serious although he was kind of laughing.
On "vanilla" Taurus sex...
I've heard this said alot about Taurus. Honestly, I can't relate. Probably something to do with having Venus in Gemini and Mars in Leo. I like alot of variety. Torro's comments on sensuality are ON POINT though.
Here's some advice for you. Do the creative work yourself at first. Think of a fantasy that combines your needs for the darker side of things, power/dominance (or whatever) with his need for earthy sensuality and romance and you will have some steamy scenarios. Subtle changes are the key. Take it slowly in a freakier direction with small adaptations. Describe it to him first, in all its sensual detail, so he can wrap his brain around it and even fantasize about it and get aroused & rehearse mentally before trying. Here's a possible scenario...
Tell him you want to lay a black tablecloth out over the kitchen table, and lay on the table with black heels or boots, a sexy black bra, and nothing else. black candles lit, open bottle of red wine on the table for both of you to drink from. Incense burning burning (whatever smells he likes), slow sensual music playing. And you want him to pull up a chair and come to dinner (remember Taurus looooves to eat). Only, as he goes down on you, you want him to wear a collar, with a chain or leash of some sort. That way you can hold it and pull him when you want him to move in closer, higher, lower, etc. Then he can flip you over, etc. etc.
You get the point...Marry your modes of sexuality. Romantic lighting, taste, sound, smell, touch/textures, symbolism of fine dining, neck stimulation (almost like a yoke on an ox), and it'll have a lot of dark powerful/control elements in it for yourself as well....
This is key - even if you want something like this every night, dont' let him know that. He'll feel intimidated. Spend time thinking of this stuff, journal it, and throw a new scenario at him maybe once every few weeks. You'll need to pick up some props anyway, lol....Taurus has great imagination; we just likes the raw act of sex so much we don't usually take the time to apply our creativity to sex. If you keep this up and its always enjoyable for him, he will start to get more involved.
TLS
I've heard this said alot about Taurus. Honestly, I can't relate. Probably something to do with having Venus in Gemini and Mars in Leo. I like alot of variety. Torro's comments on sensuality are ON POINT though.
Here's some advice for you. Do the creative work yourself at first. Think of a fantasy that combines your needs for the darker side of things, power/dominance (or whatever) with his need for earthy sensuality and romance and you will have some steamy scenarios. Subtle changes are the key. Take it slowly in a freakier direction with small adaptations. Describe it to him first, in all its sensual detail, so he can wrap his brain around it and even fantasize about it and get aroused & rehearse mentally before trying. Here's a possible scenario...
Tell him you want to lay a black tablecloth out over the kitchen table, and lay on the table with black heels or boots, a sexy black bra, and nothing else. black candles lit, open bottle of red wine on the table for both of you to drink from. Incense burning burning (whatever smells he likes), slow sensual music playing. And you want him to pull up a chair and come to dinner (remember Taurus looooves to eat). Only, as he goes down on you, you want him to wear a collar, with a chain or leash of some sort. That way you can hold it and pull him when you want him to move in closer, higher, lower, etc. Then he can flip you over, etc. etc.
You get the point...Marry your modes of sexuality. Romantic lighting, taste, sound, smell, touch/textures, symbolism of fine dining, neck stimulation (almost like a yoke on an ox), and it'll have a lot of dark powerful/control elements in it for yourself as well....
This is key - even if you want something like this every night, dont' let him know that. He'll feel intimidated. Spend time thinking of this stuff, journal it, and throw a new scenario at him maybe once every few weeks. You'll need to pick up some props anyway, lol....Taurus has great imagination; we just likes the raw act of sex so much we don't usually take the time to apply our creativity to sex. If you keep this up and its always enjoyable for him, he will start to get more involved.
TLS
Scorpio 72: It's just hard to tell him "Hey, I need more attention. I don't need constant contact but a text each night to say good night would make my day." Scorpios have the constant need to know where we stand with someone because we make damn sure you know where you stand with us all the time.
