Things are looking up with my Taurus!! Lessons Learned

I have an update for those who have followed my last thread "Taurus Guy Asked Me If I Love Him....What does this all mean?

For those who haven't here's a quick recap. Long story short...dates a much older Taurus for four months towards the end of 2016. Things appeared to be getting serious but he would increasingly mention how he's too old for me. Then he finally tells me he loves me thru a text. And then adds "that's why I know I'm too old for you". He started to back away i ask him about it and he tells me he's trying to do what's best for me. I take it as he's just not interested so I walk away.

Here's the New part:

After a month of no calls or texts between us, I realize that I really do miss him and that there was a true connection we share. Figuring it'd be a shame for that to go to waste, i put a hook out thereby sending a text that said "hey". He called me 5 mins later and first thing he says is "is that a hey like how are you or a hey! Fuck you?" I tell him it's a friendly hey how are you. So we end up chatting for forty minutes. We make plans to see eachother that weekend. When we see eachother we pick up right where we left off we spent the whole day together and had the best time. He made it really romantic by taking me to a nice restaurant, we go back to his house and share a great bottle of wine he has the music and fireplace going. It's all very romantic. We end up sleeping together. And the next day he sends me a text saying "This was the best Sunday I've had in a really long time. Thank you". We've continued to talk and now speak on the phone daily vs texting. We got together last night and watched movies and again he ordered in fine dining and opened a great bottle of wine. It was all very romantic. We didn't sleep together and he told me he thinks the night was even better because we didn't have sex. This afternoon he texted me saying he had a lovely time with me. He called tonight and wanted to know if I'm free. But I wasn't.

The lessons i think I've learned is that I may have been too quick to judge his intentions and that I may have worked myself up over small things. His concern about my age was bothersome to me but I think if o just give him to to get used to the idea he'll come around.

What do you guys think? He has mentioned the age thing a couple of times. But I usually just ignore that he even said it. Sometimes I'll address it, but make light of it like "we're just enjoying our time together, right?!" Is this an effective strategy with Taurus men who have some sor t of reservation about a relationship with you?

Posted by LolaRed
I have an update for those who have followed my last thread "Taurus Guy Asked Me If I Love Him....What does this all mean?

For those who haven't here's a quick recap. Long story short...dates a much older Taurus for four months towards the end of 2016. Things appeared to be getting serious but he would increasingly mention how he's too old for me. Then he finally tells me he loves me thru a text. And then adds "that's why I know I'm too old for you". He started to back away i ask him about it and he tells me he's trying to do what's best for me. I take it as he's just not interested so I walk away.

Here's the New part:

After a month of no calls or texts between us, I realize that I really do miss him and that there was a true connection we share. Figuring it'd be a shame for that to go to waste, i put a hook out thereby sending a text that said "hey". He called me 5 mins later and first thing he says is "is that a hey like how are you or a hey! Fuck you?" I tell him it's a friendly hey how are you. So we end up chatting for forty minutes. We make plans to see eachother that weekend. When we see eachother we pick up right where we left off we spent the whole day together and had the best time. He made it really romantic by taking me to a nice restaurant, we go back to his house and share a great bottle of wine he has the music and fireplace going. It's all very romantic. We end up sleeping together. And the next day he sends me a text saying "This was the best Sunday I've had in a really long time. Thank you". We've continued to talk and now speak on the phone daily vs texting. We got together last night and watched movies and again he ordered in fine dining and opened a great bottle of wine. It was all very romantic. We didn't sleep together and he told me he thinks the night was even better because we didn't have sex. This afternoon he texted me saying he had a lovely time with me. He called tonight and wanted to know if I'm free. But I wasn't.

The lessons i think I've learned is that I may have been too quick to judge his intentions and that I may have worked myself up over small things. His concern about my age was bothersome to me but I think if o just give him to to get used to the idea he'll come around.

What do you guys think? He has mentioned the age thing a couple of times. But I usually just ignore that he even said it. Sometimes I'll address it, but make light of it like "we're just enjoying our time together, right?!" Is this an effective strategy with Taurus men who have some sor t of reservation about a relationship with you?

He sounds like a really lovely guy. A little like my Taurus fella. He's 45, I'm 37. I think you're getting hung up about the age thing. I don't think he has an issue with age despite what he was saying before but I think he's just concerned if you do and that's how he's bringing it up.

How old are you both?

Age can be a factor just like anything else between two people but it's how you deal with it, where you are in your life, what you're looking for etc that matter too. If you're, for example, 20 and still in education but he's 35 and looking to get married and have kids then it's not a match no matter how much you force it.

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Posted by LolaRed
I have an update for those who have followed my last thread "Taurus Guy Asked Me If I Love Him....What does this all mean?

For those who haven't here's a quick recap. Long story short...dates a much older Taurus for four months towards the end of 2016. Things appeared to be getting serious but he would increasingly mention how he's too old for me. Then he finally tells me he loves me thru a text. And then adds "that's why I know I'm too old for you". He started to back away i ask him about it and he tells me he's trying to do what's best for me. I take it as he's just not interested so I walk away.

Here's the New part:

After a month of no calls or texts between us, I realize that I really do miss him and that there was a true connection we share. Figuring it'd be a shame for that to go to waste, i put a hook out thereby sending a text that said "hey". He called me 5 mins later and first thing he says is "is that a hey like how are you or a hey! Fuck you?" I tell him it's a friendly hey how are you. So we end up chatting for forty minutes. We make plans to see eachother that weekend. When we see eachother we pick up right where we left off we spent the whole day together and had the best time. He made it really romantic by taking me to a nice restaurant, we go back to his house and share a great bottle of wine he has the music and fireplace going. It's all very romantic. We end up sleeping together. And the next day he sends me a text saying "This was the best Sunday I've had in a really long time. Thank you". We've continued to talk and now speak on the phone daily vs texting. We got together last night and watched movies and again he ordered in fine dining and opened a great bottle of wine. It was all very romantic. We didn't sleep together and he told me he thinks the night was even better because we didn't have sex. This afternoon he texted me saying he had a lovely time with me. He called tonight and wanted to know if I'm free. But I wasn't.

