Who is the jackass...

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That posted this topic - "Awww...one of my fav Taurus women" and removed it—

If you haven't deleted your account, I'd like to know who you are so that I can block your ass now for wasting my fuqn time. Trick!

Seriously, this hiding posts, flagging threads and deleting accounts shit is a waste of people's time who bother to take a moment out of their day to engage in your personal bullshit. Thanks for being a blight on e-humanity.

*rant complete*"
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unless there were additional posts, mine was the last one and the above, is not...was not "toxic."

i think it's an amazing book and i HIGHLY recommend it for women of any sign. IF it's the book i remember, the section on taurus was very helpful whenever i was in down over a guy/my job/whatever.

in fact, the excerpts above are helpful just reading them and they're a reminder that i need to allow the anger to flow more...HA! 🙂
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I wasn't refering to anything posted here.... I was addressing why people leave this site. The site in general tends to be toxic. There are people here that like to push people into fights and say nasty things about people. So a lot of people have just gotten fed up and left. I had to stop posting on the politics board because I would get attacked for my opinons and end up getting dragged into the crap that goes on there. I don't let people pick on me so I try to avoid sitautions where I know I'll get into a fight.

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eh...i can see someone of a more sensitive disposition wanting less drama but overall, you're bound to get that on any forum with a healthy number of active members. typically such people are lurkers i think so they're not missed.

but those who post their drama, who get "help" with said drama, but who get embarrassed or whatever for being "exposed" and then delete accounts, that, i don't get. or worse, deleting your account to erase all record of your prior drama only to start a new account moments later...why?

it remind me of those people i used to encounter working in retail establishments who would create a scene because a clerk wouldn't accept their tattered and torn merchandise return. next thing you know, managers are called, heads will role and the classic, "I WILL NEVER SHOP HERE AGAIN!" they always come back 😛 if not to that store, to the one on the other side of town.
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i SERIOUSLY recommend this book. it takes a psychological approach to signs.

what struck me most about it was that whenever i'm feeling down/stuck, if i go to this book it's like i had an hour-long session on someone's couch. it serves as a reminder for me sometimes that i'm my own worst enemy and what's great is, she tells you how to overcome it. if i didn't have it packed away somewhere i'd type out the suggestions for you.

i'm almost positive she has a list of things that you're supposed to do to better yourself whenever you feel stuck. overall, if i remember correctly, it's about being more like scorpio and vice versa.
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yeah, i have so many books but this is the one that i think addressed it directly. i never did get over to the scorpio chapter to read up more on them. the chapters were soooo long and by the time i got to the taurus revelation, i was already on info overload.

in the book, or in one of the books, the author talks about young taurus being like Io (one of the other reasons why i was pissed she deleted her account because i wrote about that too).

the analogy was REALLY good. the story is...
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Io was an Argive princess and the daughter of Inachus, an ancient hero or river god of Argos. She also had the misfortune to be subjected to the lust of Zeus. Zeus, in an attempt to avoid the rage and jealousy of Hera, his wife, transformed Io into a handsome white heifer. Hera, who knew Zeus was up to no good, asked for the heifer as a present. Zeus could not refuse. Hera deposited Io in the safe keeping of Argus, the watchman with a hundred eyes. She was eventually rescued by Hermes, though Hera still dogged her by sending a gadfly to sting her wherever she went. This tale she eventually ended up telling to Prometheus, while he was bound to his rock. Prometheus, though he couldn't provide direct comfort, told her that, though her future would be fraught with hardship and toil, she would, upon reaching Egypt and the Nile, be restored by Zeus and bore him a son, Epaphus. Furthermore, and perhaps more importantly, she is the progenitor, thought removed by many generations, of Hercules, greatest of heroes, to whom Prometheus himself would owe his freedom.

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i couldn't find the original links but that's a good summation of io.

the point of the story is that taurus, in her youth, is attracted to big dawgs. manly men who represent security, power, strength... hera, the elder female, hates chicks like io because she's young and dumb. hera recognizes what io doesn't know her worth and punishes her for it.

io then spends god knows how long suffering the wrath of hera. she wanders around to escape the torment. at some point, hera leaves io alone...in other words, the suffering stops.

once clear of the drama, io learns what she recognizes what she didn't in her youth. she's powerful, she's strong, she's secure. in some versions of the story, io becomes queen of egypt 😉

the author describes it better but the story resonated with me.
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actually, i think i'm opposite. my friends have been consistent. those that fell by the wayside, when they come back, i don't want them anymore. i got used to being without them and i don't want to change back. so that's where we ARE alike...resistance to change.

it's all about security for taurus. the problem with security and taurus is that we keep raising the bar. we never have enough. we're gluttons for it. i could have a million in the bank and i'd still need more because at that level, i'd be afraid of losing it all. the more i have to lose, the more security i need. the more security i get, the more fearful i become which means i need more security. it's a never ending cycle where i need more things.

and the "things" i want aren't exactly bad things. it's a house....a bigger house. furniture...bigger furniture. you know...normal "stuff" that people want but i just want a whole lot of it...and i want it to be purty.