>>>It is hard for you, but that's exactly what you have to do. You have to communicate your weaknesses and vulnerabilities. And if it doesnt' work the first time, you have to do it again. In hearing you say that, I COMPLETELY undestand where you are coming from, and why you'd need that. Had a girlfriend who was the same. As a taurus I get so immersed in work projects, I can just go to bed, knowing I miss and love a girlfriend, and totally not even think about texting her to let her know that. My energy is spent and I just want to crash like a lazy bull. BUT, that didn't work for her. I had to adapt. He does too. Help him to understand why.....
>>>It is hard for you, but that's exactly what you have to do. You have to communicate your weaknesses and vulnerabilities. And if it doesnt' work the first time, you have to do it again. In hearing you say that, I COMPLETELY undestand where you are coming from, and why you'd need that. Had a girlfriend who was the same. As a taurus I get so immersed in work projects, I can just go to bed, knowing I miss and love a girlfriend, and totally not even think about texting her to let her know that. My energy is spent and I just want to crash like a lazy bull. BUT, that didn't work for her. I had to adapt. He does too. Help him to understand why.....
Scorpio72:No guy has ever made me nervous in my life until this man.
>>>>Hahahah...that is funny. The Scorpio girl at work - I have actually out-stared her a couple times and I know she is a little disoriented by it. I have seen and felt her nervous around me and I can tell she's not used to it. This girl seems to be the most confident woman on earth on any given day. I know its bc she just can't read me as well as other men and she's not used to this kind of courtship. She's used to doing a quick study, finding the weakness (which I'm sure is usually men just lusting so hard she knows she has them), and going in for the kill. I'm hot/cold. She turns the sexiness up too high, and I pull back, etc. Its good though - you powerful scorps need to feel a little weakness sometimes so there is a balance of power. hahaha
>>>>Hahahah...that is funny. The Scorpio girl at work - I have actually out-stared her a couple times and I know she is a little disoriented by it. I have seen and felt her nervous around me and I can tell she's not used to it. This girl seems to be the most confident woman on earth on any given day. I know its bc she just can't read me as well as other men and she's not used to this kind of courtship. She's used to doing a quick study, finding the weakness (which I'm sure is usually men just lusting so hard she knows she has them), and going in for the kill. I'm hot/cold. She turns the sexiness up too high, and I pull back, etc. Its good though - you powerful scorps need to feel a little weakness sometimes so there is a balance of power. hahaha
I just blushed and laughed out loud!!! I'm not THAT freaky with chains, whips and neckcollars! lol But I get the general idea of what you're saying. You have a creative imagination! 🙂 Would it be ok to text him that stuff one evening? Or should I tell him that face to face? So it's my understanding that Taurus's are more in touch with physical aspect and Scorpios are more in touch with the emotional aspect?? I guess I mean "vanilla sex" by we've only done missionary position and he's slow, no hard/fast. I've tried to get on top but he won't let me stay there for more than 3 minutes then he flips me back over and gets back into missionary position. It is it a control thing??
>>>It is hard for you, but that's exactly what you have to do. You have to communicate your weaknesses and vulnerabilities. And if it doesnt' work the first time, you have to do it again. In hearing you say that, I COMPLETELY undestand where you are coming from, and why you'd need that. Had a girlfriend who was the same. As a taurus I get so immersed in work projects, I can just go to bed, knowing I miss and love a girlfriend, and totally not even think about texting her to let her know that. My energy is spent and I just want to crash like a lazy bull. BUT, that didn't work for her. I had to adapt. He does too. Help him to understand why.....
I just don't want to come across as needy. Men don't like needy. Actually, alot of women don't like needy either. I also don't want to push him as well, because you know how stubborn you bulls can be. 🙂 He doesn't have to have a full blown conversation with me every night, just a "Hey, hope you had a good day. Good night." or just a simple "Thinking of you..."
Scorpio72,
On Taurus and Scorpio completing each other, I definitely agree. Though, I think we are opposite more in the sense of Yin & Yang - complementary moreso than opposing. We are enmeshed and there is already a a little bit of one side in the other - moreso than we think.
