The Heartbreaker or The Broken-Hearted?

After reading a few posts about how some bulls leave shards of tortured hearts scattered everywhere, I'm just curious.
To the Taureans out there, do you usually find yourself the heartbreaker or the broken-hearted?

I'm usually always the broken-hearted but that could just be my all consuming cancer moon and relentlessly tolerant taurean trait, so I never get out quick enough which leaves me the one having to pick up the pieces all the treetrunking time.

Your thoughts?

From my exp as a Taurus man, we are either 150% or nothing. The 150% may be misleading to others as we are getting acquainted. A Taurus that is too comfortable is usually bad IMHO. They are not challenged enough.

To the point, I have broken only 1 heart as my love was with an other at the same meeting period.

I have been heartbroken but I have never been the one to get left. If that makes sense. I've always left the other person first but I still have had my heart shattered into a million pieces.

The heart broken. I have ever believed in love though and that is my strength. I get back up and everything is shiny as a new penny once more. I do not let someone elses foibles and so on rule me. I emerge wiser for it. My great hope is to find someone as loony as m'self. Go me. 😄

Posted by TaureanGoddess
I have been heartbroken but I have never been the one to get left. If that makes sense. I've always left the other person first but I still have had my heart shattered into a million pieces.

This summes it up the best for me.

I??ve always left first. In saying that I do give chances for it to be turned around before I leave but if it isn't I'm not afraid to walk. It doesn't mean that this doesn't hurt it just means that if I feel I am not being treated right or the relationship is being taken for granite and things are not getting better but worse then I will leave. My heart just got shattered into a million pieces and I know it will take a long time to get over if ever but even in that I was the one to end it.

It's been both for me. My history seems to be a series of "too little too late." I give and I work and I try until I can't anymore. And so I let go. And I suffer horribly, completely heartbroken. And then when I am picking up the pieces, I have had ex after ex come back, ready to make more of an effort, ready to give what I needed...too little too late. Tragic.

Much like queenofdawn, "I give and I work and I try until I can't anymore. And so I let go. And I suffer horribly, completely heartbroken. And then when I am picking up the pieces, I have had ex after ex come back, ready to make more of an effort, ready to give what I needed...too little too late."
I have also been the heartbreaker too; however, it was never intentional. Unfortunately, I lack VB's positive strides and outlook. It's something I've tried to work on, but to no positive avail. Fortunately, I've only had 3 men really break my heart, but that was 2x's too many. I figure, I needed one of them, as most everybody has had a broken heart 🙂 I could have done without the other two, though.

Posted by queenofdawn
It's been both for me. My history seems to be a series of "too little too late." I give and I work and I try until I can't anymore. And so I let go. And I suffer horribly, completely heartbroken. And then when I am picking up the pieces, I have had ex after ex come back, ready to make more of an effort, ready to give what I needed...too little too late. Tragic.

That's the same with me.......I try to fix it.....stick it out....but sometimes it just gets to much to the point that I feel used and leave the relationship.......I know me, I do my best to stick it out even when I know I should let go, but I feel things so strongly that it clouds my judgement, I give 100% in every relationship, I feel the person that I'm with should do the same, games are not neccessary

Just a quick question in between..
When you say that you give, work and try hard... you do talk to your partner too right?
Ask them to notice what went wrong, fix things, change for the better of the relationship?
Or do you just do this all in your head and are we suppose to 'know' what's wrong.
So you've been upset for a long time, whilst we don't have a clue & then out of the blue you're done.
Please tell me you actively say what's bothering you?

Valid question :-) In my case, yes, I talk. I told my ex husband that I wasn't happy, that we needed to go to counseling. He refused. Until I'd left the state. A year later he followed and said he was ready to go to counseling. But by then I was healing and done.

In my other serious relationship, I talked, he talked, we went around in circles. We both loved deeply but no matter how much we communicated we could somehow never quite understand one another or be quite what the other needed. We had a 4 yr relationship and then 2 yrs of going around in circles as we tried date other people but couldn't really move on. Until finally I decided that my poor heart could no longer handle it. And so with a slightly still broken heart, and him begging me not to destroy us, I forced myself to let go.

This time around I try to be open and communicate early what's bothering me. I notice that when my feelings are hurt (or my ego), I tend to shut down though. I notice because he points it out to me as soon as I get quiet. I've never had someone do that before. I think it helps me communicate my feelings even when I don't to. Which I thiiiink (hope) is a good thing.

Both. I am the broken hearted because when I love, I love fully. As a result, my heart is incredibly fortified to withstand any advances made by men I deem unworthy. Thus, I become the heart breaker.

Neverrrrrrrr. My Pisces Venus shan't allow such a thing.

Unsure. One of the Bulls here shares my birthday ( so also Cusp of Power ) and his Venus is in Gemini. Must have been a lucky twist of fate to have within me my Pisces. 😄

Posted by harry99
All humans should become nuns/monks and have test tube babies. Christian Bale starred in a movie about a future where emotions are outlawed. I think the Aquariuses, Capricorns and Virgos are the rulers and creators of this future or maybe just the writers of the movie lol. I have Aries Venus. I should be more optomistic because of that buuut nah I hate pain more than I like the "possibilty" of finding "true love". Like Uhura said in Star Trek "I'm fine without it." idk I'm not that optimistic maybe it's a Saturn & Pluto in Scorpio thing. Oh well, once burned.

All Cancers would die in this world of no emotions.

Thank you for that. What a lovely compliment. 🙂 LOL Nothing wrong with a go get 'em attitude either. I am thankful for all of my Aries too. It makes me absolutely me.

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Posted by harry99
All humans should become nuns/monks and have test tube babies. Christian Bale starred in a movie about a future where emotions are outlawed. I think the Aquariuses, Capricorns and Virgos are the rulers and creators of this future or maybe just the writers of the movie lol. I have Aries Venus. I should be more optomistic because of that buuut nah I hate pain more than I like the "possibilty" of finding "true love". Like Uhura said in Star Trek "I'm fine without it." idk I'm not that optimistic maybe it's a Saturn & Pluto in Scorpio thing. Oh well, once burned.

All Cancers would die in this world of no emotions.

maybe there will be pills or something to make you not feel in the first place. then, you wouldn't know any better. right?

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That's right the pills. Oh no. I wouldn't take them. I would be with the rebels. LOL

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Posted by venusianbull
Neverrrrrrrr. My Pisces Venus shan't allow such a thing.

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it's still amazing to me that a taurus can actually have venus in pisces. is it because you're a cusp? most of the taureans on the board have venus in aries/taurus/gemini.

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I have a venus in pisces too, I'm curious, is it uncommon?