Taurus men are simple, yet complicated

In my exp, Taurus men can come across like they like to play mind games, a bit selfish, self absorbed and evasive, but it's also a lil hard to explain b/c they don't ever ask you for anything, and they seem harmless and lovable, plus they always engage, making it seem like they are interested and invested, but here are the things that make me feel and think....everything isn't as it appears.

In the beginning, they like to disarm us —women?? with their shyness and quietness, so they seem really sweet and kind and so this intrigues us, make us feel like WOW, he's soooo different. So he seems harmless, right and the more time you spend with them, they can be so attentive and make you feel like you??re the ONLY woman in the room, so secure. However, as time goes on, you start to notice, they don't share much at all with you, nor do they initiate much contact with you, like before, yet, expect us —the woman?? to be honest, straightforward and answer ALL their questions and if YOU??RE interested now, then you need to pursue him, call him, text him, he always answers and engages, so he shows, he's invested in getting to know you more, yet he also seems like he isn't moving from where he's at, so if you want to see him, you??ll have to go to him.


HOWEVER, If you ask him a DIRECT question, about himself, his past, his answers are vague, i.e. just didn't work out, it was alright, I was focused on other things, but he won't share what those other things were or you get a yes or no answer, no depth to it at all, or if you ask, would you like to hang out later, or go there on Saturday or come over on Sunday, his answers are mostly vague again and non-committed such as: I'm not sure, I don't know, I??ll see, if you ask, well, do you have something else planned, still get the same answer, I'm not sure and if they DO give you a yes, it's always on THEIR time, meaning, if you say, —Hey, I'm going to the beach at noon, but can only stay a few hours?? he??ll say, well I??M going there at 2:00, ok that's fine, right or so you think so, at first anyway, but as more time goes by, you start to notice, that he works you in AROUND his TIME and there doesn't seem to be any real compromise b/c WHY?, you ask. they don't like to be rushed or told what to do or whatever, but this is how THEY see it, doesn't make it a fact, truth be told, at times, you HAVE to compromise, due to circumstances, although, you start to get the

feeling, he could give a flip about YOUR circumstances, he's doing HIM FIRST.

They supposedly only SHOW their feelings, by actions, NOT WORDS meaning by being touchy feely, but what is that suppose to mean??_to us woman. I mean, technically today, at this very minute I can —feel?? like I want to be all touchy feely with someone and tomorrow I won't, does that mean, they??re just horny.

Here's the real kicker??_after he's made you feel, like he's got you..hook, line and sinker, b/c he's so sweet, kind, charming even and along with mysterious and quiet ways, plus he doesn't share much, they magically like to disappear or go days with no contact, yet the whole time you were with them, they made you feel like you??re the only woman in their lives and feel secure and we —women?? can be such suckers, we fall into his trap every time, yet, still feel like we don't know where we stand or what we are to this very evasive man.

They NEVER ask you for ANYTHING, so they seem simple, yet there's so much more going on, under the surface and they won't share to let you know, so how can you connect w/this guy, it seems like, you have to play AT HIS, pace and time, that's a lot of work on the woman side, to end up w/a disappearing act or possibly being told I think I just want to be friends.Has anyone else had this exp or similar? And if so, what's the deal, why so much effort and mind games and really not fully invest?I don't get it.

@ impulsv, are you taking from personal exp?

Man this sounds just like my experience with a Taurus and others that post here for help

Maybe we should RUN!

mae6671,

Impulsv ex husband was a Taurus...lol.

I have taurus man too.. dating. He always asked me..what do I do. I dont ask his whereabouts. lol.

I can't relate with your story. My Taurus man and I had back & forth thing... break up then make up.

All I know is... I am focus to myself. I have less attention to him that caused a lot of break ups.

Our first fight was:

He said: M, you just want to be IN a RELATIONSHIP. I mean you don't need me.
Me: Well, J, I think we have gap age.
Him: Not age.. it's compatibility.
Me: oh ok. so what do you want me to do now?
Him: He hug me tightly... he didn't say anything. It looks like he was more on drama. Failed to get
my full attention.

Kittyknitter,

I guess yes they contradict what they say.. all you have to do is to *record* that in a piece of paper...or to your mobile. lol

I once had an arguments with my taurus man... oops. I allowed him to talk.. once he flipped other side

and it was not what it was... I asked him to stop and I will talk my part saying ... oh really J? Did

you even heard yourself what did you say before? Or it was my mistake I did not get any recording on

that... so that everytime you denied... I just hit the button *play* so you can hear yourself

now. lol... he was mute. We have a good fight. lol.

Impulsv,

aww. ex bf. I thought it was husband hunny. lol.