On Taurus and Scorpio completing each other, I definitely agree. Though, I think we are opposite more in the sense of Yin & Yang - complementary moreso than opposing. We are enmeshed and there is already a a little bit of one side in the other - moreso than we think.
>>>>Hahahah...that is funny. The Scorpio girl at work - I have actually out-stared her a couple times and I know she is a little disoriented by it. I have seen and felt her nervous around me and I can tell she's not used to it. This girl seems to be the most confident woman on earth on any given day. I know its bc she just can't read me as well as other men and she's not used to this kind of courtship. She's used to doing a quick study, finding the weakness (which I'm sure is usually men just lusting so hard she knows she has them), and going in for the kill. I'm hot/cold. She turns the sexiness up too high, and I pull back, etc. Its good though - you powerful scorps need to feel a little weakness sometimes so there is a balance of power. hahaha
Here's an inside secret with Scorpios...we HATE the hot/cold!!! That goes back to what I had said previously. We need to know where you stand all the time and pulling the hot/cold is not good! You're either into us or not. We really do grow extremely tired of it and will eventually give up and move on because we take your hot/cold as you're just not that into us. Believe me, if we are turning our sexiness up high, or messing with our sexiness level at all, then you best be sure that we are EXTREMELY into you and that's our signal to you that we are interested. We can't help that you don't get the hint. lol
Here's an inside secret with Scorpios...we HATE the hot/cold!!! That goes back to what I had said previously. We need to know where you stand all the time and pulling the hot/cold is not good! You're either into us or not. We really do grow extremely tired of it and will eventually give up and move on because we take your hot/cold as you're just not that into us. Believe me, if we are turning our sexiness up high, or messing with our sexiness level at all, then you best be sure that we are EXTREMELY into you and that's our signal to you that we are interested. We can't help that you don't get the hint. lol
On Taurus and Scorpio completing each other, I definitely agree. Though, I think we are opposite more in the sense of Yin & Yang - complementary moreso than opposing. We are enmeshed and there is already a a little bit of one side in the other - moreso than we think.
---I totally agree. I have read that unevolved Taurus's can have undeveloped Scorpio tendencies. It's like we are soul mates or something. I've dated all signs of the zodiac and Taurus is the one that connects so deeply so quick with me. The only sign that I jive with really well of the opposite sex is Capricorns. They are real smartasses but they love us Scorpios cause we can trump there smartass bs anytime! lol
---I totally agree. I have read that unevolved Taurus's can have undeveloped Scorpio tendencies. It's like we are soul mates or something. I've dated all signs of the zodiac and Taurus is the one that connects so deeply so quick with me. The only sign that I jive with really well of the opposite sex is Capricorns. They are real smartasses but they love us Scorpios cause we can trump there smartass bs anytime! lol
Scorpio72: I just blushed and laughed out loud!!! I'm not THAT freaky with chains, whips and neckcollars!
>>>now I'm embarrassed...hahaha. I still think you should try it. LOL.
Scorpio72: Would it be ok to text him that stuff one evening? Or should I tell him that face to face?
>>>Maybe lying in bed talking. Think of your first scenario, and at one point in bed tell him you keep having this fantasy. Make him curious, tease him with it almost....He'll pry....Just take it slow; do not hint AT ALL that sex is too boring with him or anything negative. His ego wont' recover from a blow like that. Make sure it is presented as just a recent craving you've had, not a need that hasn't been met...
Scorpio72:I guess I mean "vanilla sex" by we've only done missionary position and he's slow, no hard/fast.
>>>Be direct. Just yell out "treetrunk me...faster, harder, etc." Don't be shy verbally. Men love it when a girl is assertive about what they want in bed. And I don't know a man who doesn't like a woman who talks kinda dirty to em....
Scorpio72: I've tried to get on top but he won't let me stay there for more than 3 minutes then he flips me back over and gets back into missionary position. It is it a control thing??
>>>Hard to give advice there; this is just so foreign to me. I can't wait to get to the next position...It might be a control thing - tough to say. Key thing to me - great sex is all about communication. Don't be afraid to tell him these things during sex...Since the Scorpio passion will be in full effect, that's the best time to get the point across...tell him you REALLY like it when you're on top...it feels so good, you NEED more of it, etc. If he's a thoughtful lover he's going to want to do whatever pleases you. That's the way I look at it.