so yeah, it's definitely about being happy with "right now." and being happy with the status quo doesn't mean you don't strive for better. it's just that if you're constantly striving for more/better, you don't relish the good times when you have them. what that means is, we're miserable when we should be happy and when real misery sets in...OH-EMM-GEE! if "that" was bad, and "this" is bad...what's good?

right now i'm at a crossroad too and immeasurably stuck BUT a change is a comin'.

ultimately, i think if you're feeling the same way, ask yourself, what are my constants? what desires/thoughts are a constant refrain? those nagging desires are there for a reason and what stopped me in the past was it would require dramatic change. i'm starting to realize though, that change may give me all the happiness and security i need...until it's time for another change 😉
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Awww twwtf - I understand your need to "break" yourself away. I have been known to be on here when I should be doing something else. Like you, I also have the mind of a writer (when I feel like...*note to self - don't waste that English degree * ) Do what you feel you need to do and if/when you decide to come back the bulls will be here... or some variation of the bulls you knew and enjoyed interacting with 🙂
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but you didn't put down the crack!!!

you're back here under a new name.

you check the website a day later. sure, deleting your account may keep you from posting but reading it? no, the crack is creamy and it's warm...like pudding.

anyhoo, do you. my anger was not AT you it was moreso at the way this site handles account removals. what if i write what will be the gospel according to tubbyscubby in someone else's thread and *poof* just like that, it's gone? that could change the world forever.

in this case, i wanted to share the book and had to start my own thread to actually do it...so i did.
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dabull - what if something that made you happy required that you move into a smaller house and buy a smaller car or worse, use public transportation *gulp*

like, if you wanted to move to a city that was more expensive than you're current. or move abroad. or retire early. what if you could do something amazing but it required extreme sacrifice, would you?

and i think the point is, there's nothing wrong with wanting and striving for bigger. i think that's in our DNA. which is why there's not point in fearing the radical changes i just suggested. you know, and i know, that wherever you are, you're gonna make a way to get what you want. so small studio today, expansive loft tomorrow.

for me, it's about learning to give up something to get something else. in the face of change, i want to bring my big bag of old stuff and combine it with my big bag of new stuff. when the two bags are together, then i'll start tossing things. but if you tell me i have to get rid of my old big bag to get a new big bag...nooooooooooooooo!!!...

how do i know the new big bag is better?

what's actually in that new big bag?

if i make the change to the new, can i change back to the old bag if the new bag sucks?

knowing WHEN to let go is a challenge for me and i only find it hard when someone else makes the decisions for me. like if i meet a guy when i'm not in the mood for a relationship and he says, "i want you to be mine." i say, "ok...that's what i wanted to hear!"

if i worked a 9-5 and my boss offered a promotion in a new city (and i've been dying to move), "ok, that's just what i wanted to hear."

recognizing i have choices and exercising them, that's my mission.
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oh and now that i think about it, i think that was also one of the lessons in the Io story. how many of you taurus gals think you're capable of grand things? i mean, you know in your heart of hearts, from the top of your head to the soles of your feet that you are destined for bigger, better, greater things? you may not know what it means. you may not know what the end result will be, but you know it will be big. it has to be. you feel it...you've always felt it.

if you feel this way then MAYBE that's why the Io story is so important. the reason why she was miserable is because she wanted it easy. she wanted the king who would make her queen instead of recognizing she was a queen all along. she had to suffer through the bullshit to get to a point where she stood on her own two feet, stepped and demanded then commanded the adoration she so richly deserves.

i've always said if fear success. that at times, i unwittingly do things to sabotage a good thing for fear that the good thing will require that i take ownership...that i be out in front and suffer more slings and arrows.

THIS is safe. THIS is comfortable. if i lose THIS, it won't hurt as much as losing THAT.

for me, my next big move excites and scares the poop out of me. i have two choices now whereas before i only had one. i'm starting to realize, the choice that requires me to give up everything is the most uncertain and scary of the two but i know it will be the most fulfilling and rewarding to me. and i know it simply because i know me. i know i will make my dreams come true no matter what and am making my dreams come true no matter what, i'm happiest. when i'm not in this space...in this mindset...not working to make a dream come true...that's when my life sucks...when i suffer most.
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yes, poverty is my worst fear. being in a location with no means to thrive would be death. but i'm looking forward to moving to a location where i will have to walk, ride buses/metro/taxis to get to and fro. the day will come when i will have to buy a car but right now, i want simple. i used to want big but i realize, that was more for my offspring than for me. i'm not pressed about having babies or a man at the moment and i want to maximize my lack of ties ASAP!

i hope to be writing you guys from some cafe in a land far far away. if not there, laid out on a beach sipping rum out of coconuts. overall, i might be not so well off when i get there but that won't last long. as you said, QUALITY! i need to be comfortable and where some people can do with less, where others need more....i can deal with less as long as it's worth more.
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Posted by DaBull_isDaShit
I dread public transportation.



