i love taurus men. they are warm, loving, sensual, dependable and the whole nine yards. but my question is why my taurus friend is not around? we have expressed a love for each other and i think both of us wants to go further, but then i don't hear from him for a long time like a little under a years time (nine months or less). when we are togther it's bliss and sometimes we just hold each other and stuff, he says he will call me and never do and he says he wants to get himslef togther b4 he can give me all he's got to give. what's up with that. i thought in a relationship you take the good and the bad, the pain and the joy, the laughter and the tears. he wants to handle his problems by himself, eventhough he knows i care and want to help him. He left his shirt at my house and i sleep with it to be close to him. when he comes back it's as if no time has past. he don't understand that it bothers/hurts me. i could be looking for another love while he's gone cause i'm not sure if he really wants this, eventhough he says it. that's a long time to be separated from someone you supposedly care for. he takes care of his child but the boy lives with his mother and they are off and on, off and on. i think that's why he's like that. he goes to be with her i think, but in the same breathe he says that he doesn't love or even like her. they argue most of the time. he has to go through so many changes just to see his son and get him for the weekend or something like that. the mother has two other children that are not his, but her recent son she just had, she told my taurus friend that the baby was his. He wasn't sure so he waited for the baby to be born and took a test. the baby is not his (yeahh) but i'm still upset with him cause he says that he doesn't get involved with her and then he'll say that they got back together and it didn't work out (these are the times when i don't hear from him)so how could she tell him that he's the father and for him not to be sure. that means he has had sex with her again to think the baby could be his. i don't want to be his second choice or stepping stone or someone to get in touch with when things are not going well with him. i think the only reason why he contacted me again after no word for 10 months was because she was pregnant and he ws going to do th e"family thing" with her, but he found out that the baby isn't his, he now contacted me telling me that he had to get himself together. i think i answered my own question. ha ha i think we have answers toour questions but want confirmation or maybe hope that what we feel is not true. i'm still sad over him though. we are good friends and shared a lot of things together. we are sooooo similar til it scares me sometimes. help me any suggestions