>>>now I'm embarrassed...hahaha. I still think you should try it. LOL.
Scorpio72: Would it be ok to text him that stuff one evening? Or should I tell him that face to face?
>>>Maybe lying in bed talking. Think of your first scenario, and at one point in bed tell him you keep having this fantasy. Make him curious, tease him with it almost....He'll pry....Just take it slow; do not hint AT ALL that sex is too boring with him or anything negative. His ego wont' recover from a blow like that. Make sure it is presented as just a recent craving you've had, not a need that hasn't been met...
Scorpio72:I guess I mean "vanilla sex" by we've only done missionary position and he's slow, no hard/fast.
>>>Be direct. Just yell out "treetrunk me...faster, harder, etc." Don't be shy verbally. Men love it when a girl is assertive about what they want in bed. And I don't know a man who doesn't like a woman who talks kinda dirty to em....
Scorpio72: I've tried to get on top but he won't let me stay there for more than 3 minutes then he flips me back over and gets back into missionary position. It is it a control thing??
>>>Hard to give advice there; this is just so foreign to me. I can't wait to get to the next position...It might be a control thing - tough to say. Key thing to me - great sex is all about communication. Don't be afraid to tell him these things during sex...Since the Scorpio passion will be in full effect, that's the best time to get the point across...tell him you REALLY like it when you're on top...it feels so good, you NEED more of it, etc. If he's a thoughtful lover he's going to want to do whatever pleases you. That's the way I look at it.
Scorpio72: Here's an inside secret with Scorpios...we HATE the hot/cold!!! That goes back to what I had said previously. We need to know where you stand all the time and pulling the hot/cold is not good! You're either into us or not. We really do grow extremely tired of it and will eventually give up and move on because we take your hot/cold as you're just not that into us. Believe me, if we are turning our sexiness up high, or messing with our sexiness level at all, then you best be sure that we are EXTREMELY into you and that's our signal to you that we are interested. We can't help that you don't get the hint. lol
>>>Thank you for saying this, and what you said about Scorpios daydreaming (which made my day).
I have done that hot/cold with her so much I am SHOCKED that she isn't completely sick of my s h i t by now, and just giving up. This girl is with someone so that's my real reason for the hot/cold though. I just can't get close to her with her already in a relationship, buuuuut I do get hot again occasionally when she comes in looking amazing and the games spark up all over again.
>>>Thank you for saying this, and what you said about Scorpios daydreaming (which made my day).
I have done that hot/cold with her so much I am SHOCKED that she isn't completely sick of my s h i t by now, and just giving up. This girl is with someone so that's my real reason for the hot/cold though. I just can't get close to her with her already in a relationship, buuuuut I do get hot again occasionally when she comes in looking amazing and the games spark up all over again.
Scorpio72: I totally agree. I have read that unevolved Taurus's can have undeveloped Scorpio tendencies
>>>I can totally see that. One of the deepest things I've read is that the two signs can envy qualities in one another sometimes, and we can serve as a mirror to the other and even imitate each other. I swear we do this. She will use the same dramatic hand gestures I use in a conversation I just had 2 minutes ago - I saw it today (I'm italian and talk with my hands, and NO one at my office does this). It makes sense though; when you are deeply in love or obsessed with someone you love everything about the. It makes sense that you'd emulate them. I see her do this alot. If she sees me laughing and joking, she gets that way. If she sees me focused, with a low brow, she looks at me that way. Part of it is her studying me I think - feeling she should be whatever way *I am* - towards me. I copy her too. She wears a color, I wear it the next day (didnt' even realize it at first). I imitate how she holds her head when she walks; she walks with such confidence and dignity, its admirable.