KK/M143,

My problem with him is, he doesn't want to share his past relationship, this makes me feel as through he's hiding something, for a reason, maybe it's too painful and he can't or maybe he still is in love with her, it's been several yrs they broke up, however, they still talk. i ask questions to understand the dynamics between them bc he wants a kid & I'm thinking, well, why didn't you back then, we are in our 40's & I have 2 kids and can't have anymore, but don't want anymore either. That time has past. The things, he tells me don't add up, to me.

All I know abt his past relationship is they were together for 10 yrs, in there 20's into their 30's, they nvr married or had kids or lived together. I ask questions to fill in gaps, this irriates him and he told me, I like chipping away and THAT will push him away. That both hurt and bothered me.

He always told me he doesn't HAVE to share his past with me, as it's HIS life, which is true, but his delivery was rude and insensitive as well.

So what's really going on?

Posted by mae6671
KK/M143,

My problem with him is, he doesn't want to share his past relationship, this makes me feel as through he's hiding something, for a reason, maybe it's too painful and he can't or maybe he still is in love with her, it's been several yrs they broke up, however, they still talk. i ask questions to understand the dynamics between them bc he wants a kid & I'm thinking, well, why didn't you back then, we are in our 40's & I have 2 kids and can't have anymore, but don't want anymore either. That time has past. The things, he tells me don't add up, to me.

All I know abt his past relationship is they were together for 10 yrs, in there 20's into their 30's, they nvr married or had kids or lived together. I ask questions to fill in gaps, this irriates him and he told me, I like chipping away and THAT will push him away. That both hurt and bothered me.

He always told me he doesn't HAVE to share his past with me, as it's HIS life, which is true, but his delivery was rude and insensitive as well.

So what's really going on?

I could be wrong here but I wouldn't worry ao much about his past. There may be some hurtful memories that he does not want to discuss or he just feels it is not the time OR he just rather not talk about it. And that's ok. Maybe in due timing he will share that with you but don't keep prying to find out. Just focus on you being there now and where you want this relationship to go. Take what I say with a grain of salt but I feel sometimes you have to pick and choose your battles and don't let this one become a battle.

Posted by KittyKnitter
together but i wouldn't have it any other way. taurus is not for the faint of heart or those with no patience. you sort of have to let him come to you in his own time. that doesn't mean you take crap though. do your own thing and taurus will be testing the waters to see if you still think of him and if you miss him. i used to ask taurus if he missed me, while we were chatting, and he would always say"not at the moment" which would tick me off. til one day he finally said, i don't miss you now because we are chatting, see? so i have learned to relax and not worry about whether he says this or that. his feelings show in his actions and when he does talk about his feelings his words do count for something. sure enough i did that favor for taurus but not right away.lol. but not even taurus would say he loved me if he didn't mean it. he has his pride too and he stands behind his word, which is why it's hard to pin him down on something. but don't let him get away with anything, when he is squirming, that is when he is learning how to deal. he might be afraid to connect but he needs to.

Wow, this is extremely helpful for me. Thanks KK. I do understand his fears but I also might need to change my delivery sometimes while he needs to deal with his fears. I've never yelled or screamed or anything like that, I don't curse when I am upset but I will let him know how he has made me feel if it is something that he needs to know. I've brushed a lot of things aside again not wanting to complain about everything but if he pushes me to the ledge, then that's it. Great advive. It's been a week since I have heard from mine but I will keep my life going. This is the most challenging I've ever experienced.

Posted by KittyKnitter
together but i wouldn't have it any other way. taurus is not for the faint of heart or those with no patience. you sort of have to let him come to you in his own time. that doesn't mean you take crap though. do your own thing and taurus will be testing the waters to see if you still think of him and if you miss him. i used to ask taurus if he missed me, while we were chatting, and he would always say"not at the moment" which would tick me off. til one day he finally said, i don't miss you now because we are chatting, see? so i have learned to relax and not worry about whether he says this or that. his feelings show in his actions and when he does talk about his feelings his words do count for something. sure enough i did that favor for taurus but not right away.lol. but not even taurus would say he loved me if he didn't mean it. he has his pride too and he stands behind his word, which is why it's hard to pin him down on something. but don't let him get away with anything, when he is squirming, that is when he is learning how to deal. he might be afraid to connect but he needs to.

Wow, this is extremely helpful for me. Thanks KK. I do understand his fears but I also might need to change my delivery sometimes while he needs to deal with his fears. I've never yelled or screamed or anything like that, I don't curse when I am upset but I will let him know how he has made me feel if it is something that he needs to know. I've brushed a lot of things aside again not wanting to complain about everything but if he pushes me to the ledge, then that's it. Great advive. It's been a week since I have heard from mine but I will keep my life going. This is the most challenging I've ever experienced.

Iamawinelover,

You make some good points, re: pcking and choosing and maybe I AM worrying too much. Just don't want to build or start with habits of secrecy and not sharing, brings doubts which leads to problems, but I'll stay mum about his past, see when or even IF he shares.