QUADRUPLE that, I abhor public transit in the United States; however, I don't mind the Metro in France, or the public Sky Trains in Vancouver, BC; otherwise, I cringe at public transit. One time I was in New York and they wanted to take the subway. Now, if anybody has read any of my posts over anytime, you will know I am not a crying type of person. Well, I about died and started crying because I have taken the subway in D.C. and NYC before and I swore I would NEVER do that again. I know a lot of people love it, and rely on it, but I would spend every dime I had on taxis or a car service before I would take public transit in those two places. Hell, I'll take the bus in L.A. (which I did during college on numerous occasions) before I would take the subways. Blech!

Posted by DaBull_isDaShit
It's not even necessary for me to have a big house, I would be happy with a nice small studio flat, as long as it is cosy and warm, with the kind of nice interior that I like, then I am happy. I just don't like tacky, to my it's all about the quality and not the quantity, and I am sure a lot of bulls feel me on this one.
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Agreed, agreed, agreed! I'd rather live in a 1000 sq ft, Architectual Digest worthy condo in Santa Monica, or a petit flat in Paris, than some 7500 sq ft monstrosity with 10 bedrooms and 10 bathrooms, pools, tennis courts, etc. I don't care about anything like that, as long as my space is CLEAN and beautiful, it doesn't have to be big (in this case, size doesn't matter, but in general size does 😉) hahahaa. BUT, for those aspire who aspire have a 10k sq ft home with all of that, I am NOT mad at you, and I definitely won't hate, I just don't need it. It's just me, so I don't need a lot of space.

Dabull, you will be just fine girlfriend, I know this, because my gut and heart tell me so. Literally when I decided to start my own business 2 years ago, I left Corporate America (gag & barf), but my life style went from fly, carefree and spending on nice things, to hunkering down and making huge sacrifices, but as the expression goes, "This too shall pass." I've taken a vow of poverty for 3 years, but I damn sure better be ballin' out of control after that, or I'll be pissed! JUST KIDDING 🙂 but, I will make it work by any means ne
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Posted by DaBull_isDaShit
I'm a little buzzin,


Buzz on lady! I'm just glad to see you are a little happier, and not melacholy 😉 We'll be here when you aren't buzzin' too! LOL!

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P.s USC, I know exactly what you mean about making huge sacrifices in the beginning stages of owning your own business, but after that you will be able to enjoy the fruits of your labour, who knows maybe one day you could plan me a trip and join me on some beach and we'd sip on pina coladas, don't forget the beer though, I can't do without my pint lol.
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Yes, yes, and yes. Wherever you want to go...you got it. And chillin' and drinkin' on a beach are sooooo the place to be; especially how antsy I am right now since I don't start traveling until the end of May! But at least it will be a week every month until the end of the year, so I can't complain! Pint, did you say pint! Baby, I drink anything, but I have a soft spot for some whiskey, and I love a Stella Artois and Blue Moon. I don't know what beers you drink, but at least Stella is European 🙂
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a lot of people leave this site because they feel it is "toxic" and I can agree to a point. I really stick around to give advice to people who ask for it and do readings for people.



I can understand 🙂 I see that sometimes, people need help and are emotionally wrought (i know i was), and there are some problems that others can't understand. Like they are so horrible,but an outsider can clearly see what's wrong. But not the person who is swimming in the problem. It sometimes help if someone pulls them out, or at least throw a lifesaver.

Any messageboard can be addicting if they don't get out after awhile.
Or at least detach themselves and come back.
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What I meant was there are people here that just like to pick fights and call people names. I have seen over and over again where someone came here asking for help with a situation and they get called nasty names.... I've been called nasty things myself - stuff that was way out of line - and been told I should leave because this place is toxic [told by friends] and I have a couple times. I never deleted my account, but I've gone away for a while...... But I really try to stick to just giving people advice and readings....when it's possible to stick to those things... But I was just suggesting that could be why TWWTF left, but turns out it isn't.
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Posted by xangelfishx
it's settled down a bit in the last few months.

Yes I do.



That's awesome xangelfishx. I moved recently at the end of last year and have had a LOT of changes in a short period of time (but I always do this, so I'm not complaining). I want to get my cards read. There was this awesome woman who I went to a couple of times from where I moved, and she was amazing, so amazing it was just creepy. I also met a psychic too; she didn't charge people because she said she had a "gift" and it couldn't be taken lightly. She helped the police find people in unsolved crimes. Very interesting. I can really help others, but I can't be objective when dealing with my own stuff sometimes. We all need outside assistance from time to time, imho.
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Posted by xangelfishx
a lot of people leave this site because they feel it is "toxic" and I can agree to a point. I really stick around to give advice to people who ask for it and do readings for people.



I agree that some people can't take the negativity that can be poured out in some situations. I don't mind b/c I do chalk it up to everyone being their own unique selves and we are not going to agree on everything. What a boring world it would be if we were!
I also agree with Tubbys and think it's annoying when people delete their acct and the threads b/c it may still be useful to others and it DOES take time to post to different topics. Why not just leave the profile there in case you do decide to come back? I don't think that would be a big deal but who am I?...lol

@xangelfish--I would love to have a reading done! How neat! I am conversing with a very wise gentleman who is doing my vedic chart for me and did a short palm reading for me but he told me it just touched the surface...lol. We are going out on Friday so maybe he will share more with me then. He is a Capricorn and a very interesting fellow indeed! :-)