>>>I can totally see that. One of the deepest things I've read is that the two signs can envy qualities in one another sometimes, and we can serve as a mirror to the other and even imitate each other. I swear we do this. She will use the same dramatic hand gestures I use in a conversation I just had 2 minutes ago - I saw it today (I'm italian and talk with my hands, and NO one at my office does this). It makes sense though; when you are deeply in love or obsessed with someone you love everything about the. It makes sense that you'd emulate them. I see her do this alot. If she sees me laughing and joking, she gets that way. If she sees me focused, with a low brow, she looks at me that way. Part of it is her studying me I think - feeling she should be whatever way *I am* - towards me. I copy her too. She wears a color, I wear it the next day (didnt' even realize it at first). I imitate how she holds her head when she walks; she walks with such confidence and dignity, its admirable.
LOL!!! Don't be embarrassed! I thought it was actually quite cute!
"Just take it slow; do not hint AT ALL that sex is too boring with him or anything negative. His ego wont' recover from a blow like that. Make sure it is presented as just a recent craving you've had, not a need that hasn't been met..."
>>That's what I'm afraid of the most, damaging his ego or pride. I would NEVER do anything intentional to hurt him!!! I will have to think this through as to how to talk to him about it. He's made it clear that he doesn't want to hurt me. For instance, last week we had made out and had sex before he said "I'm not trying to be rude but are we ok with that thing on your lip?" I was actually quite embarrassed. I had a cold sore on the outside edge of my lip but it was almost healed up. But for him to throw in the "I'm not trying to be rude" prior to asking the question, proves he didn't want to hurt my feelings. I also couldn't believe he kissed me knowing that awful thing was on my lip! I know it wasn't contagious, but he didn't. If you kiss someone that has one of those things on their mouth, then that's got to be love! I know I wouldn't risk catching something like that if I didn't absolutely love and adore a man!
"Treetrunk" lmao!!! I actually tried that and he started to for like 30 seconds but then his stubborn arse went right back into his own slow rhythm.
"Just take it slow; do not hint AT ALL that sex is too boring with him or anything negative. His ego wont' recover from a blow like that. Make sure it is presented as just a recent craving you've had, not a need that hasn't been met..."
>>That's what I'm afraid of the most, damaging his ego or pride. I would NEVER do anything intentional to hurt him!!! I will have to think this through as to how to talk to him about it. He's made it clear that he doesn't want to hurt me. For instance, last week we had made out and had sex before he said "I'm not trying to be rude but are we ok with that thing on your lip?" I was actually quite embarrassed. I had a cold sore on the outside edge of my lip but it was almost healed up. But for him to throw in the "I'm not trying to be rude" prior to asking the question, proves he didn't want to hurt my feelings. I also couldn't believe he kissed me knowing that awful thing was on my lip! I know it wasn't contagious, but he didn't. If you kiss someone that has one of those things on their mouth, then that's got to be love! I know I wouldn't risk catching something like that if I didn't absolutely love and adore a man!
"Treetrunk" lmao!!! I actually tried that and he started to for like 30 seconds but then his stubborn arse went right back into his own slow rhythm.
TLS, point me in the direction of your situation and I will read up in a little while and post my advice.
Scorpio72: I just don't want to come across as needy. Men don't like needy. Actually, alot of women don't like needy either. I also don't want to push him as well, because you know how stubborn you bulls can be. He doesn't have to have a full blown conversation with me every night, just a "Hey, hope you had a good day. Good night." or just a simple "Thinking of you..."
>>>>What you are asking is not in any way needy though. Its just a very reasonable/considerate/decent thing that he should do. Its also very easy for him to do. For you its just a matter of communicating exactly what you are saying, and how you are saying it, here. And reiterating if necessary. He'll get it.
>>>>What you are asking is not in any way needy though. Its just a very reasonable/considerate/decent thing that he should do. Its also very easy for him to do. For you its just a matter of communicating exactly what you are saying, and how you are saying it, here. And reiterating if necessary. He'll get it.
Scorpio72 - my whole Scorp/Taurus debacle is laid out in "What Taurus Man thinks of Scorpio Female" thread....Don't waste too much time because honestly this one is not the one. If I'm lucky I'll find a Scorpio woman one day; I have a feeling it will be a while though. This one has a man, and with each passing day I'm more committed to a Sagittarius girl (with a whole lot of Capricorn in her chart toning her down a bit for me).
