when to ask a man for commitment?

We only meet three month, we love each other, but he says he is not ready to move in yet : (

Slow down and get to know him. 3 months is not a long time at all. Make sure he is worth your time. We can love anybody but, we can't build a life with everybody. Good luck! 🙂

Commitment and/or actually moving in together? So both exclusive commitment and moving in together...all within 3 months? That would be way too fast and overwhelming for me.
Have a little patience. Unless your biological clock is ticking and you need to get married and preggo asap. Just kidding. Slow it on down.

You answered your own question

He's not ready

The committment nor moving in will ever work unless BOTH of you are ready

Not 1 person being ready while trying to pressure, push or guilt the other into being ready.

Truth is, although rare, some people move in & jump start things very early & go on to have successful and long lasting relationships

BUT they only last when both people were ready and willing

And what satisfaction or victory is in going forward with something that only 1 of you really wants?

Don't take it personal that he's not ready. In fact, the more too good to be true something seems, chances are it is.

Him going slow or perhaps even with the flow is a GOOD thing b/c it means that in the event he does want to take that step with you, it'll be b/c he thought long and hard about it, wants it really bad & is doing so for the right reasons as opposed to doing so b/c of guilt, pressure, or trying to make you happy

Slow down. If it's meant to be, there should be NO rush.

Get your head out of the clouds for a moment & continue getting to know him. Who knows, you might discover while looking at him logically (as opposed to only emotionally) that either he OR the time isn't right for you

You both have way more to lose by rushing than you do by waiting

3 months? Slow down there and enjoy the ride a bit more.
Jikes you're rushing through all the good bits before you get to move in together.
See everything before that point as building the foundations stronger & stronger.

If someone were to ask me after 3 months to move in and be exclusive, I would freak out badly.
Had it after 1 date a few times, what is wrong with people and trying to rush everything?

When the time has come you'll know, you won't need to ask him because he might have offered it himself.
Until then relax and breathe deeply in & out 🙂

Have you ever try'd to hold a handful of water??

Go to the sink and give it a try if you haven't. Just turn on the faucet, lightly cup your hands together and gently let water fill up your cupped hands.

Now, just calmly and gently support the water in your open, cupped hands for a minute.

Now take those cupped hands of water and close your hands around that water. Tighter and tighter. In a attempt to capture and control, keeping any from escaping. Tighten your grasp even more now, your starting to lose some.


Give it a shot. Let me know which method held that water in your hand, or had it slip between your fingers gone forever..


Welcome to the world of Taur dating.. 😉 Best of luck 🙂

Posted by scorchedearth
you're moving way too fast. you're lucky he hasn't dumped you. at three months you don't know each other well enough yet to know if committing in that way is something you'd really want, long term.

i think you're codependent and desperate. i sure as hell would leave you if you tried to force me to move in with you at three months. i can't imagine i'm the only one, either.

other people are trying to be nice to you and soften the blow... but... really... you really are lucky he's still trying with you. that insanity is enough to spook most of us.

i know a good psychologist, do you want to see him? i send my deepest sympathy to you and your family

Posted by Ormas
3 months? Slow down there and enjoy the ride a bit more.
Jikes you're rushing through all the good bits before you get to move in together.
See everything before that point as building the foundations stronger & stronger.

If someone were to ask me after 3 months to move in and be exclusive, I would freak out badly.
Had it after 1 date a few times, what is wrong with people and trying to rush everything?

When the time has come you'll know, you won't need to ask him because he might have offered it himself.
Until then relax and breathe deeply in & out 🙂

Thank you Ormas : )

Posted by TaurGuy

Have you ever try'd to hold a handful of water??

Go to the sink and give it a try if you haven't. Just turn on the faucet, lightly cup your hands together and gently let water fill up your cupped hands.

Now, just calmly and gently support the water in your open, cupped hands for a minute.

Now take those cupped hands of water and close your hands around that water. Tighter and tighter. In a attempt to capture and control, keeping any from escaping. Tighten your grasp even more now, your starting to lose some.


Give it a shot. Let me know which method held that water in your hand, or had it slip between your fingers gone forever..


Welcome to the world of Taur dating.. 😉 Best of luck 🙂

Oh I like you SO much right now 😄
I want to hug you.. hmmm

Posted by TaurGuy

Have you ever try'd to hold a handful of water??

Go to the sink and give it a try if you haven't. Just turn on the faucet, lightly cup your hands together and gently let water fill up your cupped hands.

Now, just calmly and gently support the water in your open, cupped hands for a minute.

Now take those cupped hands of water and close your hands around that water. Tighter and tighter. In a attempt to capture and control, keeping any from escaping. Tighten your grasp even more now, your starting to lose some.


Give it a shot. Let me know which method held that water in your hand, or had it slip between your fingers gone forever..


Welcome to the world of Taur dating.. 😉 Best of luck 🙂

Perfect analogy *claps*

Posted by scorchedearth

Posted by lisa12345

Posted by scorchedearth
you're moving way too fast. you're lucky he hasn't dumped you. at three months you don't know each other well enough yet to know if committing in that way is something you'd really want, long term.

i think you're codependent and desperate. i sure as hell would leave you if you tried to force me to move in with you at three months. i can't imagine i'm the only one, either.

other people are trying to be nice to you and soften the blow... but... really... you really are lucky he's still trying with you. that insanity is enough to spook most of us.

i know a good psychologist, do you want to see him? i send my deepest sympathy to you and your family

it's not my fault you're pathetic. get a grip.

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I do feel sorry for your family because they have to deal with you.

no wonder why you have been dumped...

Posted by lisa12345

Posted by scorchedearth
you're moving way too fast. you're lucky he hasn't dumped you. at three months you don't know each other well enough yet to know if committing in that way is something you'd really want, long term.

i think you're codependent and desperate. i sure as hell would leave you if you tried to force me to move in with you at three months. i can't imagine i'm the only one, either.

other people are trying to be nice to you and soften the blow... but... really... you really are lucky he's still trying with you. that insanity is enough to spook most of us.

i know a good psychologist, do you want to see him? i send my deepest sympathy to you and your family

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3 months and you want him to move in, and you are recommending a psychologist to scorchedearth—? seriously?

And to answer your question - never, he commits to you.

Posted by scorchedearth
lisa, you're delusional. i haven't been dumped by anyone but do keep lashing out.

it's you that's gonna run him off and you'll be the one back here crying to us trying desperately to figure out how to get him back.

three months and you think you should move in? how clingy are you, bitch?

are you annoyed with me? what i said must be true then, good.....hahahahha......

Posted by celticlioness

Posted by lisa12345

Posted by scorchedearth
you're moving way too fast. you're lucky he hasn't dumped you. at three months you don't know each other well enough yet to know if committing in that way is something you'd really want, long term.

i think you're codependent and desperate. i sure as hell would leave you if you tried to force me to move in with you at three months. i can't imagine i'm the only one, either.

other people are trying to be nice to you and soften the blow... but... really... you really are lucky he's still trying with you. that insanity is enough to spook most of us.

i know a good psychologist, do you want to see him? i send my deepest sympathy to you and your family

3 months and you want him to move in, and you are recommending a psychologist to scorchedearth—? seriously?

And to answer your question - never, he commits to you.

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look, how sad life you have got? get a life......