The lessons i think I've learned is that I may have been too quick to judge his intentions and that I may have worked myself up over small things. His concern about my age was bothersome to me but I think if o just give him to to get used to the idea he'll come around.

What do you guys think? He has mentioned the age thing a couple of times. But I usually just ignore that he even said it. Sometimes I'll address it, but make light of it like "we're just enjoying our time together, right?!" Is this an effective strategy with Taurus men who have some sor t of reservation about a relationship with you?

He sounds like a really lovely guy. A little like my Taurus fella. He's 45, I'm 37. I think you're getting hung up about the age thing. I don't think he has an issue with age despite what he was saying before but I think he's just concerned if you do and that's how he's bringing it up.

How old are you both?

Age can be a factor just like anything else between two people but it's how you deal with it, where you are in your life, what you're looking for etc that matter too. If you're, for example, 20 and still in education but he's 35 and looking to get married and have kids then it's not a match no matter how much you force it.

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Im 32 he's about twice my age. But we both have two children around the same age and aren't looking to have more kids.

The age difference doesn't bother me at all and I explained that to him. Plus mentioned that all three of my sisters are happily married to older men. When we first met he said "youre not too young for me are you?" In a playful way and I laughed it off and said no. While my friend made a face like I think he is too old. He brought that up last night saying yeah when we met and I asked you that you didn't seem to be bothered by it at all. Then he started saying that I should tell that friend how good the sex is to shut her up about our age difference.

But it's not an issue for me and I feel that I've been verbally clear about that from the beginning. He has a couple of health issues that he's dealing with and so has mentioned before that that is what worries him about us. He thinks it's unfair to be with a woman in et prime rather than someone more "age appropriate" who may come with a set of health concerns of her own. B

I do know that he loves me. I can just tell from his actions and the way he looks at me. When I was at his house thebother night, antthing I asked for he wanted to show me where he stores certain things like his napkins, towels, etc Bc he "wants me to feel at home".

I think if I continue to down play the age issue and not even really acknowledge it when he brings it up will help us move beyond this. Can any tauruses confirm this for me?

I'm not Taurus but avoiding it is not the way to go if you want a healthy relationship. You both need to sit down and talk, be open, honest, and realistic. I'm guessing he's late 50's, approaching 60. That IS a huge age gap. I even raised an eyebrow when I read it! Practicalities do need to factor in such as his health and longevity of life or lack of it. However, on the other side of the coin, you could have the best ten years of your life with this guy. Why miss out on that just because he might peg it before you? My oldest friend is 41 today, his wife of ten years passed away in Jan this year. She was 32. Blood clot, went to the brain, she was gone in three seconds. My mate cherishes those ten years he had with her. He wished he could have had more but he can't do the moral of the story is to ensure you're realistic with each other, and communicate with each other, and just enjoy. See where it takes you. At least with a much older man you don't have to put up with the bullshit that younger guys can have. A gentleman is nice to be with.

Hopefully other Taurus will comment later for you ??

Thanks for your input! I did say that to him early on... people in their 30s and 40s suffer from health scares, cancer/illness, or freak accidents everyday. No ones life is guaranteed! But that's no reason to not pursue a relationship with someone now in the present... and if sometype of illness or accident happens- doesn't mean the relationship has to end. Two people in love will stay in love in sickness and in health.

We like eachother, have a good time together...what's the issue!?

I don't understand why we even need to concentrate on what may happen in 10 years when we've only been seeing eachother for four months. Why not see where the relationship takes us before worrying about those sorts of things?!

Congrats Lola!

Don't overthink it!

Enjoy it!

That sounds beautiful, the get-together. I would just say enjoy it while you can now. And like JohntheBaptist says, don't sleep with him.

I agree with the fixed thing, but I also see some potential in this relationship. Maybe after some time, he will just get to you being in his life.

I like guys who are much older than me too 🙂 Go for it!

Posted by KittyKnitter
i am with a taurus who is 14 years older and has some health issues. i have health issues too and my ex died at an early age. him being a few years older didn't make us any happier so i don't think age has a lot to do with who you love but maybe a lot with how.

he has always talked about being older with health issues. well it's part of who he is but he is more than that. we are realistic. whatever time we have together we will make the most of it. he talked about keeping up with me. he still talks about it but not as much. mainly because i have told him we adjust as we need to. sometimes he has to adjust for my health too and no one is getting any younger. thing is, not to limit yourself because of something you cannot change. my guy and i became great friends when things got rough because he had some issues about how he saw himself, we now have friendship as the basis of our relationship. we are in each other's lives no matter what. the sex is not as often but still as hot and we are more companionable now than we have ever been. but if it ended tomorrow, it would be a mutual decision and we would remain friends. and if he dies before me, i will see it as a beautiful learning and loving experience. i say go for it, you may or may not have a relationship, but if you do, you will take things slow. you don't have to be anywhere at any particular time.love is a journey. also if things don't work out, the respect and regard you have for each other will allow you to still be friends. you can both learn from each other. life is too short not to be happy.

Wow, that is beautiful the way you dealt with this.

I like your last sentence..... life is too short not to be happy.