Re: cold sores. That's love. No joke, my Sag. girl had one on her lip the other night. I wouldn't go near it. Hahahhaha....
Honestly, from the way you are considerate of his feelings, and from the way he sounds so emotionally attached to you already, I really think this could be an amazing thing for you guys.
Re: cold sores. That's love. No joke, my Sag. girl had one on her lip the other night. I wouldn't go near it. Hahahhaha....
Honestly, from the way you are considerate of his feelings, and from the way he sounds so emotionally attached to you already, I really think this could be an amazing thing for you guys.
This is a really informative thread! Thanks for all the feedback @Torro & TLS.
To the OP; maybe this will help you. The bull I'm seeing can be super stubborn (shocker); he told me once that because of some past issues with doing what others told him to do, he automatically will do the opposite of what someone tells him to do or just not do it at all. It's like a knee-jerk reaction. So I pondered this for a while and came up with my own way to get him to do what I want/need.
So instead of saying to him; "I want you to call me more often" or something like that. I sweetly say; "Babe can you do me a favor?" Then I insert whatever it is I need for him to do. Without fail if I word it "Babe can you do me a favor?" He will smile and do it. I don't manipulate him or do it often as I try to only use it for things that are really important to me and I sense that he understands that and that's why he complies. Or like with the text; he already sends texts but when he gets busy they can become stacatto. So I wait until the next good night text and then I reply; "I really like it when you text me good morning and good night, it makes me feel good :-x" From that point on guess what I get...
For me I've found it's about finding a way to communicate your needs to them without making it seem like you are trying to push or control them. I try to pose these things to him in a way where it is technically his choice to do them. It's like the Matrix; subconsciously he needs CHOICE...lol Good luck & I hope this helps
To the OP; maybe this will help you. The bull I'm seeing can be super stubborn (shocker); he told me once that because of some past issues with doing what others told him to do, he automatically will do the opposite of what someone tells him to do or just not do it at all. It's like a knee-jerk reaction. So I pondered this for a while and came up with my own way to get him to do what I want/need.
So instead of saying to him; "I want you to call me more often" or something like that. I sweetly say; "Babe can you do me a favor?" Then I insert whatever it is I need for him to do. Without fail if I word it "Babe can you do me a favor?" He will smile and do it. I don't manipulate him or do it often as I try to only use it for things that are really important to me and I sense that he understands that and that's why he complies. Or like with the text; he already sends texts but when he gets busy they can become stacatto. So I wait until the next good night text and then I reply; "I really like it when you text me good morning and good night, it makes me feel good :-x" From that point on guess what I get...
For me I've found it's about finding a way to communicate your needs to them without making it seem like you are trying to push or control them. I try to pose these things to him in a way where it is technically his choice to do them. It's like the Matrix; subconsciously he needs CHOICE...lol Good luck & I hope this helps
staccato... my bad
Neuro,
I totally agree with you. The things I have asked him to do in the way you are doing, he seems to comply. For the first weeks, he wouldn't text me on Fridays before leaving to go see his kids. But then one night while we were laying in bed having our "bed talks", I said "Can you do me a favor?" He said "Yes" I said "Can you please text me when you're leaving on Fridays so that I know you are on your way there?" He agreed and has done it ever since. I do hate the ignoring of texts. I text him the night before and said that I wished he was with me and that liked when he would hold me. Nothing, nada! He used to text me every night but now he doesn't. I just don't want to put more pressure on him than he already has with work, stressed to the max!! It's even effecting our sexual life. 😢 Just not sure how to deal with it.
I totally agree with you. The things I have asked him to do in the way you are doing, he seems to comply. For the first weeks, he wouldn't text me on Fridays before leaving to go see his kids. But then one night while we were laying in bed having our "bed talks", I said "Can you do me a favor?" He said "Yes" I said "Can you please text me when you're leaving on Fridays so that I know you are on your way there?" He agreed and has done it ever since. I do hate the ignoring of texts. I text him the night before and said that I wished he was with me and that liked when he would hold me. Nothing, nada! He used to text me every night but now he doesn't. I just don't want to put more pressure on him than he already has with work, stressed to the max!! It's even effecting our sexual life. 😢 Just not sure how to deal with it.
