Why Lie—?

Met Taurus Guy only a few weeks ago and he's 7 years younger. I had to say that he APPEARED to be all man, all about the business and did not flinch when I told him my age saying he wouldn't have it any other way in his "I MEANT WHAT I SAID VOICE" and "A MATTER OF FACT FACIAL EXPRESSION". Had a first date, went well; he opened up about being in divorce court for over a year and the wife won't show up to court. How he hasn't dated in a long time. Don't have a lot of female friends. Blah Blah Blah! A lot of talking and being an open book. LOL! He demanded, yes DEMANDED, too much of my time in such a short span of 8 days. I tried to slow him down using verbal warnings. He was coming on too strong in 8 Days and I'm the woman of his dreams and I haven't even kissed the guy. Just a hug goodbye.

I take things slooooo and I don't allow people in my space too quick. Which is why I wanted to kick myself for breaking my golden rule, I DO NOT FACEBOOK people unless I know you. Seriously, all my friends are from high school, 3+ years of knowing you or family. Our first meet he asked me to friend him, I saw no harm. He accepted the next day and was all up and thru my page and telling me he was, eerie! I then went to his page didn't stay long, posted something a few days later and the next day I noticed he hid his friends list from me.

I laughed. If I'm the person for you then WTF do you have to hide?? I did my own investigation:
Said he owned a home in a certain city. LIE! No, he's renting.
Said he was in divorce court for over a year. LIE! No, she just tried to serve him 60 days ago.
Said he paid for his car cash. LIE! Family post on Facebook. OOPS!

The first 2 took a little investigation on my part, well the 3rd? Just by chance. I'm still shaking my head. What was that all about as this is the first time a man told me this many straight away lies in my life? I wasn't sure if I liked him and definitely stopped talking to him after I found out he and my ex-husband has the same middle name. I know that's petty...OH WELL!

Sounds like the Bull is a bullshit artist. At starving level. How borish, sorry you went through all that nonsense.

Only for a very short period, 8 days to be exact and no hard feelings. If anything, because I couldn't get over the age difference, I was willing to be just friends. (Being Smitten By A Virgo-UUUGGHHH! WHY? WHY? WHY?)

I was just curious is this typical behavior of a Taurus Guy? I dated one, freshman year in HighSchool - My First Boyfriend! LOL! So I didn't have much to go on. I've read only a little about them recently and read some posts on this forum; never did I get the indication that a character trait is falsifying one's life. Be yourself! Honesty wins my heart over anything!

Sounds like a habitual and chronic liar to me, that could be ANY sign really. I don't really classify that as 'typical Bull behavior' by a long shot.

Maybe he's not a dirty bastard.maybe he felt a little insecure with the age difference,wanted to appear more established.
Not saying lying would be acceptable,but imo it's not much worse than digging into his personal business after 8 days.

Posted by BellatheBull
Maybe he's not a dirty bastard.maybe he felt a little insecure with the age difference,wanted to appear more established.
Not saying lying would be acceptable,but imo it's not much worse than digging into his personal business after 8 days.

I don't think I called him a "dirty bastard". Quite honestly, he was a perfect gentleman. If he was insecure, there's still no excuse for lying. BTW! Divorce and property transfers are public knowledge. Only takes a person with a computer + internet connection + proper spelling. Just call me Columbia!

Yes,I'm aware of the availability...just saying,in a bull's world what you did is of equal value.
And no,there is never an excuse for lying.but,sometimes human's do dumb things,and it backfires on them.
I just wanted to point out that his heart might not have been in the wrong place...his head just might have been up his arse.🙂

Aaaaand,as far as him going all up and thru your page.....we're creepy like that. 😉we want to know you inside and out.
We wanna be all up in ya crevices....😛
But seriously,he was just trying to see who you really are.

Posted by LeoGal4Real

Posted by BellatheBull
Maybe he's not a dirty bastard.maybe he felt a little insecure with the age difference,wanted to appear more established.
Not saying lying would be acceptable,but imo it's not much worse than digging into his personal business after 8 days.

I don't think I called him a "dirty bastard". Quite honestly, he was a perfect gentleman. If he was insecure, there's still no excuse for lying. BTW! Divorce and property transfers are public knowledge. Only takes a person with a computer + internet connection + proper spelling. Just call me Columbia!

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ugh! hate to say it but i agree with her.

how dare you complain about his viewing your FB AND TELLING YOU ABOUT IT, where you on the other hand, being a sneaky asshole, scoured his page in turn and then went a step further and dug up his personal business? did you tell him that you uncovered this information or did you withhold the fact that you're a nosey ass bitch?

his being a liar sucks but you being involved with a MARRIED man is much worse. in the process of a divorce is not divorced so regardless of whether he'd been enduring it for a year or a few months, you knowingly got involved with a married man.

in the end, if he lied, if you would've subsequently got played, who gives a fuck because you'd have gotten exactly what you deserved. your old ass should know better and you didn't need google to tell you that you're a fool.

Didn't have a problem with him looking thru my FaceBook Page, I gave him access and had nothing to hide. But...when you come at me as strong as he had in a span of 8 days. Sorry, RED FLAGS and SIRENS go up for me! Nope, didn't need to tell him that I uncovered what I needed to know...decided to not even bother or be bothered anymore. I get he may have been consumed with what was before him. I didn't even ask about his personal life, he didn't give me a chance. Sorry I look 10 years younger than I really am...

You are entitled to your opinion and I'll even accept being called a NOSEY ARSE BE-YATCH, LOL cause I myself know I can be at times! I do my research when needed, This case fit the need to do my research. Live with it or not? I found out the FACTS I needed to know. Yea Me!

I just simply wanted to know, WHY LIE— Never met anyone to lie so d@mn much so soon.

I know a Cappy that lies. Came from a poor family, and I guess he want's everyone to think he has it all together. I can't stand it. I'd rather have the truth. If I like you it doesn't matter what you have or don't have. I've known him for about 6 years. Still lies. I just roll my eyes when he does it. I don't understand it. LOL

This...

The way I see it, ANY time you deal with a man who is married or who is *in the process of* splitting or divorcing or who is *having trouble at home*, you really can't believe too much of what comes out his mouth because deeper within in him, there's ALOT of other things going on. I think he was just playing games because he's being a bad sport about getting left.

I have to TOTALLY agree with...Which makes me feel sentimental towards anyone that is going thru a divorce, regardless of who's hurting the most/least. It's a process that you either come out stronger or wounded. Odd thing is I am still willing to give him advice on how to handle some of the issues he WILL definitely run into. Just haven't taken the initiative to communicate that just yet.

Posted by VIRGIE
I know a Cappy that lies. Came from a poor family, and I guess he want's everyone to think he has it all together. I can't stand it. I'd rather have the truth. If I like you it doesn't matter what you have or don't have. I've known him for about 6 years. Still lies. I just roll my eyes when he does it. I don't understand it. LOL

YES! I'd rather you be honest above anything. I don't mind about a person not having the material things...just be honest.

It's not that serious to be honest. Ya he lied, but u two aren't even dating. U just gotta move along.
People lie about the dumbest things, even the people who talk about how much they hate liars. Damn hypocrites!