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Neuro,
I totally agree with you. The things I have asked him to do in the way you are doing, he seems to comply. For the first weeks, he wouldn't text me on Fridays before leaving to go see his kids. But then one night while we were laying in bed having our "bed talks", I said "Can you do me a favor?" He said "Yes" I said "Can you please text me when you're leaving on Fridays so that I know you are on your way there?" He agreed and has done it ever since. I do hate the ignoring of texts. I text him the night before and said that I wished he was with me and that liked when he would hold me. Nothing, nada! He used to text me every night but now he doesn't. I just don't want to put more pressure on him than he already has with work, stressed to the max!! It's even effecting our sexual life. 😢 Just not sure how to deal with it.
Yea the missed text thing can suck but I've been around my bull enough to realize that he keeps his phone notifications low and when he's working or sleep...forget about it. He won't know he even got a text until the next time he looks at his phone. Once I came to that realization I stop taking his delayed response so personal when I knew one of those 2 things was happening. At this point in our relationship I know that if he sees the text he responds instantaneously if he can and that's good enough for me. I know the stress (apparently ALL bull men) are under I choose not to make this one a big deal. Don't consider it "ignoring" that makes it a negative thing. Realize that at that moment he can't respond but he will when he can and it will go down much easier for you.
Yea my bull is under insane pressure and stress right now and it's affecting the frequency of our sex life as well. But a week or so ago he told me; "he thinks about sex with me ALL the time he just can't be with me as often as he's like" in a dirty convo we were having. This kinda calmed me down because it reassured me that it was work NOT a lack of interest that was affecting our sex life. Being with a stressed bull is actually pretty easy once you calm down and realize that work controls everything and when they're stressed the world stops. Once you stop making the issue a you and him thing you begin to relax focus on yourself, support him when you can and allow him the space to do what he needs to do.
Neuro,
Thank you! Between your posts and the other posters, this has calmed me TREMENDOUSLY!
Thank you! Between your posts and the other posters, this has calmed me TREMENDOUSLY!
Yeah! I'm glad it helped. Good luck and enjoy that bull of yours!
Run like the wind bullseye! Trust me on this one. Don't get involved with a man you work with especiLly if hes already a hot and cold taurus. I was in the same situation but took it to the i timate level a few times. He confessed so much to me on how he felt, really liking me, loving me, wanting to marry me ETC. It's been 4 weeks since hes spoken to me, made any type of eye contact, and has been rather rude. Idk I guess I should of saw it coming 😢 now its hard to go to work
What happened the last time you spoke to him/were with him? I just don't know if I came onto strong or if he's pulling back because he's afraid of falling deeper for me. I think both of us are confused because it's a difficult situation.
Well everything I thought was going great. The next day he sort of pulled back. Then a week went by and he wasn't the same. I left him.alone thinking he just needed space. Its kinda hard when you work with them. But I left conversation minimal. Then after week 2 I asked "Whats up? I get the feeling you want to be friends but are too nice to say it." He told me that there were some things outside work that he had to sort out. then paused and said don't think its you ok? I said ok just take care of yourself. and he said I hope you are too. Then he really pulled away. Talking to everyone else normal but treating me sort of mean and rude
Yesterday he told everyone Hi and walked right past my desk. I wanted to cry. I just don't know why he acted this way afyer being close for over a year. The night we were together he asked how I felt being there with him. He Said he really liked me and wanted me to be his wife a long time ago. As me to marry him etc. He asked me how I felt and I said I loved him. Idk what happened?!? I just don`t want you to feel this hurt 😢
Yesterday he told everyone Hi and walked right past my desk. I wanted to cry. I just don't know why he acted this way afyer being close for over a year. The night we were together he asked how I felt being there with him. He Said he really liked me and wanted me to be his wife a long time ago. As me to marry him etc. He asked me how I felt and I said I loved him. Idk what happened?!? I just don`t want you to feel this hurt 😢
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